Mhlawumbe akuyona imfihlo kunoma ngubani umuntu ongcono kakhulu nguye owaziyo ukuthi ungalalela kanjani. Futhi ekhaya, uma kwenzeka engxoxweni nengxenye yakho ethandekayo, kunzima kakhulu - emva kwakho konke, udinga ukulalela ukuze bathande ukuthi bayabaqonda.
Ukubizwa okubizwa ngokuthi "okuvumayo" kuyikhono elibucayi lobudlelwano obuqinile, ngoba livumela umlingani azizwe ukunakekelwa nokuqonda. Masinikeze izikhathi eziyisithupha ezibalulekile zendlela yokubonisa uzwela kumlingani wakho lapho efuna ukuhlanganyela imizwa yakhe1. Amathiphu - Icala Elithuthukile
Ungazami ukuxazulula inkinga noma unikeze izeluleko, uma lokhu kungabuzwa ngokuqondile ngakho. Kwesinye isikhathi abantu bafuna nje bazwakale futhi bezwa imizwa yabo. Lapho othile ebuhlungu, udinga uzwela, hhayi izeluleko. Kuyiqiniso, kuphakama ngokushesha isifiso sokusiza nokunikeza isinqumo esisheshayo kumuntu wakho othandekayo, kepha uMkhandlu kungenzeka ungabi yilokho umuntu okudingeka kube manje. Amadoda ajwayele ukuxazulula izinkinga, kepha kufanelekile ukulalela le nkinga.
2. Ukubekezela, ukubekezela kuphela!
Yiba nesineke futhi ungacasuki uma umlingani engasho ngokushesha ukuthi uyazizwa.Kwesinye isikhathi umuntu uzinika isikhathi sokuthola amagama ukuveza lokho akuzwayo. Ukuthula nokubekezela kusize abantu baveze imizwa yabo.
3. Emandleni ezwela
Ungathathi izinzwa zomlingani wakho "ku-akhawunti yakho." Kungumqondo wakhe futhi awahambelani neyakho. Ububele busho ukwamukelwa kwemizwa yomlingani njengoba benjalo.
4. Khumbula - awuhlaselwe
Ungavikeli futhi ungabi nokuhlaselwa lapho umlingani eveza imizwa ekhathazayo. Akudingeki ukuthi igxekwe. Sidinga ukunikeza umlingani okhombisa ngokuphepha okuhlangenwe nakho kwami ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka. Kuzoba nokunye, isikhathi esifanele ngokwengeziwe ukusho lokho engqondweni. Kwesinye isikhathi kuyasiza ukubuza: "Ngingakwazi yini ukuveza ngokuthula lokho engikucabangayo? Ngidinga ukukhuluma ngokuthile okungithintile. "5. "Ukuzwa Ukubonisa"
Sebenzisa okubizwa ngokuthi "okubizwa ngokuthi" okuzwakalayo ", inqubo eyenza omunye umuntu abe nomuzwa wokuthi uyaqondakala futhi uyamnakekela. Lapho umuntu ethi: "Ngiyakuqonda ukuthi kukulimaza manje." Noma "ngizwe ukuthi awunaso isikhathi esilula," umlingani ngokuzenzakalelayo unomuzwa ngokuzenzakalelayo ukuthi angatshela okuningi ngenkinga. Uma ethi: "Angiqondi ukuthi kungani uzizwa" noma "akunangqondo," khona-ke umlingani uyavalwa.
6. Ukunakekelwa Okuphakathi
Nikeza uzwela uma umlingani ebuhlungu, kepha akamuzwanga isihawu. Uhawu lungenza umuzwa wokuzithoba noma ukubonwa, nokunakekelwa okuqotho - cha.
Izazi zezengqondo zivame ukunika i-param "umsebenzi wesikole" ukwenza imizuzu emihlanu ngosuku "Ukuzwa kweMascotum". Uzakwethu futhi usho okuthile okuhle ngoMlingani B. Isibonelo: "Ngiyabonga isidlo sakusihlwa esihle osilungiselele" noma "Usiza umsebenzi wakho wesikole kahle." Ngemuva kwalokho, umlingani uthi into eyodwa engemihle. Isibonelo, "Ngingathanda ukuthi usize ngokuhlanza kwasekhaya" noma "Ngingathanda ukugeza izingane kusihlwa." Kuze kube manje, umlingani uthi, umlingani B ulele buthule. Lapho-ke umlingani we-B uthi okukodwa okuhle nokukodwa, ngenkathi umlingani elalele. Ngemuva kwalokho, akunakwenzeka ukuthi uxoxe ngalokho okwashiwo.
Lo msebenzi omncane ukuvumela ukuthi uveze kancane kancane inkinga encane impilo yansuku zonke, ukuze ingaqoqwe, yakha udonga phakathi kwababili.