Kuzwakala kanjani, namuhla ngekota yezingane ezingaphansi kweminyaka engu-18 bahlala nomzali oyedwa. Ngasikhathi sinye, umbono ongemuhle uvame kakhulu ukuthi izingane ezikhula emindenini engaphelele, esikhathini esizayo aziphumelelanga kangako njengezingane ezihlala emindenini enabazali ababili. Emndenini onjalo, umuntu oyedwa kuphela omdala okhipha njengomzali, umsebenzi ozenzakalelayo uyinkimbinkimbi ngokwengeziwe. Noma kunjalo, kunezeluleko eziningana ezizosiza ukuletha ingane yedwa futhi ungasuki ngengqondo.
1. Ungakunaki ngokunakekela wena
Kuyadingeka ukuziqonda ngokushesha ukuthi udinga ukunakekela kahle izidingo zakho. Kuphela lapho umuntu ezwa ephumula kahle futhi enempilo, angazinakekela ngokuphelele izingane zakhe.Abazali abaningi bavame ukusetha izidingo zezingane zabo kwasekuqaleni, nezabo ezabo ekugcineni, kodwa lokhu kuzoholela eqinisweni lokuthi bayovele bakhathele njalo. Qiniseka ukuthi unikeza isikhathi ukuze uhlale njalo futhi uwusizo, uphumule futhi uhlanganyele okungenani ukushaja kwasekhaya.
2. Hlanganisa imizamo nabanye abazali abangabodwa
Impela wonke umuntu owathola into efanayo ebonakala sengathi uwukuphela komuntu owaziyo ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba ngumzali onesizungu. Kodwa-ke, izibalo zithi kunabanye abantu abaningi abazi kahle ukuthi bayini.
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3. Dala umphakathi
Ngaphezu kokuthola ukwesekwa kwabanye abazali abangabodwa, ungakha nomphakathi ohlanganisa imindeni efanayo. Njengoba besho, kanye nosizi kulula ukubekezelelana. Futhi isihloko esijwayelekile sihlanganisa abantu njengoba kungenzeki.4. Thatha Usizo
Akunasidingo sokuzama ukuba yi-superhero futhi wenze konke ngokwakho. Impela, ubusuku buzoba khona kakhulu abantu (izihlobo, abangane, njll.), Okufuna ngobuqotho ukunakekela isizungu nezingane zakhe, futhi futhi bafuna ukumsiza. Kuwufanele ukubika kubo ukuthi usizo kufanele luvezwe kanjani, noma ngabe kungusizo lwezikhathi ngezikhathi ezithile ngemikhiqizo noma ukuthola ingane esikoleni.
Akukho lutho oluhlazekile ekuceleni usizo futhi lusize usizo kwabathandekayo. Ngasikhathi sinye, oceliwe ngeke athathwe njengobuthakathaka noma angakwazi, kodwa kunalokho azothathwa njengomzali omuhle.
5. Yiba ukunakekelwa kwengane kokudala
Imfundo yengane komunye umzali ngumsebenzi oyinselele ngenxa yezindleko eziphakeme zokuqasha i-nanny, njll. Eqinisweni, kunezinketho ezifinyeleleka kalula, uma ufaka okungenani ubuhlakani obuthile.
Uma ekhaya kunegumbi "elengeziwe", ungahambisa umfundi wakhe ukuze unakekele ingane njalo. Noma ungazama ukuxoxisana nabanye abazali abangabodwa ukubheka izingane nakho. Kukhona enye futhi isisindo esiningi kulokhu - izingane zizokwazi ukudlala nomunye, futhi ukunakekelwa kuzo kuzoba lula.
6. Hlela izimo eziphuthumayo ezivela kusengaphambili
Uma ukhulisa ingane yedwa, kufanele kube nohlelo lwesipele noma amabili uma kwenzeka "okuthile kungahambi kahle." Udinga ukwenza uhlu lwabantu abajwayelekile abangabizwa nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Kunoma ikuphi, uyodinga usizo, futhi kubalulekile ukwazi kusengaphambili ukuthi ungathembela kuye.Kuhle futhi funda kusengaphambili lapho unga-oda khona izinsizakalo eziphuthumayo zeNanny noma ze-Kindergarten. Ukwazi umuntu onganakekela ingane uma kunesimo esiphuthumayo, anganciphisa ukukhathazeka ezimweni ezicindezelayo.
7. Imodi yosuku
Isheduli ibaluleke kakhulu kubantwana abancane, ngoba ulwazi lwalokho okungalindeleka ukubanikeza ukubonakala kokulawulwa. Kubaluleke kakhulu lapho kunomzali oyedwa endlini.
Kuyadingeka ukufaka imodi nethadi lengane ngangokunokwenzeka - isikhathi sokulala (ngaphambi nangemva kwesikole), izindaba zasekhaya, isikhathi sokwamukela ukudla kanye nenqubo yosuku ngempelasonto.
8. Ungaguquguquki
Uma ingane inabagadli abaningana, ngokwesibonelo, omunye umzali, ogogo nomkhulu, umkhulu noma uNanny, udinga ukunichazela ngokucacile indlela oye ngayo esiyalweni ukuze ingane ikhuphuke embhedeni owodwa.Lapho ingane iqonda leyo mithetho ethile "isebenza" nabantu abehlukene, umane nje uzowasebenzisa ezintsheni awo, ezodala izinkinga ezengeziwe ngemingcele, yokuziphatha kanye nesiyalo ngokuzayo.
9. Ukuba nethemba
Izingane zizokwazi ukuthola ngisho nezinguquko ezincane kakhulu ekuziphatheni nasemood yabazali bazo. Ngakho-ke, kuyadingeka ukugxila ezikhathini ezinhle zokuphila, njengabangane nomndeni. Lokhu kuzokwakha ukuhlelwa kwasekhaya okuzinzile kakhulu.
Qiniseka futhi ukuthi ugcina amahlaya futhi ungasabi ukubukeka ubuwula.
10. Vumela okwedlule futhi ungazizwa umuzwa wecala
Emndenini onomzali oyedwa, noma ngabe kwazama kangakanani, akunakwenzeka ukwenza kube njengabazali bobabili. Kuyadingeka ukuthi nje ungakhathazeki "eqinisweni lokuthi awukwazi ukwenza wedwa, futhi esikhundleni salokho, cabanga ngalokho okukwazi ukunika izingane zakho.Kuyadingeka futhi ukukhohlwa ngomcabango wokuthi impilo izoba lula noma ibe ngcono nabazali ababili. Akulona iqiniso nje. Kunezinzuzo eziningi kanye namaminithi omndeni kuzo zombili lezi zimo, ngakho-ke ukuzisola yikho okudingwa okuncane.
11. Phendula imibuzo ngokweqiniso
Izingane zingaba nemibuzo yokuthi kungani izimpahla zazo zasekhaya zihluke kwabangane babo abaningi. Lapho bebuza ukuthi kungani kunjalo, awudingi ukufundisa isimo noma amanga / aqinisile.
Kuya ngeminyaka, kuyadingeka ukubachazela iqiniso ngokwenzekile nokuthi izimo zamanje ziye zakhula kanjani. Ngokwemvelo, akufanelekile ukutshela imininingwane eminingi kunalokho okudingekayo, futhi akudingekile ukuthi ukhulume kabi ngomunye umzali. Kepha ngasikhathi sinye, kufanelekile ukuzama ukuba neqiniso futhi uthembeke.
12. Bheka izingane njengezingane
Uma kungekho umlingani, abaningi babona izingane zabo njengabafundi ukuba baxhumana noma bazwela. Akunakukwazi ukwenza lokhu - izingane zimane nje azihloselwe le ndima.Ebudlelwaneni babadala kunemininingwane eminingi izingane ezingakwazi ukuyiqonda noma ukuyiqonda, futhi kuzodala ukudideka kanye nentukuthelo.
Futhi, awudingi ukususa ulaka ezinganeni zakho futhi uhlukanise ngokusobala izidingo zakho ezingokomzwelo nendima yomzali.
13. Thola amamodeli endima
Kuseduze ukuthola noma yiziphi izibonelo ezinhle ukulingisa abantu bobulili obuhlukile. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ingane ayinazo izinhlangano ezingezinhle ngokuntuleka komzali olahlekile.
Ukuze wenze lokhu, ungathola abangane abaseduze noma amalungu omndeni afuna ukuchitha isikhathi nezingane. Kuyadingeka ukukhuthaza izingane ukuthi zakhe ubudlelwane obukhulu nabantu obathembayo nokuthi banganikeza yini njengesibonelo.
14. Yiba Nothando Nokudumisa
Izingane zidinga uthando nokudumisa nsuku zonke. Kuyafaneleka ukuxhumana nezingane kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka, ukudlala nabo, uzohamba futhi ukhuthaze inkhulumomphendvulwano evulekile.Qiniseka ukugcizelela ukuthi ingane yenzani kahle, noma ngabe zincane kangakanani. Udinga ukudumisa imizamo yabo, hhayi izengezo. Izogqugquzela izingane ukuthi zingadingi ukunikela ngisho nomsebenzi onzima kunayo yonke, uma ungaboni impumelelo okwamanje.
Esikhundleni sokusebenzisa imali yezipho, kungcono ukuchitha isikhathi namandla enze izinkumbulo zesikhathi eside.
Ukugcina
Ukuba ngumzali onesizungu kuwumsebenzi onzima. Ngaphandle kosizo lomlingani ongathembela kulo, abazali abangabodwa bazoba nezinkinga eziningi.
Noma kunjalo, ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi lapho ingane ikhula emndenini nomzali oyedwa, ayinamthelela omubi ekusebenzeni kwakhe esikoleni. Ngenkathi umndeni uyindawo ezinzile futhi ephephile, izingane zingaphumelela ezifundweni zazo nokuphila kwazo.