Ngaphambi kokuthi uthathe isinqumo ngesinyathelo esinjalo, kungaba kuhle ukucabanga ngemiphumela yobudlelwano obufanayo. Izixhumanisi ezinjalo zingaba nemiphumela emibi. Futhi le miphumela ngeke ilinde isikhathi eside.
Kungani ubudlelwano obufanayo buyingozi kuwo wonke umuntu?
Lobu budlelwano buvame ukuvela ngemvume yozakwethu. Umhlanganyeli wamathayi afanayo azizwa ngokuzolile nangokuzethemba, njengoba umlingani engamelene nobudlelwano obunjalo. Kodwa-ke, lesi yisimo esingesihle kakhulu ekuhlanganeni kwabalingani bobabili. Imiphumela yobudlelwano obufanayo ilinyazwa wonke umuntu obamba iqhaza kuzo. Kuphathelene nalokhu nomuntu wesithathu, obambe iqhaza noma ngokungazi lutho ebudlelwaneni babunye abantu.Kungani kuvela ubuhlobo obufanayo?
Imvamisa, ubudlelwano obufanayo buvela ngenxa yokuthi umuntu ulahlekile empilweni yansuku zonke. Kwesinye isikhathi lokhu kungenxa yokuziqhenya okungekho emthethweni ukukhulisa ukuzethemba kwalo. Imvamisa abantu babhekana ne- "Empty Nest Syndrome." Izingane ziyakhula ziphume endlini, abazali baze bazithola bengajwayelekile. Manje imithwalo yemfanelo emincane kakhulu nesikhathi esiningi samahhala, kwesinye isikhathi esingenakugcwalisa. Ngemuva kwalokho abantu abasondelene nabathandekayo baqala ukuhlala ngokulandelayo nje, kepha hhayi ndawonye. Futhi-ke othile ovela kubalingani uxazululwa ebudlelwaneni obufanayo ukuzama okuthile okusha, ejwayelene nomuntu okhangayo. Le mihlangano izokujabulisa kuqala, ukuze wenze ithemba ngobuhlobo obuhle enhliziyweni. Ekugcineni, uzobona ukuthi lobu budlelwano bungabekezelelwa kuphela ebangeni elithile. Ngokuxhumana isikhathi eside, ukungacasuki nokukhathala kwenzeka. Kwanele ngawe? Futhi kuzokwenzeka nini? Kunzima ukusho.
Ubudlelwane obufanayo buholela kuphi?
Okokuqala, ukuthembela phakathi kwabalingani kuzohlupheka. Ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu abaseduze kungenzeka bubuswa kakhulu. Lapho-ke ungazisola, usolane, ulwa nawe. Mhlawumbe kuzosiza ukuqonda lokho ebudlelwaneni obufanayo, ababambiqhaza baqala umdlalo wokungathembeki. Futhi lowo owaqala lo mdlalo kufanele aqaphele ukuthi wanelisa izidingo nezifiso zawo kuphela. Futhi ukuthanda - imizwa emnandi kunazo zonke empilweni yomuntu - akuhlangene ngalutho.