Thola ntambama yakho wonke umuntu wesifazane amaphupho. Abanye bachitha kulokhu iminyaka eminingi, balinde "inkosana" yamaphupho abo: ikhangayo, ihlakaniphile, uhlobo, njalonjalo. Kepha kwenzeka ukuthi kukhethwe okunjalo sekuvele kushada kanye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izingane zahlala emshadweni owedlule (noma eziningana).
Ukwakha ubudlelwano nobaba wendoda akulula kangako. Yize kunjalo, ngaphandle kwakhe, owesifazane kuzofanela asungule ukuxhumana nengane yakhe, futhi ngesinye isikhathi nomkakhe wakudala.
Ukungena ebudlelwaneni obunjalo, udinga ngokushesha ukuphendula ngezinkinga ezithile ezibalulekile. Ungayithanda ingane yomunye umuntu? Ingabe usukulungele ukubhekana neqiniso lokuthi okhethiweyo wakho uzoba nengxenye yesonto neholide nezingane zabo ngaphandle kwakho? Yini okulungele ukudela kulobu budlelwano? Nokuthi uzoza nabo? Kubalulekile ukugwema amaphutha amakhulu abesifazane abavuma ezimweni ezinjalo. Konke lokhu nokukhuluma okuqhubekayo.
Okokuqala kufanele uqaphele ukuthi okhethiweyo wakho ngeke abe amahora angamashumi amabili nane ngosuku engowakho. Unemisebenzi ethile kaYise, yona, njengomuntu obhekele izingane zakhe, kufanele ayifeze. Isehlukaniso nonina wengane asisho ukuthi le ndoda imahhala ngokuphelele. Ukuze ube nesibopho sezingane zabo futhi ubanakekele, usaphoqelekile. Futhi uma umuntu wakho okhethiwe efika ngale ndlela, kuphambuka kuphela ngokubuka okuhle. Umbuzo uthi ngabe usukulungele ukuthatha isimo sezinto ezinjalo?
Uma impendulo ingenamqondo, akusho lutho ukuze uqhubeke nobudlelwano. Noma ngabe uzohlala unovalo lapho indoda yakho izosebenzisa isikhathi hhayi kuwe. Noma zama ukonakalisa ubuhlobo bakhe nezingane ukumisa imihlangano efanayo (ngeshwa, lokho kuziphatha kuvamile). Owokugcina kuzo zombili lezi zimo udabukile kuwo wonke umuntu.
Uma ungadidani ukuthi kufanele uhlanganyele owesilisa nezingane zakhe, khona-ke ungalindela ezinye izingibe ". Ngisho nama-bachelors awafuni ukwethula ngokushesha izihlobo zakho nezihlobo. Labo abanezingane abavela emishadweni edlule, ngokuvamile babambezela iphuzu elifanayo lokuthandana nesikhathi esingapheli. Kungahle kube nezizathu eziningi zalokhu.
Okuvame kakhulu - ukwesaba ukukhathazeka izingane zabo. Naphezu kwesehlukaniso sabazali, izingane eziningi zikholelwa ukuthi ubaba noMama basazoba ndawonye. Udinga nje ukulinda. Futhi uma kuvela owesifazane omusha empilweni kaYise, khona-ke la maphupho amiselwe ukuba afezeke. Akuvamile kakhulu phakathi kwenkosikazi entsha nezingane zomuntu emshadweni owedlule ngokushesha bakha ubuhlobo obunobungane. Imvamisa konke kwenzeka okuphambene nalokho. Futhi ukugwema isimo esifanayo, indoda ngaphambi kokugcina ihlehlise isikhathi sokuthandana. Ngoba uyaqonda - kuzoba nezinkinga eziningi ngemuva kwalokhu.
Esinye isizathu sokungafuni ukujwayelana nowesifazane nezingane zabo ukuthi le ndoda ayinaso isiqiniseko sobuntu kanye nesikhathi sobudlelwano obuthuthukisayo. Wake washonile. Futhi manje ufuna ukuqiniseka amaphesenti ayikhulu, okungelona iphutha. Futhi kuze kube yilapho leli phuzu libona incazelo yokujwayelana nowesifazane ezinganeni - kungazelelwe akukho okuzokwenzeka? Futhi uzoqinisekisa malini ukunemba kokukhetha kwakhe akwaziwa.
Phila ngokulindela lapho okhethiweyo yakho nezingane zakhe "zivuthwa" ukuhlangana nawe, azikwazi hhayi wonke umuntu wesifazane. Iqiniso lokuthi ucashe ezihlotsheni, akuyena wonke umuntu othanda. Ingabe unesineke esanele sokulinda ukuqomisana okuthandwayo nezingane zakho zesilisa?
Ingxenye yezinto ezibonakalayo ibalulekile kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo - noma ngabe umuntu ethi akunjalo. Lapho ungena ebudlelwaneni nendoda enezingane, kufanele uqonde ukuthi ingxenye yemali yayo izoya kokuqukethwe kwayo. Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi izindawo zokudlela namakhekhe, izipho ezibizayo nezimbali, kanye nohambo lwabavakashi, uma kunesidingo, bedela i-Spet yezidingo zezingane. Yebo, kanye nesabelomali esivamile sanyanga zonke, ngokuphila ngokuhlanganyela, kuzobandakanya i-athikili ngokusetshenziswa kwemali emndenini wangaphambili. Kungenzeka ukuthi okuthile kuzofanela kube nemikhawulo ngokwayo - kukude nokwenza abesifazane abaningi. Futhi uma kuzovela umndeni omusha emndenini omusha, okuzodinga nezindleko zezezimali, isici esibonakalayo sizothola ubukhali okhethekile.
Umbuzo wokuthi ngabe kuzoba nendawo yengane evamile ebudlelwaneni bakho, kudingeka unake kakhulu. Uma unjalo, futhi okhethiweyo wakho ubonile konke ukungathi sína kobuhlobo futhi alungele ukuhlanganisa ngokusemthethweni, kungakuhle ukuthi ufunde ngaphambili, nokuthi umuntu ufuna izingane eziningi. Imvamisa impendulo yalo mbuzo ayilungile. Le ndoda, eyazise emshadweni owedlule, ukuthi ingane akuyona into yokudlala, kungenzeka ingafuni ukuthola izindlalifa ezingeziwe. Futhi uma kukhethwa kwakhe okusha ngiphupha ngomndeni omkhulu nezingane, kuzoba nokungqubuzana kwenzalo. Ngakho-ke, umbuzo onzima kanje mayelana nezingane ezizayo ufiseleka ukukhulula noma nini lapho kungenzeka.
Uma zonke izikhathi ezedlule zingenzi zinkinga, khona-ke into ebaluleke kakhulu ukukwazi ukusungula ukuxhumana nezingane futhi, mhlawumbe nomfazi wangaphambili. Uma izingane zincane kakhulu, bese wenza ubungane nazo kalula kunasebasha. Kepha umama wabo uvame ukunamathela ezinganeni ezincane. Kepha angihlali ngikwazi ukusungula ukuxhumana nomfazi wakudala. Uma bobabili abesifazane bemiselwe hhayi ukubandlululwa komunye nomunye - kuhle. Ngaphandle kwalokho, uhlobo olufanele lokuxhumana lunenhlonipho, kepha ithoni esemthethweni. Futhi ungakhali endodeni ukuze afinyelele ukuqondana nonkosikazi wakhe wakudala. Abesilisa abathandi ukuphazamisa izingxabano zabesifazane. Sikusize, ngeke akwazi ukukusiza. Kepha kuzozibona ngokwakho ukuthi awukwazanga ukuthola indlela efanele kulesi simo.
Thola kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala zolimi olujwayelekile nezingane zendoda yakho kunzima kakhulu. Lokhu kuzodinga isikhathi esiningi nokubekezela, amandla okudlula ezimweni ezingqubuzanayo futhi ukuyekethisa, kanye nezinye izimfanelo zowesifazane ohlakaniphile ongayigcina induduzo yomndeni nokuzola endlini. Amaphutha nobunzima kule ndlela akunakugwenywa. Kepha uma konke ukubekezelela yonke into, umvuzo uzoba umndeni omkhulu oqinile futhi onobungane. Futhi-ke, indoda emthandayo iseduze.
Konke lokhu okungenhla kusebenza emacaleni lapho izingane zingahlali nonina, kodwa noYise. Umehluko kuphela ukuthi akudingeki uxhumane nomfazi wangaphambilini wendoda yakho. Kepha, ukunquma ukuhlala ndawonye, kuzodingeka uzame lapho umama wokutholwa bese uqala ukunakekela iwashi hhayi kuphela okhethiwe, kodwa futhi nangezingane zakhe.
Kunombono wokuthi kulula ukwakha ubudlelwano nomuntu omdala owake wabamba emshadweni kunalabo abangakaze bashade. Kukholakala ukuthi umuntu uma esenambithile konke okujabulisayo namaphutha okuphila komndeni ozokwazi ukugwema amaphutha ngokuzayo. Futhi indoda endala enomlingiswa ogcwele, ongenayo isipiliyoni esinjalo, kuzoba nzima ngokwengeziwe ukwakha ubuhlobo obungathi sína. Nalapha ukwehluleka ukungagwemeki. Kepha akukhona konke okungathandeki. Isimo esibi somshado, sakhiwe kanye, singaphinda umuntu ngezikhathi ezithile. Yebo, futhi uthole ukuqonda okufanayo nabantu abavela "ekuphileni kokugcina" kwendoda kunzima. Nakanjani ungasho into eyodwa kuphela. Ukunquma ebudlelwaneni nendoda enezingane, kudingeka ulungele ukunamathisela umzamo omkhulu ukuze uwagcine ukwedlula ukubopha kuBachelor.