Izindaba zothando lwezithandani zabadala njengezwe, naphezu kokufana kwezimo, akunakwenzeka ukubabuka bodwa futhi ngamehlo afanayo, ukusabalalisa amathiphu afanayo. Ake sizame ukubheka amacala ajwayelekile nokuthi kudingeka kanjani ukuziphatha kahle.
Isimo sokuqala. -Simeme
Kwenzeka ukuthi owesimame ulahlekelwe yikhanda lakhe endodeni, athandane nezindlebe zakhe futhi akaboni (noma akafuni ukubona) ukuthi zonke izithembiso zakhe ngesehlukaniso nonkosikazi wakhe akukho lutho olungaphezu kokuthola umkhohlisi. Lawa macala avame kakhulu, kepha ngokuqinisekile omunye wabafundi kwakuwumbukeli wezigcawu ezinjalo noma kanye kanye endimeni yomhlanganyeli.Indoda ikholisela umuntu wesifazane eqinisweni lokuthi mubi emndenini wokuthi umkakhe akahlanganisi lutho, kodwa uhlala naye ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa futhi engahlukanisi kuphela ngenxa yezingane. Ufuna uthando olukhulu futhi ufuna ngempela ukuhlukana nomkakhe, kepha ngasikhathi sinye kukhona inqwaba yezici eziphazanyiswa yilokhu: Sesezo ukuzala, izingane ezincane ezinzima ukudlulisa ikhefu lomndeni , umfazi uyagula futhi akunakwenzeka ukukhathazeka nakuningi okungenziwa okunye. Kepha lapho nje konke sekuxazululwa, nakanjani uhlukanise futhi ashade nothando lwakhe olukhulu. Futhi lona wesifazane ukholelwa impela amazwi akhe.
Imvamisa, amantombazane athola amaqhinga anjalo, kade aphila ngaphandle kobudlelwano, abakhathele ukuhudula zonke izinkinga kubo futhi bafuna ukuma ngemuva kwendoda enamandla nethembekile. Abesifazane abanjalo bavame ukuncibilikisa endodeni ngokuphelele, ngakho-ke ababuyisikeli sobuhlobo naye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, benza konke ukuba bangabashiyi.
Lesi simo sijwayelekile futhi, njengomthetho, ubudlelwano nomuntu onjalo buhlala iminyaka, futhi akaphumi kumkakhe.
I-Psychologist yezeluleko
Akuwona wonke umuntu wesifazane osesimweni esinjalo uzothola amandla okuphula ubudlelwano. Imvamisa, lokhu kudinga isikhathi esiningi ukudlula isikhathi se-euphoria, uthando futhi sakwazi ukuqwashisa ukuthi iphupho lokuphila ndawonye lizoba iphupho. Kulokhu, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zinikeza izeluleko ezilula kakhulu - ukuze zihlale zifezeka futhi zinganciphisi kumuntu. Lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuthi ubheke lokho, unesisindo samazwi akhe, sikuqhathanise neqiniso futhi ukukuqonda kusengaphambili, ukuxhumana okwenzekayo.
Uma ufuna ukuphuma ebudlelwaneni, kepha akusebenzi nangamabutho futhi unqume, ungakusebenzisa umkhuba we-negativism. Esikhundleni sokubonisa umlingani, khumbula futhi uziphindaphinda njalo zonke izimfanelo zawo ezingezinhle, konke okucasulwa kuwo, izikhathi ezibi kakhulu ezitholakele naye. Ngale ndlela, izinga lokudumisa lizoncipha ngokushesha.
Isimo sesibili. Konke ngesivumelwano
Ngezinhlonipho ezinjalo, abesifazane bavame ukuhlinzekwa, ababheka impilo ngokweqiniso futhi kusenesikhathi baqonde, ngayiphi injongo abayidingayo indoda nokuthi kungani bamdinga. Kulokhu, bobabili bayaqonda ukuthi kungani behlangana ndawonye, ukuze ukwazi ukubiza ubudlelwano ngesivumelwano. Bobabili bobabili bajabulele isikhathi sokuhlangana, akusekho. Lapha abesifazane basesimweni sokuwina ngokwengeziwe, ngoba kungenzeka babe nabalingani abangaphezu koyedwa.Le ntokazi ingahle ibe nemizwa efudumele ngesithandwa sayo, kodwa ngasikhathi sinye igcina ubuqotho bayo. Ngeke abheke ukumkhipha emndenini wakhe, ngeke akhe izingidi zomoya engqikithini yemishado nenjabulo yomndeni, ukuthi uzophonsa umkakhe ahambe aye kuye. Ayidingi.
I-Psychologist yezeluleko
Ezimweni ezinjalo, into kungenzeka ukuthi iguqulwe, ngoba iyahlela bobabili. Abesifazane abanjalo bavame ukumakwa, kuwo bazizwa bengakhululekile, futhi isikhundla senkosikazi kubo siphumelela kakhulu - zithola ukwahlukana okumnandi kusukela ngesimo sabo (izipho ezihlukile, ubulili obunothando, ukuhamba ngezinyawo ezitolo zokudlela kanye ne-bouquets yezimbali), kanye ne Umshado awunikeli leli nani elifanayo.
Ngokusho kochwepheshe bezengqondo, owesifazane kuleli cala usesimweni esinenzuzo enkulu, ngoba akenzi ukukhohlisa futhi, ngenxa yalokho, akazihlushwa ukucindezelwa futhi afutheke ukuthi umuntu akawushiyi umndeni. Azihlobene ngobunzima obunjalo, vele ujabulele inqubo.
Isimo sesithathu. Femme fatheka
Abesifazane abangokweqembu lesithathu bangenandaba nendoda emshadweni osemthethweni noma cha. Bayenga kakhulu baxhumana nabesilisa ukuthi bamane bakwazi ukumelana nezintelezi futhi lapha basekunambekayo, banomfazi noma cha. Ngenxa yalabo bantu, amadoda azalwa kalula namakhosikazi afanayo futhi alungele ukushada nento entsha yokudumiswa. Ukuthola ogibeni lowesifazane obulalayo, indoda ihlupheka, ngoba ishiya umndeni wayo wangaphambili lapho ayephila khona iminyaka eminingi nokuthi kukhona, mhlawumbe kukhona, mhlawumbe kukhona, mhlawumbe kunezingane.I-Psychologist yezeluleko
Ukuphendukela kulesi simo, kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi ubungozi besehlukaniso emadodeni bukhuphuka okuningi. Kepha ngokwenza umnikelo kowesifazane ofanayo, ukuze ahlukanise ukuze avele aphumelele. Nguye ozonquma ukuthi ubudlelwano buphelile nini.
Kunikezwe konke okungenhla, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zincoma abesifazane - uma uthandana nendoda eshadile futhi akukho mandla wokusebenzisa inkanuko, bese ukhetha esinye sezimo bese wenza ngohlelo. Kunoma ikuphi, ungalokothi uvumele indoda ukuthi ikukhohlise, bheka okukhethiwe okukhethiwe okukodwa futhi kusenesikhathi ngangokunokwenzeka, ususe izibuko ezipinki.