Ubungani buyinto ebaluleke kakhulu, kepha akuhloli ngaso sonke isikhathi, hhayi yonke into ebungani, okuyisiko ngokuzenzakalelayo. Kufanele kwaziswe, kepha kwezinye izikhathi ubungani obude kakhulu futhi obunamandla "obudingayo ukubeka iphuzu. Kulungile uma ebudlelwaneni bakho nomngane / intombi kukhona okuthile okuvela ohlwini olungezansi.
Ngemuva kokuxhumana nomngani / intombi, imizwa yakho yehla ngokubonakalayo
Asikho nhlobo ngalezo zimo lapho umuntu ehlanganyela usizi futhi wena, ukuncintisana naye, alahlekelwe yimizwa yakho. Kubhekwe izimo lapho imizwa engemihle iba ngumngane ojwayelekile wokuxhumana kwakho. Isibonelo, ngokuzumayo ubonile ukuthi ngemuva kokuxhumana nentombi, kancane kancane uqala ukuwa ukuzethemba - phela, kuvame ukuthi wonke umuntu, ngokungafani nawo wonke umuntu, ngokungafani nawo wonke umuntu, ngokungafani nawo wonke umuntu, ngokungafani nalowo muntu.Okomngani wakho, uyi- "Indlebe", okuhlala kuqhosha
Ukuziphatha okunjalo, umuntu onosizo lwakho anelisa izidingo zakhe ze-narcissism, futhi lokhu kuziphatha kukhulunywa kakhulu ebunganini besifazane. Kepha eqinisweni, naphezu 'kokuhle' okubonakalayo kwempilo yomngane womngane, uzama ukuzithoba ezingxoxweni ezinjalo. Mhlawumbe akazethembi ubudlelwane nendoda yakhe, futhi mhlawumbe ushadile noma isikhathi eside awenzi imisho yakhe - kungenzeka kube nezizathu eziningi. Kunoma ikuphi, umuntu, ngakho-ke u-Yaro ekhombisa kuphela izici ezinhle zokuphila kwakhe, ezama ukufihla inkinga yawo ngokomoya.
Umngani njalo unikeza amathiphu wokuhlukanisa, anolaka futhi onzima
Imvamisa, indlela enjalo yokuziphatha iyisici sabantu abangeyena ebudlelwaneni. Ngakho-ke, ngokwesibonelo, lapho uhlangana nomngane agcina ekhuluma ngezigaba: "Futhi ungamthokozela kanjani? Baqhubeka nazo zonke izinhlangothi ezine! " Izintombi ezinjalo ziphuma ngenkani zikhipha ebudlelwaneni nemindeni, futhi akukho zingane ezinhle nakanjani eziholela kunoma yini enhle.Kumngane odlala indima ye-psychotherative
Uma umhlangano ngamunye noma inkulumo yakho ecingweni kufana neseshini ye-psychotherapy, lokhu kungenye uphawu lokuthi ubungani buzikhathazile. Ngabe ngaso sonke isikhathi kufanele ugcine intombi, iduduze futhi ithambile? Akukuhle. Omunye angaphikisana: "Ubungani abudingekayo kulokhu?". Kuzo zonke izindlela, ibhalansi iyadingeka - ukugcinwa kobunye phakathi kwe- "bathathe futhi banikeze".
Uma izindaba zakho mayelana nezinkinga, kusukela ohlangothini lwentombazane njalo zifika isikhashana: "Yebo, ungakhathazeki, nami ngibe nakho," kungakhuluma kuphela ngento eyodwa - konke ukugxila kwana. Akanendaba ukuthi kwenzekani kuwe, futhi usebenzisa wena njenge-vest. Ngakho-ke, ziveza kahle izinto eziza kuqala, zizazise, isikhathi sakho futhi ukhethe ngokucophelela abangane bakho.
Umngane ufisa sonke isikhathi samahhala owachitha naye
Ukuziphatha okunjalo ebunganeni kukhulunywa kakhulu phakathi kwentsha, kepha abantu abadala babhekana nalokhu kaningi. Lapha kunokwephulwa okucacile kwemingcele yomuntu siqu - umngani uzama ukulawula isinyathelo ngasinye sakho: "Uyaphi? Futhi nini? Nobani? Kungani uya lapho? Futhi kungani ungangibizelanga nami? " - Lokhu kuyi-hypercontrol, kepha nakanjani hhayi ubungani.Ubungani obudonsela phansi
Umuntu ngamunye unemikhuba emibi, hhayi nje ukuthi bonke abayingozi kakhulu ukuze banakekele ukunaka. Kepha uma umngani ehola ngokusobala indlela yokuphila engenampilo, akafuni ukuthuthukisa futhi aphile njengomuntu ojwayelekile, futhi wena, ngenkathi usemphakathini wakhe uzwakala sengathi uhlangothi olubi lusebenza eduze kwakhe - gijimani ebunganeni obunjalo. Kuze kube manje, ukuqwashisa kusatholakala futhi akusekho ukusungula konke.
Ubungani bakho abusaqinisiwe, futhi unamanani ahlukile nokubukwa okuhlukile.
Lesi ngesinye sezimo ezimbalwa lapho ubungani kungafanele buyelwe kakhulu - kwanele nje ukunciphisa ukuxhumana kanye nemihlangano ubuncane. Awudingi ukuba ngamabomu anganaki umuntu ngamabomu, ngesikhathi nje kwezingxoxo, ake izimpendulo kafushane nakwicala, ungazibuzi ukuthi ungazidonsele kwizingxoxo zesikhathi eside. Inqubo inobuhlungu, kepha ubungani bangempela phakathi kwabantu abahluke kakhulu ngeke busebenze.Umngani wakukhaphela futhi uziphatha ngokungathembeki
Isimo sakudala ebunganeni besifazane singumngane futhi sizama ukufakazela ukuthi uyakhanga ngokwengeziwe, ubukekayo, obuhle futhi uwonke, ungcono kunawe kukho konke. Futhi ukuze lobu bufakazi buvezwe ngangokunokwenzeka, kuzama njalo ukuheha ukunakwa kwesoka lakho / umyeni wakho. Futhi uma isimilo saso singakhululekile phambi kwakho, kulula kakhulu ukucabanga ukuthi kuzoba yini ngomhlane wakho.
Umngani uyindlela engaqondile yokunikeza ukuhambisa emndenini
Ukuhamba lokho emndenini wakho, ukuwohloka, umngane onjalo njalo ukhuphuka umyeni wakhe futhi aqale ukukhombisa ukunakekela kwakhe ngenkuthalo. Isibonelo: "Kungani ukhala kuye kangaka? Unenhle kangako! ". Kulokhu, intombi ihola ubutha obufihlekile - uzama ukukhombisa ukuphakama kwakhe, okungabonakali kakhulu kobungani bangempela.Umngani unqabela noma nini lapho uncenga usizo
Lapho intombi ihlala isiza njalo, kodwa kwesinye isikhathi ayinawo amandla okusiza - lokhu kujwayelekile. Kepha uma ngaphansi koMngane, kunomuntu ohlala 'omatasa', akaze afike emalini, kodwa eqondiswayo kudinga okuphambene nalokho - lokhu okusetshenziswa kakhulu okuvela kuye.