U-Columnist, u-Ella Derzay, ukhombisa ngemfashini kaTetree yemfashini - ukubheka izizathu zezinkinga zakhe ekushishweni kwabazali bazo futhi alinde ukwesaba: Yikuphi, ekukhulumeni okudala, okuyikhona, sizobhekana nezingane zakho?
Imvamisa ngicabanga ngeqiniso lokuthi okuyinhloko, kepha ngifaka ngokuphelele umsebenzi wabazali banamuhla - ukukhulisa izingane zakho hhayi ama-neurotes.
Kungani ungacabangi? Yebo, uzobona nxazonke! Angisho nokuthi sonke sine-neurotic ngokuphelele, futhi abantu abaphilile badinga ukufunwa kusetshenziswa amadivayisi akhethekile. Futhi mayelana nabantu abadala abangaki emhlabeni abasola abazali kukho konke. Othile osesitezi se-pseudopsychological, kanye namagama alula.
- Ngibe nomama obandayo obandayo, ngoba angazi ukuthi ungahlukanisa kanjani lo muzwa ngokukhohlisa futhi ukhathazeke kakhulu.
"Futhi abazali bami banginaka, futhi manje lolu yinto engafinyeleleki kahle, futhi ngenxa yalokho kunzima kimi ukuguqulela nabantu, kubonakala sengathi abunakwenzisa.
- Bengihlala emndenini ongasebenzi, angikholwa ukuthi kwenzeka ngenye indlela, ngakho-ke manje impisi eyodwa.
- Futhi ngangihlala emndenini omuhle, bese ngishada ne-absormer. Bengingazi nje ukuthi kwenzekani. Kepha ngaphuma. Futhi ngenxa yalokho sengiyimpisi enesizungu.
- Umama wami wasithunga udadewabo wengubo, futhi ngangihlala ngifuna amaShayina esitolo.
- Futhi ngaya kuphela nge-chinese junk njenge-incubator.
- Ubaba waphuza, ngoba ngingutshwala.
- Emndenini wami, utshwala babuphelile umthetho, ngoba angizange ngilungiselelwe ithonya lakhe elibhubhisayo kumuntu. Futhi ngenxa yalokho ngingutshwala.
- Umama wathi ngimuhle, kepha ngakhulela ngaqonda: washaywa. Eqinisweni, ngiyi-freak. Ungaphila kanjani nalawa manga asondele kakhulu?
- Umama wathi ngangiyi-freak engelutho, manje sengiyazi ukuthi akunjalo. Kepha izakhiwo zasala!
- Futhi abazali bami baqamba amanga ngakho konke! Ngisho nangoSanta Claus. Futhi ngaba nezitha, abantu bangikhohlisa kalula.
- Omi njalo wafundisa ukukhuluma iqiniso, ngakho-ke futhi kulula ukungikhohlisa, futhi abantu abaningi bangibheka nge-ham.
Ngisho nasezinkinga zethu zocansi, ngabazali kuphela abanecala! Lokhu kungubuqili babo nokuziphatha okungalungile kwenze omunye wethu ngabalandeli abanothando lobulili bomlomo, nabanye abalandeli bezithombe ezingcolile. Nokwesithathu - nasezinsukwini zonke. I-SCOunds!
Cha, angifuni ukusho ukuthi kukho konke lokhu akukho okusanhlamvu okunengqondo. Ngokuvamile kubaluleke kakhulu. Abanye bethu kwakungu-sacchadia isihogo endimeni yabazali. Kepha konke konke kwenzeka ngokuvamile, kodwa-ke, ukufunda izincwadi namabhulogi athandwayo ngokwengqondo, bathola ukuthi yini imbangela yokuhlupheka kwabo. Noma ngubani, ovela emqubeni we-Acre ekhaleni elehlukaniso noma oxoshwe emsebenzini.
Futhi esithombeni esinjalo somhlaba, ulwazi oluyimfihlo luba sobala: abazali nganoma yisiphi isikhathi bazokwehlela izingane zabo.
Akunandaba noma luhlobo luni lohlelo lwemfundo esinamathela kulo. Sizokonakalisa konke. Futhi okungenani, zinikeze i-neurosis encane e-Intexpresseve. Ukuzithemba okuphezulu noma ukwesaba okuncane kubi ukukhulisa izingane zabo manje.
Kuyadabukisa futhi iqiniso lokuthi emehlweni ezingane zethu esezikhulile, thina ikakhulukazi abantu ababi kakhulu. Ngoba abathandi. Nedynidn. Ayinawo. Bahlanjalazwa, bafuna kakhulu. Noma, kunalokho: kwagcwala izikhukhula, kwanikeza kakhulu, izinhlanga, zonakaliswa.
Kungenzeka yini ukuthola ibhalansi? Yebo, abanye bayaphumelela. Kaningi - ngengozi kunokunembeza. Ngoba azikho izindlela zokupheka ezisebenzayo. Kwenzekeni kahle komunye, ngakho-ke uwa ngokusobala komunye, noma ngabe kuzokwenza okufanayo.
Futhi iyini indlela yokuphuma? Yini okudingeka uyenze uma izifanekiso ezifanele zingekho? Nginenketho eyodwa kuphela: yeka ukukhathazeka. Yekani ukukhula nge-neurosis eyodwa, sinabo abaningi babonga kubazali babo. Nethezeka. Zama ukungacabangi ukuthi sizomkhafulela kanjani impilo ezinganeni, kodwa vele zama ukuphila iminyaka yakhe yokuqala nabo, okwenza kube lula ukuba kube mnandi kubo bonke ababambe iqhaza kwinqubo. Ukulahla umqondo wokuba necala nokusolwa - kanye naye, futhi kubhekiswe kubazali babo. Lapho nje sonke silingana ne-Okosyachim, okungenani, yenze ngenjabulo. Ngeke esabe ukungathandi noma ukunqamula, sigqugquzele ukufakwa okukhethekile, sigcizelele embuzweni wakho futhi sizame ngisho nokuthenga ama-sneaker ngokweqile noma umfo wakho ku-iPhone entsha.
Futhi ake sikholwe ukuthi konke kuzolunga.