Akuzona zonke izingane ezinezici ezibukeka zifana ne-movie mayelana "nendoda yemvula" noma ihamba eMelika chan. Imvamisa abanye bacabanga ukuthi ingane iyamangala nje, ayizami, iphakanyiswe kabi. Labo abanethemba lokuthi abazali abonanga ukuthi bayiphatha kanjani ingane bangaqala ngezeluleko, ukuphawula ngisho nokuthukwa. Imiphumela yokuhlasela okunjalo kokuthuthuka kungenzeka ihlukile, kusuka ekucasuleni okulula nangokwesaba, kuze kube yilapho uhlelo lwezinzwa lugcwele ngokweqile, oluzoshintsha lube yi-hysterics noma oluqinisayo ekuziphatheni.
Sibuze omama abaningana, izingane zalo zibonakala zingama-balebists womunye umuntu, yindlela ahlala ngayo nengane ecishe ibe ejwayelekile emhlabeni wokugxeka njalo.
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Nginengane enhle eneminyaka emihlanu enamehlo anamehlo "ahlakaniphile." Kuyena nokulinda ukuziphatha okujwayelekile: Engapheli "Kungani", uhlobo oluthile lwezinkundelo. Futhi akasekeli inkhulumomphendvulwano futhi esesimweni esinzima (okungukuthi, nabantu bangaphandle) cishe badlula ngokuphelele e-Echolalia.- Ngabe uyathanda u-ayisikhilimu?
- Ngithanda u-ayisikhilimu.
- Futhi ufuna ukuba nobani?
- Ngabe ufuna ukuba njalo.
Hhayi-ke, lapha kubukeka kungajwayelekile ... kimi. Futhi njengoba bengekho i-AdTENNA Kwenzekani, futhi uma ngithi "autism" - banquma ukuthi kungukuthi kungukuthi, umfana ohlakaniphile, ufike esiphethweni sokuthi mina, ngokwesiphelo, ekhuluma ngokuncane nge Ingane, noma endala akazange ayithathe, noma eminye imishanguzo ayizange ayithole - ngokuvamile, emihlanganweni yakhe engcono kakhulu ezingane izingane.
Ngilalela amathiphu alandelayo, kepha ngasizathu simbe akekho olalela owami - ukuthi ungcono kanjani ukuxhumana nengane, futhi uhlala ngaphandle kokuxhumana.
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Intombazane eneminyaka eyisithupha ifunda ngokushesha, uyazi i-Encyclopedia embalwa yezingane, iphindaphindeka futhi ihlukanise engqondweni. Futhi ngasikhathi sinye, izinkinga zasendlini kwesinye isikhathi zingenzeka zikhohlwe futhi zichazwe, namanje azihlanganisi ama-shoalace, kube nobunzima bokuthi izinkinobho zezitayela kanye nezinkinobho (kunzima ukucindezela njengoba kulandela). Kwangathi kumemeza kungazelelwe, njengezingane lapho zikhathele. Ingaqala ukuphinda amagama ngamanye ngomuntu, ukuthandwa kakhulu okungaqondakali noma kwangaphandle futhi kuyawahlukanisa embuthanweni.
Kuthukuthele kakhulu lapho ngingitshela ukuthi kulinyazwe engqondweni ngoba ngimenze wamfunda. Angikaze ngiyiphoqe, wafunda, futhi wande ngandlela thile wazizwa.
Muva nje usibekele i-autism, kepha chaza ukuthi hlobo luni lokuthuthuka okungalingani kusuka ku-autism, kufana nokukhuluma ngokuzethemba. Ngokushesha, kwenzeka kwenzeka ngoba ingane yaqala ukufunda.
Ubuye adinge ukusonteka ezandleni zakhe ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuze azolile, futhi uzama ukuthatha amathoyizi akhe ukukwenza, ukuze kungabi yi-Indel.
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Imvamisa kwenzeka kanjalo - abantu abathukuthele baphonswa phezulu baqala ukumemeza.Kwesinye isikhathi zingaqondakala ("umfana wakho uvukile ingane yami entanyeni yesiphambano"), kwesinye isikhathi cha ("kungani ingane yakho ikhafulela phansi esitolo ?!")
Uma indodana yami inecala ngempela, khona-ke angilungile, kungani iKrestik ifakwe ekilasini lase-Aikido, ngiyaxolisa, ngibuza ukuthi yimiphi inxephezelo abantu abayifunayo.
Ngokuvamile, lapho usisho ngokobuphono ngokuzithoba ngokuthi "i-Autism," imvamisa abantu bezolile, baxolise bona futhi bahambe. Kepha kwesinye isikhathi cha, qhubeka ufune ukuba kuhle njengamanje. Kufanele ubuze "futhi yini oyiphakamisa ukuyibeka?"
Kepha abantu abalukhuni kunabo bonke bayi-pseudorovative. "Yile ndlela uNkulunkulu anishukushiye ngayo," noma lapho "yingoba abazali [blud] babezithembisene, bathi," Kukhona "ukuthi" ekhaya kwakungekho ethempelini elanele, futhi kuyadingeka ukwenza nsuku zonke, futhi Konke kuzodedelwa, namademoni akhe akhululwe. " Lapha ngivame ukuphula uphahla futhi ngiqala ukukhuluma nomuzwa wobubi, njenge- "Health Good, ikakhulukazi i-Oncological." Kuhle ukuthi abantu abanjalo bangabutholi nsuku zonke.
Eqinisweni, ngokubheka okungaziwa, ingane "nje" iyinto enokuphumula, ayinakunaka, ayihloniphi futhi ibukhali; I-duder ekhathuni enjalo eCuba. Noma ebusweni, noma esithombeni, noma ngendlela eshukumisela ongenangqondo empilweni akukho okukhathalelayo.
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Mayelana nentombazane yami Iminyaka ethi akazange azame lapha futhi angazami lapho. Kungani unobuso obusezingeni eliphezulu, kungani ungaziqondi amahlaya, ungasaba kanjani ngokungathi sína ngeholide, kungani unaso sonke isikhathi sezinyembezi, vele ukhulume ngawo ... vele uzame, uphendule konke Indlela futhi umamatheke, futhi uzoba abangane futhi ungabi abangane futhi ngeke uhleke.
Ungakuqondi kanjani ukuthi ulambile, wagula, uyakulimaza, unjani, siwula? Le yimibuzo.
Cishe kwakubonakala kubo ukuthi konke kwakulula, ngoba intombazane uqobo yayihlale ihlakaniphile futhi ibukeka kahle, inhlonipho, ifunda okuningi (manje, manje, kufundwa). Kepha ukulayisha ngokweqile kwemizwa futhi manje akulula. Phambilini, intombazane nje kandenene, manje iqala ukusesha indlela yokuthatha umhlalaphansi, uma ikhungathekile, noma okungenani ilayishi. Kuyo yonke le minyaka, izindlela zabo ziye zathuthuka.
Kepha-ke, konke okungaqondakali, njengoba umuntu angabhekwa njengobuwula futhi ahlakaniphile ngasikhathi sinye.
Wayazi ukuthi ukumamatheka, lapho nje ushubile ngasizathu simbe, akudonsi ukumamatheka, futhi kunengqondo. Futhi izinyembezi zaso zibalulekile kakhulu, azinakuba namahloni, izinyembezi zilukhuni lapho esesimweni esingenakubekezelelwayo, kodwa ukuzama ukuqhubeka nokwenza okuthile, ukukhuluma nabantu nokuxoxa ngenxa yalokhu kuze kube sekupheleni. Azenzi ngisho nokugeleza, emakhoneni eso aqashwa kabusha. Njengoba ungamukela indoda izinyembezi, namanje angiqondi.
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Umfana wami mncane, kufaka phakathi ngosayizi, futhi onobungozi kakhulu. Kungenzeka ukuthi yingakho ukuphawula okuthunyelwe ikakhulukazi kusuka kuma-Pasters ngandlela thile akudluleli. Kaningi, kunoma yikuphi. Iningi labantu liyafa - indodana yami ecishe ibe minyaka emihlanu ibukeka njengeminyaka emithathu futhi kwesinye isikhathi iziphatha ngokufanayo.Into enzima kakhulu ukuthutha komphakathi. Ngesizathu esithile, inani elikhulu kunawo wonke elinolaka lahlangana kuTram. Umuntu oyedwa ongathandeki akathandanga ukuthi umfana ungcolisiwe ngemuva kwesihlalo esiphambi kwakhe. Umzamo wami wokunikeza umfundzi wakhe ukuze ubambe izimbadada zabafana, ukuze empeleni ngibe yini ngempela, u-Antie ngokunganakwa ngenkani, futhi wenza sengathi wayengekho lapha. Umfana wamemeza sonke lesi sikhathi (cishe njalo uyamemeza). Ngokuyinhloko, imfuneko yeThenkink yayinengqondo impela, kodwa yena ngokwakhe wayemubi kabuhlungu.
Abanye bavame ukwenziwa eqinisweni lokuthi umfana ulele phansi, okuyinto empeleni engathinti muntu.
Ngokuvamile, zonke izinkinga ngendodana yami zihlobana nohlelo lokuphatha ezakhiwe kulo. Cishe akawalaleli amaqembu ezwi, akaphenduli lapho emncenga yena futhi ethanda ukubaleka esitolo. Kuyiqiniso, ukugcwala nokuba sesixukwini, ngokushesha, waqala ngokushesha ukuhlaselwa kwalezo zinkani ezizungezile futhi afanekisela isiwula esisebasha, ngokuvamile, ngenkathi ethembekile ngandlela thile kuye.
Kepha empeleni, ngisola ukuthi abantu bamane bavalelisa umbhangqwana wethu omibalabala, ngenxa yazo zonke izimiso zezemfundo nengane yami, imisebenzi endala ehlakaniphile ehamba phambili "ayikwazi ukunqotshwa." Futhi ngikhanda. Sivame ukubukela ngokuqapha futhi kwesinye isikhathi ukukhasa, ukukhasa ....
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Ingane yami ephakathi yatholakala ukuthi yi-Autistic SpyRerum Disorder eneminyaka engaba ngu-7, sekwephuze kakhulu, kodwa cishe bekungabonakali esikoleni, isimo esikhanyayo, bese kudidezwa. Ngaphezu kwakho konke ngangihlaselwe omunye wezengqondo, engangikuhlonipha ngaphambili, futhi okwamethembayo. Uthe ke ukuthi ingane yami imane ichithwe futhi kuyadingeka ukubhema.
Manje useyishumi nantathu futhi kunxeshezelwa impela, mina nobaba sengitshalile imali eningi kuyo. Kepha kunabantu abacasukile ngokuzalwa kwakhe, futhi ngokuvamile "kodwa lokho akwenzanga okuthile, akunandaba nalabo, lokhu, akuhambi wedwa. Futhi umama othile wengane enomjaho engingitshele ngaye, ngokuqhathaniswa naye, ngokusobala: kahle, lapha unokuthile ongakwazi ngakho.
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Ngokuvamile, umfana wami (unokuphazamiseka okubonakalayo okusebenzayo) hhayi nje ukuthi angakhulumi futhi azenze ubuso obuhlekisayo, naye uhamba njenge-zombie kwifilimu: ubeka isandla ekwesandleni, noma kunjalo , ngaphansi) kunezinja zasendle zasendle. Kanye nabadlulayo ngosuku olumnyama.
Kepha ngokuvamile, okumangazayo ukuthi kucace bha ukuthi konke akukuhle kakhulu, kepha akuvimbi abantu, ukuncoma ukwenza okwengeziwe, ngakho-ke ukungazenzi kuye ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuziphatha.
Futhi akwenzi lutho olunqatshelwe, kumane nje kuqhakaza kwivolumu efanayo, lokho abantu abakhuluma ngakho, noma ukuhleka ngaphandle kwesizathu esisobala. Noma ubuso bayazakhela, njena ne-gosque futhi ezwakalayo kakhulu. Kwesinye isikhathi mhlophe.
Ngokuvamile, ukusabela okungekuhle kakhulu akusikho okuningi, kepha izwe lezeluleko zezwe lamaSoviet. I-Orthodox inciphisa incoma ukuya amakhilomitha ayinkulungwane ukunamathisela noma ukuxoxa nabadala kokuthile. Ekuqondeni kwabo, i-feat enengozi yokuthi impilo yengane kufanele ihlawulele okuthile lapho futhi yenza isimangaliso. Ngithi ngenhlonipho ethi "Ngiyabonga", ngoba ukuchaza ukuthi kungani ngingafuni ukuhlukumeza futhi ngidalule ingozi yomgogodla kanye nesithuthwane ngimemezile. Ukuthunywa okungenakwenzeka.
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Nginengane ebucayi kakhulu, futhi ngisho nokuhlukumezeka kwengqondo. Futhi uhlala emgqeni ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngoba wonke umuntu ulwela ukuveza umbono wakhe lapho ucishe ube uhlelo lweminyaka emihlanu ezingalweni zakho noma lapho intombazane iqala ukukhala ngenxa yokulayisha ngokweqile noma kwendlala. Akanayo indawo yokuphepha, "kulungile, futhi ngokuzumayo usephukile. Ngijwayele ukuqonda ukuthi yini inkinga.Futhi uma kufika isalukazi kuwe, futhi uzomphendula wathi: "Angibuzanga umbono wakho," - noma: "Ngiyabonga, sizobhekana nathi," nxazonke nikuhlasela ngokushesha isalukazi . Kuliqiniso, akekho isalukazi ngemuva kwalokho wathula. Imvamisa noma uqale ukumemeza, noma ukuhlasela ku: "Ngiyabona ukuthi uqonda kanjani!"
Imvamisa kunezimo lapho abantu abadala abanye abantu bephawula ngokubonakala kwengane ekhethe ubuso bakhe nabamaka, ngokwesibonelo. Ngenxa yalokhu, uma ngithula, intombazane ingathola usuku lonke futhi ikhale ngaphambi kokulala.
Ngenzenjani?
Ngifunda ukucacisa imingcele yakho, ngaphandle kokudlulela kubunikazi balowo owembulwe kithi. Sikhumbula ngekhanda amagama. Futhi ngichaza indodakazi yami ukuthi kwenzekani. Obuhlobo Bethu Nobuhlobo Bethu Ubuhlobo Bethu Ukuthi Abantu Baziphatha Ngengalungile, Ukuveza Imibono Yabo Ngathi, futhi ngakukhombisa kubo.
Akunakwenzeka ukuba uthule. Okokuqala, abahlaseli abathuli, uma uthule, okwesibili, engingammemi wona, intombazane ilimele kakhulu.
Impilo yami yomama eSociyumu iyinsizakalo yomngcele waphakade. Okungahlangene ne-hyperopica, njengoba kwesinye isikhathi ngithi kwesinye isikhathi. Ngoba ngiphendula ngokuphendula kuphela ekuhlaselweni okusobala.
Lapho imvelo izolile, izinkinga zixazululwa kalula. Ukududuza ingane, nikeza i-gingerbread, ushokoledi noma isikhwama sobisi, futhi yilokho. Kepha ukuzola konke kudlula ngesikhathi. Kaningi lapho befisa ukukhuluma.
Ngasikhathi sinye, le ntombazane ayinazinkinga emphakathini, inhlonipho futhi lokho okubizwa kwalethwa kwalethwa.
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Nginengane engahambisani nepasipoti. Okusho ukuthi, ubheka iminyaka emi-2 kunephasiphothi yakhe, futhi uholele iminyaka emi-2 omncane. Ngasikhathi sinye, ngokusho kokuxilongwa okusemthethweni, asibona ababhali, kepha uhlobo oluthile lwemfucumfucu. Ngokusemthethweni - infantilism yezingane.
Futhi lokhu ukungahambisani kwalokho abantu abakubonayo, nokuthi uziphatha kanjani, ezungeze njalo ukwethula isifuba. Ngoba bakholelwa ukuthi phambi kwabo ingane yebanga lesithathu, futhi nani sona so nyaka siye esikoleni. Futhi ukusabela komphakathi ngokuvamile kunguhlelo lweminyaka emihlanu. Ngenxa yalokho, kunama-anti ejwayelekile afana njalo.
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