Lapho abantu ababili, izinhliziyo ezimbili ezinothando, zinquma ukuthwala ubuhlobo ne-Uzami Gilimenta, okuqabukela abanye abashadikazi bangacabanga ngempilo yomndeni yesikhathi esizayo. Kubukeka sengathi ubudlelwano obuhle bothando buyohlala phakade. Kepha ngingezele mendelssohn, uhambo lomshado lusondela ekugcineni. Abalingani bafaka i-adventure ejabulisa kakhulu futhi engaqondakali, ebizwa ngokuthi umshado.
Uma ufuna ubuhlobo bakho buhlolwe ngomlilo namanzi, impilo ejwayelekile yansuku zonke, udinga ukulungisa ngemuva, ukuqoqa imininingwane mayelana nalezo zingibe ezikwazi ukubhubhisa umshado wakho noma ukwenza impilo kuyo engabekezeleleki. Ungaphinde uhlole umshado wakho ukuze unamandla. Maye, njengoba ukuzijwayeza, akuyena wonke umuntu ongabhekana nempilo yomndeni. Ake sibhekane namaphutha ajwayelekile.
Iphutha Inombolo 1. Uma ufisa umshado wakho uhlukane, awusoze waxoxa ngempilo yomndeni wakho nge-hahaide yakho.
Kungani uchithe isikhathi uxoxa ngezinkinga ezixakile. Ngemuva kwakho konke, konke kuzoba njengoba uthatha isinqumo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, unokuxhumana okuqinile kwe-telepathic nendoda yakho yesikhathi esizayo, futhi imibono yakho ihlangana ngo-99, 9%.
Ngakho-ke, mhlawumbe ngeke umangale lapho wazisa umyeni omusha ngezinhlelo zakho zokuya emsebenzini, futhi waphendula ukuthi umkakhe kufanele ahlale ekhaya, ahlomise impilo futhi abelethe izingane. Futhi umsebenzi yibhizinisi labesilisa kuphela. Noma ngeke uphathe umbono wokuthi ngemuva komshado kuzodingeka uphile iminyaka eyi-10 kumama wakhe, umkhwekazi wakho othandekayo. Ngemuva kwakho konke, umyeni ukubheka wena umuntu ochwepheshe.
Ngakho-ke, uma ungafuni ukubahlakala nokuhlambalaza okuhlangene, kusukela ochungechungeni oluthi "Hhayi-ke, okungaqondakali lapha," Xoxa ngokucindezela izindaba zasekhaya ngaphambi kwesikhathi, funa ukuyekethisa, ukuze kungabi.
I-ERROR Inombolo 2. Awunaso isibindi esanele sokwenza ingxoxo ngezezimali. Awufuni ukubonakala u-mercantile no-petty ukhethekile.
Mingaki imindeni ifunga nsuku zonke nangehora ngehora ngenxa yemali, ngoba ivele ixazulule lo mbuzo ngokushesha. Nquma ngawe itimu emibili ngokushesha bese ufaka ukuthi ngamunye wethu uzonikezwa malini kwizinhloso ezijwayelekile, kungakanani ongakuchitha kokuzijabulisa nokunye.
Iphutha Inombolo 3. Umlingani wakho akayona umuntu ophelele kunabo bonke, ngakho-ke ngemuva komshado kufanele nje wenze kahle kukho, sekuyisikhathi eside ehleli ekhanda lakho.
Ekujuleni komphefumulo, uzibona uphuthelwe ukuphelela. Amakha kunawe, mhlawumbe, akwenzeki. Mhlawumbe umama wakho kuphela, ngoba ngiphakamise isimangaliso esinjalo. Kepha umyeni wakho usakhula kuwe. Bala wena ukuthi abantu abashintshi futhi baphumule. Indoda ehlehliseyo ayinangqondo, yenza umqondo ukwamukela ngobubi. Yebo, iyahlwitha ephusheni, ingalokothi isonde ishubhu kusuka ezinyo lamazinyo, futhi ayikwazi ukuthola isokisi lesibili ngaphandle kosizo lwakho. Wathandana nalo muntu, woza wamukelwe ngokushiyeka kwawo, gcina izinzwa ezinhlangothini ezimbili.
Ungagxeki, kepha ngobumnene uphakamise. Kwesinye isikhathi ithoni yenkulumo yokuthi umuntu uthuka, evusa ukwenza konke okuphambene nalokho.
Khohlwa igama elithi "amanzi aloliwe." Ubudlelwano bakho nakanjani buzoba ngummese obukhali.
Khohlwa amagama aphethe ihlazo eliqinisekisiwe "wena futhi ..." futhi "awukaze ..."
Mhlawumbe umyeni uzozama ukulungisa okunye okubi. Akuyona yonke into ephelele, kepha izigqoko ezivela ku-paste zizobe sezikhona.
I-ERROR NUMBER 4. Uma ufuna ukuwa nabazali bakho nabanye, bahlala ndawonye. Musa ukuchitha imali nesikhathi sokufuna izindlu ngazinye.
Abaningi bethu, ukuthi yisona ukufihla, bathole izinzuzo eziningi ekuhlale okuhlangene nabazali. Isibonelo, ukonga. Ukukhokha ukusetshenziswa, ukudla. Akunasidingo sokunikeza imali yakho noma umalume womunye umuntu noma umalume. Kungcono ukuya olwandle ukuyothenga amabhuzu amasha noma amanye amagajethi. Khumbula, impilo ehlanganayo nabazali ngokungahlaleki kwabi kukhulisa ubuhlobo bomshado.
Futhi. Ngakho-ke chitha. Funa izinketho ngazinye. Kuyabiza, kude, akuyona imali eyanele? Uma unombuzo ngakho-ke cabanga ukuthi kungani ungenile ku-Alliance, uma wena uhambele ezingeni lezingane ezingakwazi ukuhlinzeka ngezindlu, ngisho nokususwa ekuqaleni.
Iphutha Inombolo 5. Awumthandi umama wakhe futhi ungayifihli. Lo mabeshi oyingozi unamathela kuwe ngaso sonke isikhathi, ecasukile, noma kunjalo, kuyadingeka ukugcizelela.
Isihloko soMkhwenyana wami noMalokina-oniwe sijule kakhulu. Kwanele ukukhumbula ukuthi akudingekile ukubaphoqelela ukuthanda umamezala wami. Ngobuwula bawo madoda asola amakhosikazi nje lapho bengekho uthando ngomama wabo. Hlonipha umkhwekazi kamamezala kuzodingeka. Noma dala ukubonakala kwenhlonipho. Sawubona unobungane, thokozela amaholide. Okungenani kanjalo.
Umthetho weGolide: Ungalokothi uthuke umama womyeni wakho, ungawehli lesi sici. Noma ngabe umyeni wakho uqobo uhlobana uqobo, noma ngabe kukhuthaza lezi zingxoxo ezinjalo, zigcine ezandleni zakho. Isizathu silula. Uzokhumbula lokhu, futhi ngengxabano ethile ikukhumbule ukuze uzizwe unecala. Ungavumeli isikhali esinamandla sixabana, ngoba akuyona yonke imishado ehlolwe amandla lapho kuvela umkhwenyana.
I-ERROR Inombolo 6. Injongo yakho iyaqaliswa. Ushadile. Ungasusa izimonyo, ubeke ezintabeni zakho ozithandayo zokuxebekile bese wenza isigaxa sakho osithandayo ekhanda lakho. Yize kungahambi ndawo.
Umhlaba odumile uthi amadoda "athande amehlo abo" kubonakala sengathi akhanseliwe. Ngeshwa, abesifazane abaningi baphumule kangangokuba bayakukhohlwa leli zwi. Akekho okukubiza nsuku zonke ukugqoka izithende eziphakeme kakhulu futhi kuphoqelele ngokushesha "umbala wokulwa". Kepha kungukungaqondile ukukholelwa ukuthi ukubukeka kwakho kuzohlala kungatholakali. Ngeke ihlale. Bese kuseshwa kwezithombe ezintsha nezithombe ezintsha kuzoqala.
Vele, angaqala khona-ke lapho ulungile. Ukufuna okuvelayo kungavela ekujuleni, intukuthelo, ukuziphindisela. Izizathu zingaba zimatasa ngokuphelele. Kungaba ngephutha ukuze uzisole kukho konke. Kepha kungcono ukuvinjwa, ukuqeda le nto emaphutheni. By the way, amadoda akudingeki aphumule. Ukubheka koshade naye ekusebenzeni okweluliwe kulimaza impilo yomndeni wakho. Qaphela ukubukeka kwayo.
I-ERROR NUMBER 7. Unengane, umcabango wakho udweba isithombe esihle: wondla ingane, wayibeka walala futhi uthule ekwenzeni othandekayo wakho.
Eqinisweni, abaningi abasanda kushada abalindeli ukuthi kuzokwenzekani emndenini wabo ngokufika kwesidalwa esisodwa esincane. Ukukhathala, ukungalali okungapheli, akukho sikhathi samahhala sezinto ezilula. Konke lokhu nakanjani kuzoholela ekucasukeni okuphumelele ngempumelelo. Uyacelwa uqaphele ukuthi unyaka wokuqala wokuphila ngokuqala kwengane emndenini wakho kunzima kakhulu. Ngalesi sikhathi, imindeni eminingi empeleni ilenga ezinweleni. Kwabonakala sengathi isimangaliso esincane kufanele sihlangane wonke umndeni, ngakho wonke umuntu uyabhala, nodokotela uKomarovsky ngokwakhe uthi. Eqinisweni, yonke into ihluke ngokuphelele. Zama ukusinda kulo nyaka wokuqala ngokulahleka okuncane kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho kuzoba lula.
Empilweni yomndeni Kunamatshe amaningi namatshe amatshe angonakalisa umshado, akubhubhise nhlobo. Umshado uyinto enzima kakhulu. Ngeke akuhlole ngaphezu kwesisodwa, lowo ongesabi ukuthatha impi. Hhayi kuphela noshade naye, kodwa nami. Akunasidingo sokushintsha umuntu, kubalulekile ukuze ufunde ukuthi ungazishintsha kanjani. Uma ufuna ukufunda lokhu, umshado wakho ngeke ukwesabe ukugeleza kwamanzi ngaphansi kwamanzi.