Ubaba esigabeni: Okudingayo ukwazi ngokukhathala okungathathina uma unengane

Ukunakwa: Funda ngezansi, kuphela uma (bewungumama) baby, bukhoma (baphila) nengane esebenza ekhaya nomyeni wakhe / ubaba, futhi ingane yakho akuyona ingane ekahle e-vacuum, kusukela ngosuku lokuqala iwa Ulala futhi ulala, akalandi esifubeni sokujikeleza kwesifuba, amanga kahle futhi adlale ngosuku lwabo usuku lonke, futhi unesikhathi sokwenza inqwaba yakho yonke into, ngaphezu kwengane.

Oh Yebo, futhi uma ungenalo ugogo / nanny. Kubalulekile. Konke okunye kungenzeka kungakuqondi.

Uma ingane yakho inganciphise ngezandla, "ilala kuphela ngamabele emlonyeni", "ayizange ilale izinyanga ezintathu ngaphandle kwami," futhi wena "ungenaso isikhathi futhi ukhathele kakhulu," ulapha.

Esontweni lokuqala ngemuva kokuzalwa kwendodana yami, ngangihlala kakhulu ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Ngibe kanjani nesikhathi? Kahle .... Ntambama walala phezu kwami, esiswini esiswini. Le ndaba ehlukile, kungani kwenzeka, ngolunye usuku ngizotshela. Kepha ngenxa yalesi sizathu, uhhafu wanamuhla ngilele naye. Futhi ingxenye yesibili, iyaqhubeka nokufaka esikhundleni isisu, mina, "tupil eBocile Buckuch". Cha, ngizamile ngokweqiniso ukufunda izincwadi ekuqaleni. Kepha silala ebumnyameni, kepha akazange alale. Futhi ngicindezele i-e-book nge-elbow yakho evikini lesibili lokufunda. Akuzange kuncike ekubuyiselweni, ngakho-ke kwaqhubeka ukusindiswa okukodwa - ifoni, futhi kuyo - amanethiwekhi omphakathi.

Elinye lamaqembu lapho ngifunde ngenkuthalo kwakukhuluma isiNgisi, mayelana nokukhulelwa nezingane. "Banayo" emibuthanweni mama - cishe yonke into efana nathi. Ukuhlupheka okuncane ngokwesimemezelo esingakhokhelwa kanye nemibuzo emincane engaphansi kwendlela yokunciphisa isisindo. Kepha enye ingxoxo idonsele ukunaka kwami ​​ngokukhethekile. Mayelana nokungakanani ezinyangeni zokuqala owesifazane ahlezi ngobuhlakani enobuhlakani nengane, ekugcineni kosuku ethinteke ngokuphelele [kuhunyushwe ngokuphelele - ukuhumusha kokuhlelwa]. Futhi iqiniso lokuthi amadoda awakuqondi lokhu futhi acace ngokungabikho kokungabizi, ukusondelana, ukungathandi ukwanga ngisho embhedeni.

Kwakuwumbono omusha ngokuphelele kimi. Wawa ngokuqinile enkumbulweni, futhi ngacabanga ngakho futhi ngabona amahora amaningi ngemuva kwalokho.

Ngemuva kwakho konke, empeleni. Owesifazane osondlayo, yena njalo 'uzinikela ukuba asebenzise.' Futhi ngaphandle kokucabanga esifubeni, umzimba wakhe uhlala emunca ukwanga, ukwanga, imishini yokucindezela, imidlalo. Uhlala amthinta, uthinta ingane, athumbe, egqoke, edlala nesithunywa, ngaso sonke isisa, ngaso sonke isisa. Usuku lonke! Futhi noma ngabe yiKinelsetic ephupha kakhulu emhlabeni ... Akakhathali ngakho? ..

Bengihlala ngikuthanda ukwanga. Futhi ngashada ngempumelelo - umyeni unjalo. Phambilini, ngombono wami, sasisenkingeni ethintana ngaso sonke leso sikhathi ayesekhaya. Ngangikuthinta njalo, ngigcine ngemuva kwesandla, sabanga, sanga. Salala "e-Oake". Kepha lapho indodana yethu ingqongqoza izinyanga ezintathu, futhi umyeni wakhononda ngobunono ngokuntula ukunakwa kuye, kodwa angibonanga masinyane, kodwa noma kunjalo, kodwa noma kunjalo, kodwa noma kunjalo, kodwa noma kunjalo, kodwa namanje ngabona ukuthi ukhuluma kuqala kubo bonke ngokunakwa ngokomzimba futhi wakhumbula le ngxoxo ethintekile.

Yalo, yebo imayelana nami! ..

Kungazelelwe "kusobala ukuthi" ngokusobala "ukuthi kula masonto akuvikeleli njalo iqiniso lokuthi ukusondela, okungukuthi oxhumana naye onobuhlakani. Sengathi bekunguthando ukwanga ngezinsuku zesonto. Ebusuku, kwesinye isikhathi bathuthela engxenyeni yakhe yombhede. Waxoxa nomyeni wakhe ngawo wonke kusihlwa ekhishini, kodwa wacishe akazange amthinte ... nganoma yisiphi isikhathi lapho ngizikhathalela ngokucophelela - wadla, walala, walala, nangomzimba - ngendlu. , Ukudla, ukugeza, ukusayina ... kepha nhlobo hhayi ngeHugs.

Kwakungumuzwa wokuthi nganginjengokungathi "ucishiwe". Bakhipha amabhethri kusuka ku-pusher yami yangaphakathi, ukuthi yonke impilo yakhe yangiphoqa ukuthi ngikwamukele abantu, ngibagcine ngezandla, bathinte njalo. Futhi yebo - bamba i-buzz eqinile kuyo.

Manje sengikudinga ngempela ukuxhumana. Bengifuna ngenkuthalo, ngikwazi ukuxhumana kakhulu nomyeni wami, abangane ngenjabulo, izihlobo zomakhelwane ... kepha ukubingelela emhlanganweni nokuvalelisa kwaba isenzo sezenhlalo, akusekho. Yadabukisa kakhulu. Cha, kusobala, bekukhona izikhathi zokusondela, futhi zigobhoze ngokuqabula, kepha ikakhulukazi ngezimpelasonto. Noma lapho sinogogo nomkhulu (ngiyabonga umama, sichithe izinyanga ezimbili! ...) Ezindlalweni ezejwayelekile, lapho ngichitha ngaso sonke isikhathi ngendodana yami ngedwa, kusihlwa ngemuva kokulala ubusuku bonke, ngasizathu simbe kuhlale kubuhlungu kakhulu , Ngivame nje nje ukuthi ngifuna ukuwa eduze, kwesinye isikhathi, mhlawumbe, ngixoxa ekhishini, kodwa ukuze bangangithinti, uma kuphela kungeyona into yokuzivocavoca. Ngijabule ngithandwa, ngiphumule futhi ngiphenduke ngokuqondile ngephupho. Ngoba phambili kwakusebusuku nobusuku obunempilo nobusuku obupholile.

Ngemuva kwalokho ngakhuluma nabanye omama abasebasha, futhi kwavela ukuthi lawo mantombazane avela eqenjini elikhuluma isiNgisi ayelungile - sinjalo.

Futhi ilungelo ukuthi amadoda awasiqondi ngempela.

Amadoda, Dads ... Ngisho nokuba muhle kakhulu nokuqonda (umyeni wami unjalo nje!), Abahlali izinsuku, baqabule futhi bephethe amabele akhe, baduduza amabele akhe futhi bayaduduza. Yebo, ama-Dads awadli ubusuku nemini. Izandla zabo kanye nemihlane azigula kangako ngokukhomba unomphela futhi ziphakamise ingane. Ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane, abaweli egazini le-estrogen, i-prolactin ayikhulisi, bashaya amanye noma i-libido. Akukho lutho oluguqule lutho "lapho, ngezansi, ngenxa yezikhala noma nge-episiotomy, azange zingalaleli isibalu esigabeni saseCesareya. Abayesasele futhi bangabuhlungu futhi ukuthi baqale ukwenza uthando. Angifuni ukungqongqoza umlingani ngalesi sikhathi ngokwenza amathuba angeziwe ngesigamu sehora lokulala. Bavela emsebenzini, unkosikazi ekhaya, ingane ihlala ilala, konke kunjengaphambilini. Kungani ama-wanings abo awafani ngaphambili? .. Futhi iqiniso lokuthi unkosikazi usanda kukhanye ngaphandle egumbini lokulala ngemuva kokuntuleka kwempi ezimbili ngempi, kunje .. ..

Ekugcineni, kaningi abazi nje futhi abacabangi ukuthi kungenzeka - awufuni ukusondela. Kwesinye isikhathi awufuni, ngoba ubuvila kakhulu ukudonsa kanzima. Kwesinye isikhathi awufuni, ngoba ngifuna ukulala futhi ungayiphathi imilenze. Kwesinye isikhathi ukungafuni, ngoba imvelo imemeza ngaphakathi kuwe - Cha Cha, uma enama-testicles, futhi kubo i-sperm, gijima ngokushesha okusuka kuye, awukwazi ukukhulelwa! ...

Futhi kwesinye isikhathi - awukwazi nje ukufuna nokunenyanya, ngoba uthintekile ngokuphelele.

Ungafuni ngisho nokuqabula nokuqabula. Usuvele uphelele - wavalwa futhi waphulukiswa namuhla izikhathi eziyikhulu. Ufuna ukuba ngumuntu, ingqondo, kepha hhayi umzimba. Umzimba wakho ufuna ukuphumula futhi ungabi kancane manje.

Futhi uma kunjalo - amaviki, izinyanga? Yimuphi umuntu oyokukhuthazelela? ..

Kepha kusekhona ingcindezi yezenhlalo kwabesifazane. Balindele ukuthi bazongena ngokushesha. Ukuthi ubulili buzoba masinyane njengangaphambili. Isikhathi sokukhulisa ingane, futhi ngasikhathi sinye konke nakho kususwe ngokuphelele futhi kuphekela isidlo sakusihlwa sezitsha ezintathu. Ukuba nothando nokunaka. Futhi kubukeka kahle.

Okufanele ngikwenze?..

Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi udinga ukuthatha njengeqiniso - awuphoqelekile. Unelungelo lokuba nguwe. Ukungafani komagazini obucwebezelayo. Unelungelo lokuthola "ukungabonakali" lapho uludinga.

Yebo, udinga ukukhuluma, utshele, uchaze, ubuze. Nikeza umyeni wakhe nezihlobo zakhe ukuthi banakekele ingane isikhathi esingakanani kanye namathuba. Ukuphumula wedwa. Thatha izidumbu zakho. Khumbula ukuthi kungokwakho. Buyisela. Ungazami ukuba ngumama nowesifazane ofanele. Awusenaso isikhathi sokwenza noma kunjalo, okuthile kufanele kutshengise okuthile.

Futhi, indoda yakho iyakukhuthazela. Ngoba uyindoda ekhule abadala, futhi uyakwazi ukuthanda. Qonda futhi wamukele. Ngemuva kwakho konke, impela kusuka ekuzalweni okunjalo okunika izingane?. Futhi ngoba udinga ukwazisa ngokwakho futhi ukwazi ukusho "cha" uma manje - cha. Lapho ungabi nalutho ongakunika khona. Ingane ngeke ilindile, futhi umuntu omdala angakwazi. Izingane zikhula ngokushesha, uzohlupheka.

Ekugcineni, wenza umsebenzi obaluleke kakhulu emhlabeni manje - uphuza ngothando lwengane yakho. Ingane yakho. Futhi unelungelo lokuba kulo msebenzi. UNelaskova, akunjalo, angagodwa. Noma nje - kwathintwa.

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