Ufuna laba bantu abadala noma cha, bayayithanda noma cha, intsha iya ocansini. Futhi awunakwenza lutho ngakho. Kepha ungabafundisa ukuthi bavikelwe futhi bacele imvume yomlingani. Kepha ingabe ubulili obusebasha njalo - ingabe yi-sex? Ingabe izisusa ze-exycent ebulili?
Ake sizame ukuthola lokho, ngaphezu kocansi lwe-Woken, izifiso, isifiso sokujabulela ukwazi amathuba omzimba wakho, ngaphezu kothando nenjabulo ekuxhumaneni nomuntu othize, kubangela ucansi entsheni.
Okulele ebusweni
- Isifiso sokuthola imvume yeqembu lenkomba - abangane, izintombi, isigaba, abaholi. "Unjani? ..." "Futhi mangaki amantombazane?" "Ngiseyintombi nto ?!"- Ilukuluku.
- Vele inkampani. Ini? Wake wenza lutho lwenkampani? Awuzange ugqoke nqunu ebusuku? Awubhemi? Awuphuzi? Awuzange uthole ikhonsathi noma emhlanganweni? Akazange ahleke njengohlanya? Futhi abazenzisi ikakhulukazi, bangaphinde babe nezocansi kule nkampani (ukuqoqa osemusha ephathini yengozi, ake ngivumele amakhondomu enkampani yonke).
Futhi uma ugaya ngokujulile? Yini egxilisa intsha ku- "paws yocansi"?
Ngesifiso sokuthola imvume yabalingani (futhi ungabi yi-odoncation ku-Medium) kuvame ukukhathazeka okuphelele okuvela eminyakeni yobudala.
Yikuphi ukukhathazeka okusetshenziselwa ubusha, kusho udokotela wezengqondo uTatyana Abramova:
"Intsha iyakhula. Bakhula ngokomzimba, ngokomoya. Kulesi sikhathi, ama-hormone "athunyelwa ngamandla abi kakhulu." Umzimba ushintsha, ukunqoba imizwa emisha engajwayelekile, ngifuna okuthile. "Amabhuleki awasebenzi." Lokhu kuhambisana nokukhathala ngokomzimba kanye nokwengeza ngokweqile ngasikhathi sinye. Intsha Elementary ayibhekane nayo.
Kubukeka sengathi sebezizwa bezizwe bezizwe bezizwe bezizwe, kanye nabo baphishekela ukwesaba amaphutha abukhali, ukwesaba ukukhokha izikweletu.
Futhi ngifuna ukwamukelwa, kube "ezingeni", ngifuna ukuba "njengawo wonke umuntu."
Futhi abazali bathathwa njengencane ngasikhathi sinye ...
... Futhi abakulungele ukubanikeza inkululeko enkulu kangaka, kepha bayakudinga, kodwa ngenxa yokwesaba izingane ngaphambi kokulima izingane (futhi zingenamqondo ezimpilweni zabo) zikhulise ukukhathazeka ngazo, noma zithethelele ngokukhathazeka kwazo.
Yebo, abazali bavame ukuvusa izingane izingane kusenesikhathi: Ukwesaba kwabo ngaphambi kokukhulelwa kwasekuqaleni, ngaphambi kwe-HIV, ngokuhluleka kwabo ukukhuluma ngakho, ukugcina imizamo yabo yokugcina ubulili bayo.
Ubulili buvame ukuba yinxa yokukhathazeka. "
Ngakho-ke ucansi lunjani Ukukhathazeka okunciphisa izindlela.
Ucansi njengokuzimisela: "Wonke umuntu utshelwa, kepha anginaso isipiliyoni, njengeminyaka esele isondela, kepha namanje angazi."
Ucansi njengophawu lokudala.
Ucansi njenge-tranquilizer. Sikhuluma ngengxabano ngocansi.
Ubulili njenge-psychostimulator . Inkulumo ngendiza isuka kocansi ngocansi: Omunye uphuza, othile uphuza izidakamizwa, othile wenza ngentshiseko ebuliliweni.
Izocansi kanye nokwenziwa kwe-eronitization yako konke nakho konke kwenza umsebenzi wabo.
Ubulili kanye Nokuphila Kobulili obuhlukile kusiko lamaningi nokukhangisa (okuyisizinda sempilo esemqoka) kufakwa njengekhwalithi ebalulekile yomuntu. Ukuqashelwa kobulili babo kuba isilinganiso sokuvumelana kokuvumelana komuntu siqu, ukuba khona kanye nenani lezocansi - isilinganiso sempumelelo.Isifiso nokulungela ngocansi kulingana nothando. Ubudlelwano nabaphansi obuphambene abuvinjelwe ngaphandle kocansi futhi bakwehlise.
Ucansi luthola ukuqashwa okuzimele. Ngayo yonke imiphumela elandelayo, efana nencazelo, ion.e., Ukulingana nabesifazane namantombazane emzimbeni wabo njengento yocansi, kanye nentsha ekulinganiseni kwabantu kanye "nentsha yezocansi". Yini, iholela ekungakwazi ukwakha ubuhlobo bomuntu siqu futhi ube ebudlelwaneni.
I-Kira Weber, no-Anddagog, umqeqeshi womphakathi, umlamuli wezingxabano:
"Intsha ukuya engcebeni yakuqala idonsela kaningi isifiso sokuxhumana, ubunye, isifiso sokuzithola sikhona kulokhu. Lesi isidingo esiningi ukwanelisa amanethiwekhi omphakathi, futhi kuningi okuningi. Emimweni yengcindezi yengcindezi yezocansi ephelele kanye ne-eroticism, intsha izama ukwanelisa lesi sidingo "hhayi indawo."
Yini engaholela kuyo? Ucansi luyindlela yokuxhumana yokuxhumana (ukunquma udokotela wezengqondo uMikhail Litvaka). Okungukuthi, okuphezulu kakhulu, okuphelele, futhi kusondele kakhulu. Lapho ubulili buba ngesisekelo sokuzethemba futhi selivele lakha ubudlelwano, hhayi esifisweni sokuxhumana kwengqondo, uyayikhipha - esikhundleni sokuxhuma. "
Ukuya ocansini njengomuntu obambele uthando nobungani
Ukomela ukushisa, ukubamba iqhaza - ukusondelana ngokomzwelo - kungagculiseka ngenxa yokusondela kokungokwenyama. Futhi sikhuluma ngengane ekhiqizwa isikhashana emndenini, nasezinzweni ezingabonakali ezihambisana nokuhlukaniswa kwentsha yemvelo.
Izinga elibi kakhulu lemizwa yisizungu, lapho osemusha engenabangane abaseduze, "angamsunduza ekwambisweni kocansi ophakamise ukuya ocansini.
Ukungakwazi ukuba ngabangane futhi ngokuvamile ukuxhumana nenkimbinkimbi enobulili obuphakelayo kungenza futhi ubulili bubale esikhundleni.
Ukungakwazi ukuba ngabangane kuyinkinga ejwayelekile yezingane zanamuhla. Amakilasi amaningi ezingane (konke ngenxa yentuthuko kanye nemfundo enhle), ukuntuleka kokuzilibazisa nokuphila "okuvaliwe" emadolobheni amakhulu kwaholela ekutheni ubudlelwane obujwayelekile buholele phakathi kwezingane.
Iningi lokuxhumana phakathi kwezingane liyenzeka ezifundweni ezijwayelekile ukuze zisetshenziswe, futhi hhayi ngokususelwa ku-Syworcur nentshisekelo noma nje ekusondelaneni okujwayelekile (lapho izingane ziseduze kweminyaka eminingi (lapho izingane ziseduze kweminyaka eminingi).
Lapho izingane zikhula, kuvela ukuthi intombazane iyadingeka, nokuthi yini okufanele yenziwe naye, umfana akazi ngempela ...
Izici ze-Socialization
Ngasikhathi sinye, umfana omaphakathi wafundiswa ukuthi kufanele afinyelele, afinyelele, awine. Ukuxabana njalo, impi, impi ingenye yezisekelo zobudlelwano besibele. Ucansi lwabafana futhi luyimpi yempi, inkundla yokufeza.Isazi sezengqondo uHarry Colman:
"Abafana bafuna ubudoda babo ngomzimba, futhi kusukela ngobuso emphakathini wethu, ngakho konke kwehlela ezenzweni zocansi noma okusondele, futhi-ke - hhayi umuntu."
Amantombazane asabekelwa kaningi ukuba abekezele, anomusa, ahambisana. Kuze kube manje, amantombazane amaningi ayakhula awazitholi ngokwawo, nakwamadoda, ukuba khona kwendoda empilweni kunquma ukungaguquguquki kwezenhlalo kowesifazane.
Futhi intombazane ukuthola ukuqashelwa kubafana, ephansi ... noma nje ayikwazi ukumelana nengcindezi. "
Isazi sezengqondo Tatyana Abramova:
"Ngisho nokucabanga kwabesilisa kwesinye isikhathi kwenzeka kube yisambulo sokuphulwa kwemingcele kungodlame. Bamangala, bacabanga ukuthi lokhu kuyinto evamile - ingcindezi eqhubekayo nokushushiswa. Ngaphezulu kwamantombazane uzodlulisela isidingo sokuvumelana nezinqubo ezithile ze-stereotypes. Ukukhanga kwangaphandle kungamandla amakhulu wokuphromotha nolwazi. Ngeshwa. "
Yini okufanele uyenze ngayo - ngeqiniso lokuthi izingane ziye ucansi?
Lutho. Ingane ikhulile. Ungahambisa kuphela isitoko samakhondomu bese usho ngezingozi. Bese usetha imithetho. Uxolo, xoxa. "Faka" ngentsha ngeke idlule.
Yiziphi lezi zingcupheko?
1. Ingozi yokukhulelwa okungafuneki.
2. Ingozi yokutheleleka ngezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi.
3. Ingozi yokutheleleka nge-HIV.
Isikweletu salezi zingozi singabalingani!
Kanye ne:
1. Ingozi yokudlwengulwa yamantombazane.
2. Ingozi yokudlwengulwa umfana.
3. Ingozi yokuba ngumdlwenguli umfana.
Ukuzibophezela kwalezi zingozi kuhlale kusondela ozoba umdlwenguli!
Imiphi imithetho engaba yimithetho?
1. Amakhondomu, noma ngabe ezinye izindlela zokuvimbela zisetshenziswa.
2. Imvume yezwi. Ukuqonda nokwamukela ukuthi "cha" akunjalo. Nokuthi ukuntuleka kokucacile "yebo" akuyena ". Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi kubafana.
3. Futhi futhi kubafana - ungakhonkotha, unganikeli, "cha" akunjalo.
4. Uma ungafuni, uma kungathandeki, uma wesaba, uma ungayithandi indawo, uma kungenjalo ngesikhathi, yithi cha. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi amantombazane. Uma umfana ecasulwa ngu- "Cha" wakho - awunacala ngemizwa yakhe. Uma esongela ukuyeka "abe abangane" ngemuva kokwenqaba (noma asongele okunye) kungumbala omnyama, futhi i-blackmail ayifanele futhi ayinacala. Futhi kungaphephile.
5. "Cha" kungabhekisa kokubili ngokwejwayelekile ukuya ocansini kanye nodokotela abahlukile.
6. Ngokufanele, ucansi kuphela ngekhanda elixegayo. Umuntu ongaphansi kwesenzo sotshwala usesimweni esishintshile sokwazi, akukho mbuzo wemvume eyazi futhi ebonakalayo ebonakalayo engahamba. Intombazane yaphuza - ungathinti. Ngaphuza ngokwami - yithi cha. Waziphuza - unganamatheli. Intombazane ephuzile izinti - yithi cha.
7. Ubulili obuphansi kuphela kwezimo ezijwayelekile - ngezandla ezihlanzekile kanye nezinhlaka zocansi efulethini elihlanzekile kumashidi ahlanzekile.
Ufuna noma cha, abasebasha baye ocansini. Futhi okuhle kakhulu isimo sakho sengqondo ngalokhu. Kanye nokuvuselelwa okujwayelekile kwesitoko samakhondomu asezingeni eliphakeme esikhwameni noma esikhwameni enganeni futhi kuxoxa ngemithetho ecacile neqondakalayo yokuziphatha kwezocansi okuphephile.
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