Izimpawu zobuntu obugcwele obugcwele obuhlangene obuhlelwe yi-classic ye-psychoanalysis nancy MC Williams yanamuhla.
1. Nikeza uthando
Amandla okubandakanyeka ebudlelwaneni, vula omunye umuntu. Mthande njengoba kunjalo: Ngazo zonke ukushiyeka nezinzuzo. Ngaphandle kokuhleleka nokwehla. Leli yikhono lokupha, ukungathathi.Lokhu kuyasebenza nasekuthandeni kwabazali ngezingane, kanye nothando oluhambelana phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane.
2. Amandla okusebenza
Asigcini nomsebenzi. Lokhu ngokuyinhloko mayelana nekhono lokudala nokwakha okubalulekile kumuntu, umndeni, umphakathi.
Abantu kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi bakwenzani, kunengqondo nencazelo kwabanye. Leli khono lokuletha okuthile okusha emhlabeni, amandla okudala. Imvamisa ngobunzima bentsha obunjalo.
3. Amandla okudlala
Lapha sikhuluma ngomabili "ngomdlalo" ngomqondo ongokoqobo, njengezingane nangamandla abantu abadala ukuba "badlale" ngamazwi, izimpawu. Kuyithuba lokusebenzisa izingathekiso, imizwa, amahlaya, kufanekisela ulwazi lwakho futhi wamukele injabulo kuyo.Izilwane ezisencane zivame ukudlala zisebenzisa ukuxhumana komzimba, okubalulekile ekuthuthukisweni kwazo. Ngasikhathi sinye, uma izilwane zingavunyelwe ukudlala ngolunye usuku, bese kuthi ngokulandelayo bazoyithatha ukuze badlale ngentshiseko ephindwe kabili. Ososayensi baphatha isifaniso nabantu futhi baphetha ngokuthi, mhlawumbe, i-hyperactivity ezinganeni iwumphumela wokungadlali.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, emphakathini wanamuhla kukhona umkhuba ojwayelekile obhekise kulokho esikuyeka ukudlala. Imidlalo yethu kusuka ku- "actin" iphenduka ibe "ukubonwa okukhiphekayo". Sisamdansa kancane, sicula, sihlanganyele kwezemidlalo, ngokwengeziwe nokubuka abanye. Ngiyazibuza ukuthi yikuphi ukwenza okufanele kwenziwa impilo yezengqondo? ..
4. Ubuhlobo obuphephile
Ngeshwa, abantu abavame ukukhanga ku-psychotherapy banodlame, basongela, bancike - ngegama elilodwa, ubudlelwane obungenampilo. UJohn Bowlby uchaze izinhlobo ezintathu zokunamathiselwe: okujwayelekile, ezesabekayo (kunzima ukuthwala isizungu, ngakho-ke umuntu "umuntu" unamathela "entweni ebalulekile) nokugwema enye, kodwa kuhlala kuyi-alamu enkulu ngaphakathi).
Kamuva, kwakhishwa olunye uhlobo lokunamathiselwe - oluhlukaniswe (uhlobo lwe-d): abantu abanalolu hlobo lokunamathisela bavame ukusabela kumuntu ozodla imfudumalo nokwesaba. Lokhu kubonisa abantu abanezinga lomngcele wenhlangano yomuntu siqu, futhi kuvame ukubonwa ngemuva kodlame noma ukwenqatshwa njengomntwana. Abantu abanjalo 'banamathela' entweni yothando futhi ngasikhathi sinye "bayaluma".
Ngeshwa, ukwephulwa kothando kuyinto evame kakhulu. Kepha izindaba ezinhle ukuthi uhlobo lokunamathiselwe lungashintshwa. Njengomthetho, i-psychotherapy ilungele kahle lokhu (kusuka eminyakeni emibili noma ngaphezulu). Kepha kungenzeka ukuthi ushintshe uhlobo lokunamathiselwe kanye nokuba khona kwezinzinzi, ephephile, isikhathi eside (ngaphezu kweminyaka engu-5) nomlingani.
5. ukuzimela
Kubantu abakhanga i-psychotherapy, ukuntuleka kwalo (kepha amandla amakhulu, ngoba bonke bafika ekwelashweni). Abantu awenzi lokho abakufunayo ngempela. Abanaso ngisho nesikhathi 'sokukhetha' (balalele) ukuthi yini okufanele bayifune.Ngasikhathi sinye, ukuzimela okuhle kungashintshwa kwezinye izindawo zokuphila. Isibonelo, iziguli ezihlushwa i-anorexia zivame ukuzama ukulawula okungenani okuthile okubonakala kutholakala kubo, ukukhetha esikhundleni sezifiso zazo - isisindo sazo.
6. Ukuthintana ngokwayo nento
Leli yikhono lokuxhumana nazo zonke izinhlangothi zezakho: kokubili okuhle nokubi, zombili injabulo emnandi nengezona ezisheshayo. Futhi yikhono lokuzwa izingxabano futhi hhayi ukuhlukana.
Ukuxhumana phakathi kwengane ebengiyikho, ngingubani manje, futhi umuntu engizoba yiminyaka eyi-10. Amandla okubheka futhi ahlanganise konke okunikezwa ngokwemvelo nokuthi yini engikwaziyo ukuthuthukisa ngokwami.
Okunye ukwephulwa kwale nto kungaba "nokuhlaselwa" emzimbeni wayo, lapho kungaziwa ngokungazi njengengxenye yaso. Kuba yinto ehlukile ongayisika noma ukuyilambela.
7. Amandla abuyiselwe ngemuva kwengcindezi
Uma umuntu enamandla anele, lapho kubhekene nengcindezi, akuguli, akusisebenzisi ukuvikela okuqinile okukodwa kuphela ukuphuma. Iyakwazi ukuzivumelanisa nesimo esisha.
8. Ukuzethemba okungokoqobo nokuthembekile
Abantu abaningi abanangqondo futhi ngasikhathi sinye bazihlaziya kanzima kakhulu, babe nokugxeka i-ego enzima ye-ego. Kungenzeka futhi, kunalokho, ukuzethemba okweqile.Abazali badumisa izingane, bafuna ukuba nakho konke okuhle kakhulu, kufaka phakathi izingane "ezingcono kakhulu". Kepha ukudumisa okunjalo okungenangqondo, ukuncishiswa umnyombo wayo wothando nemfudumalo, kugcizelela ezinganeni umuzwa weze. Abakuqondi ukuthi bangobani empeleni, futhi kubonakala kubo ukuthi akekho owaziyo ngempela. Abantu abanjalo bavame ukwenza sengathi bayazifanelekela bona, yize bengayitholi.
9. Uhlelo Lokuqonda Inani
Kubalulekile ukuthi umuntu aqonde izindinganiso zokuziphatha, incazelo yawo, naphezu kokuguquguquka okuhambisana nabo. Ngekhulu le-XIX, bakhuluma "ngokuhlanya okungokuziphatha" - manje lokhu kungukuphazamiseka kobuntu obujwayelekile. Le yinkinga enkulu ehambisana nokungaqondi, enikeza umuntu izinkambiso nezinkambiso nezimiso nezimiso zokuziphatha nezezabelo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ezinye izinto ezivela kulolu hlu zingagcinwa kubantu abanezinkinga ezinjalo.
10. Amandla okususa imizwelo
Ukwenza imizwa - kusho ukukwazi ukuhlala nabo, zizwe, ngenkathi kungenzeki ngaphansi kwethonya labo. Futhi yikhono elifanayo ukuhlala ngokuxhumana nangomumo, kanye nemicabango - okuyingxenye yayo enengqondo.11. Ukuboniswa
Amandla okuhlala e-ego-dyshoton, amandla okuzibheka njengoba ayevela kuwo. Abantu abane-Reflexion bayakwazi ukubona ukuthi yini inkinga yabo, futhi ngenxa yalokho, okufanele bakwenze ngayo ngendlela yokuthi bayixazululeni, ngangokunokwenzeka ngokuzisiza.
12. Ukuchazwa
Ukuba naleli khono, abantu bayaqonda ukuthi abanye babuntu bonke, ngezimpawu zabo, isakhiwo somuntu siqu nengqondo. Abantu abanjalo nabo babona umehluko phakathi kwalokho abazizwa becasukile ngemuva kwamazwi omuntu nalabo ababefuna ukucasuka noma bazizwe bebangelwa yibo uqobo.13. Ukuhlukahluka kwezindlela zokuvikela kanye nokuvumelana nezimo ekusebenziseni kwazo
Nini, kuwo wonke amacala nasezimweni ezahlukahlukene, umuntu unohlobo olulodwa kuphela lokuvikelwa yi-pathology.
14. Ibhalansi Ngaleso sikhathi ngizenzela mina nangemvelo yami
Lokhu kumayelana nekhono lokuba yithina futhi unakekele izintshisekelo zethu, unaka izintshisekelo zomlingani onobudlelwano obukhona.
15. Umuzwa wobuntu
Amandla okuba nokuzizwa uphila. I-Winnikot yabhala ukuthi umuntu angasebenza ngokujwayelekile, kepha kubukeka sengathi aphilima. Ama-Psychiatriatists amaningi wezengqondo kanye nakuma-psychotherapist abhala ngokubuyiselwa kwangaphakathi.16. Ukuthatha Esingakwazi Ukushintsha
Leli khono lokudabukisa futhi ngokweqiniso lidabuke, lidabuke ngenxa yokuthi akunakwenzeka ukuguquka. Ukwemukelwa kokulinganiselwa kwaso nokulila kwalokho esingathanda ukuba nakho, kodwa asinayo.
Yiba Nempilo Yengqondo!