Ungazikhulisa kanjani izingane ukuze zingabi yizisulu zobudlova ngokuzayo noma umdlwenguli? Ungenzi lokho ukubekezelelana kodlame ezinganeni! Ungenzi lokho abazali abaningi abakwenzayo ngakho-ke ...
Kungani kubalulekile ukuthi abamaka bodlame bakhiwe ezinganeni? Ngoba lapho indodakazi iqala ukuhlangana namadoda, ngeke avele aqaphele ukuthi angesabi naye, ngoba nayo yonke impilo yakhe yaphenduka ngale ndlela! Futhi lapho indodana iqala ukuhlangana nabesifazane, ngeke aqonde ukuthi uziphatha kabi, ngoba akwenzi inhlonipho ngemingcele yomuntu siqu.
Ezinganeni ezinomngcele wazo bezingahlonishwa futhi izintshisakalo zawo azinakwa, amathuba aphezulu kakhulu wokuba nobudlelwano obunobuthi, obungasebenzi ngekusasa elidala.
Sethula ukubuyekezwa kwemikhuba yabazali ephazamisa izingane ukwakha ukuqonda kwalokho okuvunyelwe, nokuthi yini engeyona.
Ukuqubuka
Ingane icasulwe? "Yini ephule yona? Futhi wenzeni, kungani uthisha wafunga? Kungani uthathe umshini wakhe? Futhi bekungadingeki ukukhuluma esifundweni! "Yini eyingozi? Iqiniso lokuthi ingane iyabandakanyeka ekuboneni imbangela yokuziphatha okungafanele kwabanye abantu. Esikhathini esizayo, lokhu kungaholela eqinisweni lokuthi umfazi oshaya umyeni uzokholwa ngokweqiniso ukuthi wasicunula, futhi lo myeni uzokwazi ukuthi "ngebhizinisi" lingashaywa.
Ukuzibophezela kodlame kuhlala kulele nomdlwenguli. Akunasizathu sokuziphatha okungafanele.
"Cabanga okuhlu!"
Yini ingozi? Ngokuzayo, ngokuzayo, ingane izosishaya indiva isimo sengqondo esingafanele.
Kepha ayiphuzi! Kepha hhayi ukushaywa! Kepha uthanda, kepha ngezingane ezidlalayo kanti ama-diaper zizowashintsha, kepha imali iletha, njll.
"Awukuqondi kahle!"
Ingane ithi iyamkhungathekisa, futhi umphendula ngokuthi uyingane yakho oyithandayo, awukwazi ukumcasula. Okwakubonakala kuye.Yini ingozi? Iqiniso lokuthi ingane lithambekele ekucabangeni imizwa yabo, kodwa ukuholwa yimizwa yabanye.
"Yebo, wena, ungumfazi engimthandayo, ngingakushintsha kanjani, ngingakukhohlisa kanjani ?!" - Ngabe ufuna lokhu ngendodakazi yakho ngokuzayo?
Futhi nangeqiniso lokuthi lowo ophike umuzwa wengane, uyakufunda ukuthi ungazethembi. Futhi-ke, lapho indodakazi yeRose iwela esimweni esinzima emndenini wakhe, izothi, "Ungaqapheli kanjani!"
Ingozi futhi ukuthi ingane ngeke ifunde ukuhlonipha imizwa yabathandekayo, yena uqobo uyobaphoqa ukuba bahlupheke.
"Yebo, ngiyakuthanda!"
Inketho: "Lo ngugogo wakho!" Ingane ibuza ukuba imenze ukuba ahambe, hhayi ukwanga, hhayi ukwanga, kepha ezwa: "Ngingubaba wakho, ngiyakuthanda, ngifuna ukukuqabula!" Noma uza ukuvakasha futhi wenze ingane yakhiphe umkhulu wakhe kanye nogogo wakhe ngokumelene nesifiso sakhe.
Yini ingozi yokuphoqelela? Ufuna indodakazi yakho inikezele eneminyaka engu-14 lapho kuvela ezinye izinhlobo zokuguga zizoqala ukukukhuthaza: "Yebo, ngiyakuthanda"? Futhi uzonikela, ngoba impela uYise waziphatha naye. Ngabe ufuna indodana yakho ngo-20 incane kancane ngokudlwengulwa ngoba isetshenziselwa "cha" ukuphendula umzamo wokuqabulwa lutho, futhi akazange ame?
Ilungelo lengane ngokungavikeki emzimbeni lingcwele. Vumela uhambe - kusho ukuyeka. Akusho ukuthi cha. Fundisa igama elithi "Cha". Fundisa ukuyeka ukuphendula "cha".
"Wayengafuni ukukukhubekisa!"
Yini ingozi? Ekuthengeni ubudlova. Eqinisweni lokuthi ingane izokhuluma ngeso elihlanzekile: "Futhi bengingafuni ukucasula!" - bese uqhubeka nokukhubekisa. Eqinisweni lokuthi uma ungafuni ukukucasukela, wabe esecasulwa njengoba bekungafanele."Uyingane nje!"
"Futhi kupapa?"
Ingozi isobala: Ungashaya, igama liyingxabano engcono kakhulu. Kufanele silalele lowo oshayayo. Ukufeza okwakho, udinga ukushaya."Uyakuthanda!"
"Mama, kungani i-vanya ngaso sonke isikhathi inamathela kimi?"
Sicela uzibambe ngolimi futhi ungakhulumi lokhu kubi "ngoba uyakuthanda." Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi lokhu kuyiqiniso? Uyamnamathela kuye ngoba uyayithanda? Mhlawumbe ngoba ufuna ukudlala naye? Cha futhi.
Umfana ucasule intombazane akuyona ngoba uyamthanda! Futhi hhayi ngoba ufuna ukudlala naye! Futhi ngenxa yokuthi akazi ukuthi angakhuluma kanjani ngqo, ufuna ukudlala naye, akazi ukuthi angakuveza kanjani ukuzwelana kwakhe ngokwejwayelekile.
Yini ingozi? Iqiniso lokuthi amantombazane ajwayele ukuthi "ukushaya - kusho ukuthi uyathanda," futhi abafana bajwayela ukuzwela ngokuhlaziswa, kodwa hhayi ngokunakekelwa, inhlonipho namazwi amahle. Okungukuthi, ungahlabelela futhi ucashile, futhi uma uthanda wena, awudingi ukunaka iqiniso lokuthi wena ngokwakho mubi.
"Futhi umtshela ..!"
Uma kunjalo, yeka. Ngemuva kwakho konke, umlingani wengane yakho ebudaleni angakwenza lokhu. Indodana noma ndodakazi yakho ngeke iqonde ukuthi yikuphi ukusebenza okungamukeleki. Futhi kaningi ngokulawulwa kokuxhumana komkakhe / umyeni wakhe, ubudlova bezengqondo buqala emindenini.
"Yini kuwe?"
Uma uvame ukwenza imibono ebalulekile ngokubukeka nezingubo zengane, uzokujwayela kulokho okufanele axoxe ngakho ngokubonakala kwabanye abantu kuyinto ejwayelekile.Futhi ngokuzayo, indodakazi yakho ngeke iqondise ukuthi okhethiweyo wakhe uziphatha kabi, wasola isibalo sakhe ...
Ukuthuthuka ngokweqile
Kukunamathela kuwe ngengane enganeni kuTram? Omunye ulukhuni kuwe esitolo? Uthisha noma isihlobo esidala sikufundisa ukuthi ukhulisa kanjani ingane yakho (ngaphansi kwaso)?
Kepha uveziwe kahle, awufuni ukungqubuzana, wesaba ukuba ngumuntu onobudlova. Futhi ukumamatheka buthule.
Futhi ingane ngemuva kokuthatha ukumamatheka ngenxa yokwephulwa kwemingcele yakhe yangasese, kukhulunywa ngisho nokuwavikela.