Ososayensi baseMelika bakuqinisekisile ukuthi, ngokwesibonelo, ukusola. Ukufakwa kwabazali "wena emhlabeni wawo wonke ama-Mile" akuwona ophilile kunabo bonke emhlabeni futhi usongela ukuphazamiseka kwe-narcissistic kwe-chad yakho eyigugu.
Ngokusho kocwaningo, imiphumela yasungulwa ku-The Round Journal of the US National Academy of Science, izingane zawo zibuyiselwe emuva eminyakeni eyi-7 kuye kwayi-11, kamuva yathola amaphuzu amaningi esikalini se-narcissism. Ngamanye amagama, ukufakwa engcupheni kukhula ama-assholes afanayo, aqiniseka lokho Konke kungenziwa futhi konke kufanele . Umqeqeshi womndeni onelayisense uSarah Hamaker unikeza imithetho engu-7 ezosiza abazali ukuba bakhulise umuzwa ophilile wokuzethemba enganeni, kuyilapho ungakuguquli ube yi-dederot encane.Thanda izingane njengoba zinjalo, ngazo zonke ukushiyeka kwazo
Ubukhulu babantu - i-narcissus ukuthi emphefumulweni bazizwa bemuncane kakhulu futhi belusizi, futhi bebonakala befuna kakhulu futhi bathande kakhulu. Lesi simo singaxwayiswa uma ubona izingane zakho ilungelo lamaphutha nokubi futhi libathande ngazo zonke izinduna zabo kanye nesiqongo sezibalo. Ukushayela izingane, ngaphandle kwesizathu sohlobo lobuhlakani kanye nompetha, abazali bazibeka engcupheni umuntu okhetha ukubonakala, hhayi.Ukudumisa ngqo nangokuqondile
Yini othanda kakhulu: "Umnitsa, ukuhalalisela" noma "nonke nihlele konke, kodwa ngokunambitheka engikwenze, kuzodingeka ukuthi uqhubeke nohlelo lwakho"? Ukudumisa ukhonkolo kubalulekile ngenhla futhi kushukumisela ukuqhubeka emveni efanayo. Izingane ziyefana.Dumisa izingane ngalokho abakwenzile namuhla
Imishwana yohlobo "Uhlala ucocekile" noma "indodakazi yami ayikaze igculise ukungcola" hhayi kangako ukukhuthaza ingane njengoba bebeka kuyo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bakhipha inani lecala elenziwa njengamanje. Kungcono ukuthi: "Wow, wena, konke kuyakhazimula, indlela okwenza ngayo ngokuhlanza ngokuphelele!" Hurray, into yangempela yaqashelwa.Ukudumisa ecaleni, kepha ungaphuthelwa ukudumisa
Eqinisweni, izingane azidingi isinyathelo ngasinye okufanele sihambisane nehlombe. Ukukhushulwa kaningi kakhulu kuphelelwa amandla. Noma, okulungile, ingane ingaqala ukukhipha yonke imiklomelo emisha nentsha. Kepha akunakwenzeka ukushiya izingane nakancane ngaphandle kokuthi "omnandi" - abantu abadala abangahambisani bazokubhubhisa ku-psychoanalyst. Leli iphuzu elinzima kakhulu - landela ibhalansi.Ukudumisa kwento enzima kakhulu
Ngokuvamile abazali baphonsa "Wenze kahle", ngaphandle kokucabanga ukuthi bahlolwe. Kungcono ukubheka izindaba zezingane. Ake sithi, Ungadumisi Ukuhlola ngakunye okuhle hhayi okuphezulu kakhulu, okungukuthi, lapho ingane ibeke khona umzamo owengeziwe.Fundisa Izingane "Umthetho Wegolide"
Umthetho uyaziwa: Ziphathe nabanye abantu ngendlela ofuna baziphathe kahle ngayo. Lo mqondo uzosiza ingane ngeke ikhule kumuntu oqiniseka ukuthi umhlaba ukhala kuye. Sebenzisa lo mthetho ezimweni ezihlukile, hlanganisa indlela yokuziphatha kwabantu kusuka kuleli phuzu lokubukwa.Fundisa izingane ukuzibeka endaweni yabanye abantu
Uzwela, amandla okuzibeka endaweni yomunye, uzizwe ubuhlungu bomunye umuntu, ukudabuka, injabulo - amandla, hhayi ashibhile uDaffidis. Okungcono esingakuchazela izingane ukuthi kunento ethile ebukeka kanjani kusukela ekubukeni kwabanye, kuzoba nzima ngokwengeziwe umuzwa ophakeme wokuphakama kwabantu. Umhlaba waseNtshonalanga uphendukela ukuze afundise hhayi ubunye kuphela bomuntu, kodwa futhi nobuhlobo obuhle emphakathini, okungukuthi, akugcini ngokukholwa yinkanyezi yakhe, kodwa futhi baqonde ukulinganiselwa kwabo. Uma usacabanga ukuthi enganeni udinga ukucindezela "umkhonzo wenkosazana omncane emhlabeni wonke, kungumbono ophelelwe yisikhathi.Ngokusho kwe-Washigton Post.