"Kungani uhlukane?" "Ngibuza ngijwayele ukujwayela," "angivumelani nabalingiswa." Ngikhumbula isikhathi lapho behlangana. Ukhazile kakhulu ngumzimba ngentambo ejulile futhi usuka ngaphansi kwesiketi esincane lapho ebengiphuphuthekise khona, lapho "ebona" umlingiswa wakhe ... kodwa ... kungani siyingxenye
- Kungani wahlukana? - Lo ngumbuzo ongenangqondo. Thina, ama-hamsters, ubudlelwane obukhethekile. Singabathandi abahle. Uthando luyamukela, luthatha amafomu angemangalisa kakhulu, thina ... - Ngidinga impendulo ethile ... - Wazama ukungishwabadela lapho sisondlekile ngesikhathi.
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- Battyushka, ubusise ngesehlukaniso ... - Kungani ushade, ndodakazi yami? - Yebo, lapha, isiwula kwakungu ... - Uyabona, yena, yena, duru enjalo, washada, futhi wehlukanisa ...
Kungani, ngemuva kwakho konke, sahlukana?
Izizathu zingabizwa ngokuthi zonke izinhlobo ze: Ukulahlekelwa ukwethenjwa, izintshisekelo ezahlukahlukene, izintshisekelo zotshwala, ngokobulili, ukugembula, izinkinga zezezimali, ukupholisa imizwa, ukuvukela umbuso, infatialism, njll.
Ngokubona kwami, konke okungenhla akuzona izimbangela, kepha ukubonakaliswa, umphumela walezo zimo, eziyizizathu zangempela.
Manje ngeke sibheke amacala obudlelwano lapho abalingani basebenzisa futhi balawulene, babelane ngemibono yabantu besifazane, bama ezimisweni ze-matriarchate, bahlushwa izakhiwo ezahlukahlukene kanye nokuncika okukhulu.
Sizokhuluma ngokujwayelekile, okujwayelekile kusuka endaweni yokubukwa komuntu ojwayelekile, ubudlelwano babantu nabesifazane, esinawe, ngokwengxenye nalo.
Okokuqala, noma yimuphi umphumela wobudlelwano phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane ungumphumela ohlanganiswe ngokukhethekile, bobabili, futhi owesilisa nowesifazane bayatshala imali (baphumela), noma ngabe bangakanani ubungako kanye namaphesenti emizamo.
Ngakho-ke, indoda imane nje ayifuni ukukhuthazelela okungenangqondo kwabesifazane, futhi owesifazane akasafuni ukuhlonipha le ndoda futhi amnakekele. Konke okunye kumane kungumphumela.
Ngidonsela ukunaka eqinisweni lokuthi lezi zigameko zilele entandweni yethu, okungukuthi, umuntu uyayeka ukuzwa isifiso sokuqhubeka nobudlelwano. Ngaphandle kwethu kuzolala kuphela njengokufa njengesimo esingenakuvinjwa.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, sivame ukwephula imithetho eyisisekelo yobudlelwano phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane abangavezwa into enjengale: Uma umuntu esondelana nowesifazane, kufanele ashade naye; Uma owesifazane efuna ukushada, akufanele enqaba umyeni wakhe ngokusondela.
Isici esihlukile sayo yonke imithetho yempilo iqiniso lokuthi basebenza ngokuzimela ngesimo sethu sengqondo (imithetho): noma ngabe siyakholelwa ebukhoneni babo noma cha, sivumelana nabo noma cha, Qhubeka nokwenza okuthile futhi ube nethonya lawo kithi.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, sivame ukukhohlwa noma asazi kukho konke le ndoda nowesifazane abadalelwe ukuze bangenele, futhi bangancintisane.
Iningi lethu kwikholamu "ubudlelwano" bungabhala ngokukhululekile: "Ngaso sonke isikhathi ngithola." Yize kunjalo, ubudlelwano babo bakhiwa ngezizathu.
Abaningi bethu akulungele futhi abafuni ubudlelwane obunomthwalo wemfanelo, abafuni 'ukusebenza' ngenxa yabo, bashintshe. Abaningi bethu bamukela inketho yentshiseko lapho sisekucabangeni okushintshiwe ngaphansi kwethonya lama-hormone, lapho awudingi ukwenza lutho, ukwenza noma imiphi imizamo, ngoba kulesi simo " munye futhi ngakho-ke ubudlelwano babujabule.
Sivame ukungakulungeli impilo yangempela futhi ngokushesha nje lapho isenzo sama-hormone siba senza, "bathola ukuthi intokazi yethu ijwayelekile, bese kuba yisiwula, futhi i-knight yenhliziyo yethu, akulutho ngaphandle kwalokho , "Imbuzi".
Unkosikazi: - Ngikunikeze iminyaka engcono kakhulu yempilo yami! Umyeni: - Susa emuva, angizange ngizisebenzise!
Izinhliziyo zethu zivelele, phakathi kwethu kukhula udonga futhi siphoqelekile ukuba simemezene ukuze sizwakale.
Siyakhohlwa ukuthi abesilisa nabesifazane bahlukile, bathi ngisho navela kumaplanethi ahlukahlukene.
Unkosikazi: - Wena, abesilisa, kuphela ubulili nezidingo, nathi, abesifazane, udinga ukunakwa ... Umyeni: - QAPHELA! Manje kuzoba nocansi!
Asiphelele, kepha singenza konke kithi kuncike ekusindiseni ubudlelwano.
Okokuqala, udinga ukunquma ngaphakathi kwakho nangomlingani wekusasa (oh), ukuthi inyunyana yakho "ithembekile futhi ithembekile!"
Okwesibili, ekuqaleni, kufanele uvumele ukuthi noma yisiphi isimo kufanele sixoxwe futhi sembulwe. Zonke ubunzima nenjabulo kufanele zixazululwe ukuze zihlangane.
Okwesithathu, ubudlelwano kufanele bube semthethweni: kufanele ushade. Esikhathini sokuhlanzwa, owesifazane "uPrebe", njengasemnyangweni wamakha, owahlwitha ukunquma, "thatha noma ungathathi". Ekuhlanganeni, kungowesifazane osengozini enkulu. Ukugcina ibhalansi nokungaqondakali ngizokwengeza ukuthi indoda isengozini enkulu emshadweni - ngakho-ke sikude kakhulu nasekhaya. Kepha lesi akusona isizathu ...
Okwesine, "funa ubuhlobo obuqinile, bese kuqala ukutholana, bese nilala.
Abantu abanobuhlakani obukhulu bazojabulela impahla ephakeme kakhulu kunokobulili, ekuxhumaneni nomqondo othuthukisiwe womunye wobunye ubulili.
Kungumqondo we-sexy yangempela. Ngokusho kukaDiana Rabb, udokotela wefilosofi ku-psychology eguqukayo, ubuchopho bungumzimba omkhulu ocansini. USolwazi Jeffrey Miller uthi izici ezinjengolimi, amahlaya nobuhlakani ziye zavela kubo bobabili ubulili, ngoba bakhanga ngokocansi kubo bobabili ubulili.
Isasasa lezocansi liyehluka kakhulu kangangokuba ukungabonisi amagama. Amakhono athokozisayo kakhulu thina, abantu, esinawo, yikhono lethu lokucabanga, acabange futhi azizwe.
Ngakho-ke, ungaphumi embhedeni, uthuthukise ndawonye, funda inganekwane, uguqule ubuhlakani bakho, uguqule amandla akho ezocansi futhi uqondise ukufeza kwezemidlalo, isayensi, umculo, ukudansa, njll. Funda okubizwa ngumkhulu okufunwa ngumkhulu.
Manje kungani sihlukana?
Thina, KWAKUSHINTSHATHELWETHE, asikhohlisi futhi sigcina ubudlelwano. Sibekelwe ngokuphelele i-TV yethu futhi sasivame ukugcwala ngamandla kaPlula, okungukuthi, ngokobulili. Ulwazi oluhle kakhulu ngomphefumlo. Futhi siqala ukwazi umzimba womunye, ngaphandle kokuhambisa umphefumulo.
Ubudlelwano obakhelwe emizweni (ukuba nemizwa kuphela esisekelweni sabo) abazobhujiswa. By the way, uprofesa we-psychology Lisa Feldman Barret uthi imizwelo - yilokhu esizinikelayo, hhayi esithile, esingakwazi ukuya ndawo.
Ngakho-ke, konke kusezandleni zethu, emandleni ethu. Futhi nesifiso sazana.