Ukhule ngezindaba ngeCinderella, ubuhle obumhlophe beqhwa nobuhle bokulala? Sika impilo yakho uyofuna ubuhlobo obuhle, ukholelwa ukuthi thile thile, yebo ukhona, futhi ucasuke ukuthi ababatholi? Ungazigxeki - le template yagonywa iminyaka eminingi, futhi sakholelwa kukho.
Uma usakholelwa ezinganekwaneni, bheka nxazonke: Bangaki abantu phakathi kwabajwayelene nabo baphila isikhathi eside futhi bajabule? Cishe akusikho okuningi, ngoba izinganekwane zinokufana kancane nempilo yangempela, futhi umzamo wokuhlanganisa eyodwa kuzokwehluleka ukwehluleka.Ukubambelela ezinhlelweni ezinhle kakhulu kungabhubhisa ubuhlobo bakho. Futhi ngendlela efanayo ungaphuthelwa labo bantu ongakha naye ubudlelwano obugcwele, kuphela ngoba abahlangabezani nemibono yakho ngento efanele. Ngeke ubonge kumuntu onawe eduze, njengoba enjengafani nesikhulu esihle.
Izinganekwane ezintathu ezinhle ezikuvimbela ukuthi unothando luqoqwe ngempela kulokhu.
1. Ukusesha ngeNkosana
Iya ngehhashi elimhlophe eliseduze noMnu noma i-Lady Prefection - Ingabe ngempela lokho okufunayo? Ngaphambi kokuphendula u- "Yebo," zibuze ukuthi yini engakusiza ekufezekiseni lokho okufunayo ngempela. Ngabe ufunani ebudlelwaneni? Ngabe ufunani empilweni?
Zibuze ukuthi zinjani wena ubuhlobo obuhle? Hhayi omunye umuntu, okungukuthi kuwe. Mhlawumbe uyakwazisa uthando lwe-adventure kumlingani, noma ufuna nje ukuthi abelane nawe ekhaya? Bheka ukuthi yini oyidingayo ebudlelwaneni, unganaki imibono yabanye abantu, bese uzokuthola okufunayo.
2. Ukusesha ingxenye yesibili
Abaningi bafuna umphefumulo ohlobene, amawele abo angokomoya, ingxenye yabo yesibili. Ukusesha ingxenye yesibili kuhlanganisa umbono wokuthi inhloso yobudlelwano ukuthola umlingani ophelele. Kepha yini inkinga: Uma ufuna umphefumulo onobuhle, umlingani womphefumlo, umuntu okuqondayo kusuka engxenyeni, futhi ungakutholi, uzoqala ukwahlulela wena futhi ucabange ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle kuwe.Kuthiwani uma esikhundleni sokusesha okuhle, uzoqala ukuzibuza imibuzo? Isibonelo, ungase ubuze: "Ukube bengingumuntu, impilo yami ibizoba yini?" Noma: "Ukube benginale ndoda, impilo yami yayingaba njani eminyakeni emi-5, eyi-10 noma engama-20?"
Uma uzibuza le mibuzo, uzoqala ukuqonda ukuthi impilo yakho izoba seduze kwakho okuhle. Manje ungakuqhathanisa nalokho okufunayo ngempela empilweni, futhi uma izithombe zingafani, akunakwenzeka ukuthi kube yisinqumo esihle kakhulu kuwe.
3. I-Mission Reduer
Mhlawumbe awufuni induna ehhashini elimhlophe - uyazi ukuthi ayikho. Kodwa wazama yini ukuthatha indima 'yempilo'? Ngabe umcabango wafika kuwe "lo muntu unobunzima, kubonakala sengathi, angisiza"? Ngokuvamile abantu benza leli phutha lapho becabanga ukuthi bangasiza umuntu ukuba abe ngcono - okungukuthi, ukuba yilowo okufanele abe, ngombono wabo.
Uma uthintana naye ngale ndlela, kuso leso sikhathi kudonswa ngokushesha - ngemuva kwakho konke, angithandi ukulalela njalo isimilo noma ukuqhathanisa nomuntu. Kufanele ulungele ukuba seduze ngqo nomuntu osemhlanganweni, ngaphandle kokuzama ukuzikhumbula ngokunambitha kwakho.
Ukuzibophezela kwezifanekiso ezinhle akukuvumeli ukuthi ubone amathuba aphambi kwakho. Ukukholwa ento engekho ekhona kukuvimbela ekutholeni lokho okufunayo ngempela. Khipha umbono wobudlelwano obuhle, ungalindi kuze kube yilapho inganekwane izokuvakashela bese iqala ukudala okudingayo.