Ukukhulisa izingane kungumsebenzi onzima ngisho nakumindeni ephelele. Futhi umama, okhazimula umntwana owedwa, futhi ungawona umona. Ufuna ukukhulisa indoda yangempela evela kumfana. Kepha ukwenza kanjani ukuthi indodana izizwe ithandwa, kepha yakhula ngabazimele, abanomthwalo wemfanelo, inhloso? Ungakugcina kanjani ukulinganisela phakathi kothando nokuqina? Ake sixoxe ngobunzima bomama abaletha amadodana ngaphandle kosizo.
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Ukuntuleka kwesikhathi
Kuyiqiniso, ukukhulisa ingane (okuphakelayo, ukugibela, ukwelapha, ukugqoka, ukufunda nokunye) nomama onesizungu kufanele basebenze kakhulu. Imvamisa, izingane azinakunaka, ukunakekelwa kwanele, ngisho nokuba khona.
UMkhandlu ungomunye - thola isikhathi sendodana, noma ngabe ukhathele kangakanani.
Musa ukudlula enganeni ngenxa yesikhulu esibi noma ukuhamba komsebenzi okuyinkimbinkimbi. Thatha isikhathi hhayi amakilasi kuphela, kodwa futhi ngokukhuluma, ukuhamba epaki, uxoxa amakhathuni noma nge-cinema. Jabulela umphakathi womunye nomunye - ingane ikhula ngokushesha futhi akunakwenzeka ukuthi ukhumbule ukuthi uthole imali engakanani. Kepha isikhathi esichithwe ndawonye siyoba usizo olukhulu kuye.
Asikho isibonelo sabesilisa
Isibonelo sowesilisa emfundweni yabafana badlala indima ebalulekile. Uma ubaba engeke abe yisibonelo esinjalo, afune ukhetho olufanele kule ndima phakathi kwezihlobo nabangane. Kungenzeka kube nguyihlo, umngani osondelene naye ngisho nomuntu osebenza naye. Uma phakathi kwabantu bangempela ongaboni lowo ongathatha isibonelo, makube ngumlingiswa ovela encwadini noma kwifilimu.
Ungakhohlwa ngemidlalo. Mhlawumbe umqeqeshi wesibhakela noma i-basketball izoba yisibonelo esifanele sesidoda sendodana yakho. Ungaphuthelwa icala ukugcizelela isenzo se-Kightly sopera ongahleliwe uma kufanelekile inhlonipho. Ukunakwa kwamaphuzu lapho amadoda angajwayelekile anika izingane nabesifazane, asiza asebekhulile ukuba badlulise izikhwama ezisindayo, vumela abesifazane badluliselwe phambili noma bazikhonze. Ukwenza umlingiswa womuntu ovela kumfana, umama uzoba nokuningi emsebenzini.
Ukwesaba kanye nezakhiwo
Imfundo efanele yengane idinga ulwazi ngezisekelo zezengqondo kanye ne-pedagogy, isipiliyoni sansuku zonke, ukubekezela, ukuhlakanipha. Ngemuva kwesehlukaniso, kwesokunxele wedwa nezinkinga nokukhathazeka, okulula ukuwela ekudayisweni. Akufanele ukwenze lokho. Ungavumeli ukwesaba nokuhlangenwe nakho ukuze kuxazululwe emphefumulweni wakho. Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi usumphule ingane kababa wakho futhi kufanele asolwe ngempilo yomndeni engaphumelelanga?
Kepha kungcono ukuthi ingane ayinaye noma yimuphi ubaba kunokuba azobona isibonelo esingafanele sokuziphatha kwabesilisa.
Uyesaba ukukhula i-infantile, ukungajabuli? Funda izincwadi, uthuthukise, ulandele izeluleko zezengqondo. Yiba ngumama owanele futhi uxhumane nendodana yakho, ngokungathi nomngane.
Into esemqoka ukulwela okungcono, zama ukungaweli ubuso phakathi kokuhlushwa okugcwele enganeni nasekungakunaki ngokuphelele izintshisekelo zakhe. Ungazami ukufaka esikhundleni ubaba wakho, ungazami ukumnika umhlaba wonke - yiba ngokwakho, uqotho, onothando, unakekele futhi unokwanele.
Omama bahlukile
Omama bahlukile - bahle futhi banothando, banakekela futhi befuna ukuthuka, banesidingo. Enqubweni yokukhulisa ingane, omama banolunye uhla lwemizwa ehlukene, ukwesaba, okuhlangenwe nakho. Kuyadingeka ukulawula isimo sakho esingokomzwelo ukuze ingane ingazizwa ishukumisela imizwa yakho, ukungezwani noma ukukhathazeka.
Okufanele umama akufanele kube yikho:
- Ukukhathazeka ngokweqile;
- ngokweqile;
- ukugcwala ngobumnene;
- nolaka;
- Ungumnikazi;
- pessimist.
Lezi zinhlobo zomama azibuboni obomama benjabulo. Kubo, iNdodana ayilona ubuntu obuhlukile nezifiso nezidingo zayo, kepha into yokuzibona, ukukhululwa kwemizwelo, ukuxazulula imisebenzi yabo ebalulekile. Uma ubona ezinye zalezi zinkinga, ususa ngokuphuthumayo.
Izincomo zezengqondo
- Ungaziboni ngokwakho ukusola - ungahlali esikhathini esedlule (abantu baphambuka, ubudlelwano abunele kuwo wonke umuntu, vele uthande ingane futhi uyinakekele);
- Ungazami ukujabulisa abathandekayo bakho (uma ungena kukho konke, ingane izokhula nge-egoist, uyayidinga?);
- Ungazami ukuba ngumntwana kuwo wonke umuntu - yiba ngumama okwanele, lokhu kuzokwanela;
- Khumbula ukuthi izingane zifunda esibonelweni sakho (ungasho izikhathi eziyikhulu zokuthi ziyingozi, kepha noma ugwayi kagwayi owodwa ophambi kwengane ungambiza ngesifiso sokubhema);
- Ukudumisa ngezenzo ezinhle (ukudumisa - ithuluzi elinamandla ekukhuliseni izingane, lisebenzise kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka);
- Konke, ufundisani ingane, funda ngokuzolile nangesineke (awukwazi ukufeza lo mthetho - omunye umuntu makamfundise);
- Siza umfana afeze ubulili bakho (fundisa inhlonipho yamantombazane, ubudoda, isibindi, amandla omoya);
- Vumela ingane inkululeko nelungelo lokuzikhethela - ngakho-ke uzoba nomuzwa wokuzibophezela ngamazwi nezenzo;
- Ungakwenqabili ukuxhumana kweNdodana noYise, uma kungabi nethonya elibi enganeni (ubuntu obunobuntu obungcono bokungavumeli indodana);
- Ukuthambekela, ukusekela, ukusiza ingane - kumele azwe uthando lwakho futhi anakekele kunoma yisiphi isimo, ngoba umuzwa wokuphepha uvumela izingane ukuba zihlale zisezingane;
- Ungazigcinisi wena nendodana ngoba ungenalo indoda eduzane (lesi akusona isizathu sokungajabule);
Ungaphenduli empilweni yomuntu siqu - Uma uhlangana nomuntu oyokhululeka naye, ungalahli ubuhlobo, uqondiswa umuzwa wecala ngaphambi kwendodana (mhlawumbe lo muntu uzokwenza ukuthi ujabule kuphela, kodwa futhi nengane yakho) ;
- Ake sibe nemali ephaketheni yengane (ukuze iNdodana esikhathini esizayo inekhono ngokwezezimali, makenze imali encane ebangeni lokuqala, angayilahla ngokubona kwayo);
- Chitha isikhathi ngokwehlukana (vumela indodana yakho nendodana yakho kube nokuzilibazisa kanye namakilasi okubandakanya kanye nethuba lokuba yingxenye);
- Bheka imingcele futhi uhambe kancane kancane uye ohlangothini (ingane endala iba, ekuzijabuliseni kwakhe, abangane, amakilasi, izifiso.
Omama abangabodwa, vele, balinde ubunzima obuningi. Ngemuva kwakho konke, akulula ukufundisa izingane ngisho nasemindenini ephelele, kanye nogogo nomkhulu, umalume kanye no-anti. Kepha lesi yisifundo esihle kunazo zonke emhlabeni! Omama abasona isizungu - bakhona njalo labo abadinga ukunakwa kwabo, ukunakekelwa nothando eduze kwabo. Into esemqoka ukufundisa izingane hhayi nje ukuthatha uthando, kodwa futhi ukuze zikwazi ukukunika. Futhi nakanjani uzosebenza.