Ikhathuni efundisayo ngesibonelo se-sacheant bear, umpofu we-charetelle futhi ungazweli kakhulu kubathandekayo uchaza ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukuzwela, nokuthi kungani owokuqala ebaluleke kakhulu.
Kepha sicabanga ukuthi ngaphandle kokuphawula nokucaciswa, le vidiyo ngeke iphelele.[I-ID ye-YouTube = "0vhqitg3dus"]
Eqinisweni, ekhathuni kungamangalo ngezindlela ezimbili ezihlukile zokungajabuli kusuka ekujabuleni komunye umuntu.
Owokuqala (uzwela) yimodeli engokwengqondo (evame ukungazinzi) isimo somunye umuntu. U-Empatizer uphendukela ukuba abe sesimweni esifanayo nalowo agcizelela. Futhi sixoxa ngokuthi kuyini lapho. Uzwela alusebenzi kahle kakhulu uma udinga ukuyeka ukujabulisa, kepha kubaluleke kakhulu uma umuntu efuna ukumqonda.
Uzwela ngesiRussia aluhambelani nalo nozwela lwesiNgisi - sivame ukusho ukuthi siyamthanda umuntu, hhayi ukuthi simfuna (noma wakhe). Kepha, ngokuvamile, akukho okuphikisana. Ukuzwelana kuqhathaniswa nomuntu onesifiso esithanda ngayo futhi uyazwela, futhi into yokuqala eveze (noma izizwa nje) "yinto ongayithandi ukuthi namuhla ...".
Uzwela lungathanda izithombe zokubonakala futhi ezifunwa futhi zaqala ukuhlangana, futhi ngenxa yalokhu sekulungele ukwabelana ngezinsizakusebenza zalo (ngokwesibonelo, i-sandwich). Kwesinye isikhathi usizo oluthile lomuntu ofuna ukuba siqhubeke sicindezelekile, umdlavuza, izikweletu, izingxabano nomqashi, nokunye, okubaluleke kakhulu kunokuqonda. Futhi kwesinye isikhathi iziphakamiso zihlekisa kakhulu - uma umuntu ekhona ngaphambi kokucela usizo, akazange achithe amandla awo alinganise, nokuthi lapho, kulolu lubi, futhi luni oludinga manje. Mhlawumbe kulokhu lesi sikhathi esiqondayo samaSandwicher futhi abaluleke kakhulu.
Futhi uma ngokuphelele engqondweni, khona-ke kuyadingeka ukuhlanganisa uzwela, nozwela. Kepha, njengaso sonke isikhathi, lapho kudingeka ibhalansi, akulula.
Beka amazwana: U-Aya Mikheev