Wonke umuntu ufuna uthando lwakhe luhlale kuze kube phakade, kepha hhayi konke okuyazi ukuthi lokhu kungahle kuvuselwe kanjani. Eqinisweni, "imithetho yendawo yonke" yamandla, ekwaziyo (uma isetshenziswa empilweni yabo), iye yathuthukiswa (uma iyisebenzisa empilweni yayo), futhi ihlala igcina umbono, injabulo nothando.
1 Umthetho Wokuheha
Umthetho wokuheha uthi uheha okufanayo, namandla ahlangana nawo, asondele. Ngezikhathi eziningi zokuqala, abantu basesimweni sokulindela okujabulisayo, okulindelekile, namandla enjabulo kuyakhanga futhi kuyaheha. Kepha lapho umuntu eqala ukuphatha umlingani wakhe njengendlela "yendlela" yokuxazulula izinkinga zakhe, konke kuba kubi kakhulu.Ukuze usebenzise umthetho wokuheha izintshisekelo zakho, kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuthi kwakuyini - ukuthanda umlingani wakho, bese uzama ukungalokothi ukhohlwe le mizwa.
Izimvume ezi-2 zomthetho
Lapho umuntu ehlangana nomlingani ongaba khona, unesifiso ngokweqiniso ukwazi ukuthi uluhlobo luni lomuntu. Bobabili babelana ngolwazi ngabo ngaphandle kwezahlulelo nokulindelwe. Kodwa-ke, njengoba impilo yabo bobabili abantu iyaqhubeka ihlangana, ukugeleza kwemvelo kolwazi kuguqulwa kuphendula ukusabela kokwenqatshwa kokuthile noma ukuphendula izidingo eziguqukayo kanye nezifiso zomlingani.
Ukuze usebenzise izimvume zomthetho ezintshisakayo zakho, kuyadingeka ukubona ukuthi umuntu ngamunye uzoqhubeka nokuba ngumuntu, kungakhathalekile ubudlelwane bodwa. Kuyadingeka ukuvumela nokukhuthaza ukukhula komlingani wakho, futhi ungamelana nalokhu noma ukuhlekisa ngakho. Ukuba khona kwezindawo ezintsha ezithakazelayo kuzogcina ubudlelwano "busha" nangokuphefumula.
3 Umthetho Wokudla Nechilo
Umthetho wokwaneliseka futhi ubuningi buyasiza ukuqonda ukuthi ukuphela kwendlela yokuthola okuningi kwalokho engikufunayo ukwazisa okusemandleni okunye, ngaphandle kokugxila kokunye okunye. Umuzwa wokubonga uzokhokha ikhulu.Ekuqaleni kobudlelwano, lapho ufuna okuhle kuphela kumlingani wakho, kulula kakhulu ukukala izincomo, futhi kuqotho. Kepha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lapho uthola konke ukungapheleli kanye nobubi bomuntu omthandayo, udinga ukwenza ubuciko bokuhlola okulinganiselayo.
Udinga ukwenza izincomo kumlingani wakho konke okuthandayo kuyo, ngaleyo ndlela uqaphele lonke uthando phakathi kokubili nokukhuthaza lolu thando lukhule.
4 Umthetho Wendalo Elengise
Lo mthetho wendawo yonke kususelwa ekuqondeni kwalokho okuqondisa amandla akho. Izikhathi eziningi lapho ubudlelwane buvuthwa futhi buzinze, uqala ukuzwa ukuthi "kufinyelelwe" lapho uya khona futhi akusekho noma imizamo eqondayo. Leli yiphutha elikhulu kakhulu.
Eqinisweni, umbhangqwana ngamunye uhlala udala futhi uphinde uphinde ubudlelwane bawo. Yize kunjalo, abantu bakhona esimweni sokuba njalo. Futhi uma ungasekeli lokhu kukhula, ungaletha ubuhlobo nokufa kwabo.
Ukuze usebenzise umthetho wendalo ngamabomu ukuze uqinise uthando ebudlelwaneni, kuyadingeka ukuwubheka njengomsebenzi waphakade kwinqubo. Ngezikhathi ezithile, kuyadingeka ukubona ukunakwa namandla akweseka kangcono ukukhula kobudlelwano, futhi wenze imizamo yokufeza lokhu.
5 Umthetho Wokuhlukumezeka
Ukuhambisana nomthetho wokungamuhleli akusho ukuthi kuyadingeka ukuthi "uvale" kumlingani wayo, ukuze uhlukaniswe noma unqande ubungozi bayo noma inkanuko yabo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi udinga ukulahlekelwa ubudlelwane obuvela emthwalweni wokuncika nokulindelwe okuphezulu kakhulu.Umzamo wokulawula indlela yokuziphatha kwenye indlela esheshayo yokungcwaba noma yibuphi ubuhlobo. Uma uqeda umphumela othile olindele kumlingani wakho, ngeke nhlobo ukhuphule amathuba akho okufeza lo mphumela, kodwa kunalokho okuphambene.
Ukuze usebenzise umthetho wokuchichima ukuthuthukisa ubuhlobo bakho, udinga ukuqiniseka ukuthi zombili zinendawo nesikhathi sokuthuthukisa izintshisekelo zawo ezizimele.
6 ukuhlanza okungaba khona
Lo mthetho wendawo yonke ungasiza ukuvula ingqondo yakho nenhliziyo yakho kukho konke ubudlelwano obungaba khona.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kungenzeka ukuthi uqale ukwelapha umlingani wakho njengokuqhubeka kokuqhubeka kokube esedlule, kepha kuholela ekubizeni futhi kubeka imingcele kwizici ezingenamkhawulo ezitholakala ebudlelwaneni.
Ukuze usebenzise umthetho wobuqili obumsulwa, udinga ukucubungula nsuku zonke nomlingani wakho njengokuqala kwendaba entsha ethokozisayo, engakhawulelwe kunoma yini eyayikhona ngaphambili. Ukuya ezindaweni ezintsha. Bukela ama-movie amasha (futhi ahlukile). Njalo uziveze ezimweni ezintsha futhi njalo uqaphele izici ezingabonakali zangaphambili zomuntu othanda.
7 Umthetho wePolarity
Umthetho we-polarity usiza ukuqonda ukuthi wonke umuntu, sonke isimo kanye nazo zonke izici zokuphila kunezinhlangothi ezimbili. Konke futhi konke kuqukethe izinhlangothi ezinhle nezimbi.
Udinga ukwenza incwadi encane noma umagazini ukuhola uhlu lwezinto ezinhle kakhulu zomlingani wakho, kanye nokuhlanganyela naye ngezikhathi ezithile naye.