Kuzo zonke iintsapho, amaxesha ngamaxesha kukho iingxabano ezahlukeneyo, yinto eqhelekileyo. Kodwa kufuneka ukwazi ukuqhubeka nemeko enjalo, ngaphandle kokutshabalalisa ubudlelwane, mhlawumbi buyidibaniwe ngeminyaka.
Ifuna nini imfuneko yokulalanisa?
Uninzi lwazo, kuvuka iingxabano ngenxa yokuqonda imidla okanye amanqaku okujonga kumaqabane. Ngokucacileyo, ke eyona ndlela yokuthoba impixano iya kuba yingxaki yokukhangela. Ingabonakala ngathi yonke into icacile kwaye akukho nto inzima koku, nangona kunjalo, njengokuziqhelanisa nemidlalo, hayi kuzo zonke iintsapho, amaqabane anokufumana oku kubetha. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, omabini amaqabane kufuneka enze imvume, kwaye oko kunzima kakhulu, kuba nawuphi na umntu onomdla kuwo obaxabisa ngaphezu kwayo yonke loo nto ichaziweyo. Ubudlelwane ngumsebenzi, kangangokuba kufuneka uhambe ngokwakho ukuze ugcine eyona ixabisekileyo. Imvume kufuneka ihambelane. Ukuba elinye lamaqabane lihlala liyeza ngokulalanisa, kwaye okwesibini zihlala zenkani, olu asilontlubo, kodwa umdlalo lisango elinye. Kule meko, kunye neqabane kuya kuthetha nzulu, ukwazi ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani kuye, kutheni engazange enze njani izilangazelelo zakhe ngenxa yomntu osondeleyo kuye?Ungaza njani kwimeko yokulalanisa?
Fumana enye jikelele, isicombululo esamkelekileyo sihlala sinzima, njengoko abantu bezingca. Kodwa xa kuphakama ixanda, kufanelekile ukuba sicinge: "Ndiza kufumana ntoni ukuba ndiyamelana nam? Ngaba ndiya kuva kamnandi xa nilawula ukukhusela uluvo lwakho, kodwa ubudlelwane buza kunyikima? " Ukuba impendulo iqinisekile, ke, inokwenzeka, ixabiso lexabiso lolwalamano olunje, kuba kuyacaca ukuba kule meko amaqabane akaxabisi. Kwaye ukuba impendulo ayilunganga kwaye ubudlelwane bubalulekile ebantwini, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana amandla okunika umntu obiza kakhulu.
Kuyimfuneko, kunjalo, ukulalanisa ukukhangela kunye. Ekugqibeleni, ubudlelwane ngumsebenzi odibeneyo, apho kungekho mntu kufuneka aphile. Kubalulekile ukuba omabini amaqabane anokuthetha. Akufanele ungoyiki ukwabelana ngaloo maxesha olwalamano ngesizathu esithile ayonelisekanga. Ukuba yonke into ixoxwa ngonxweme, musa ukuqhuba ingxaki, ke yonke into iya kuba nakho ukulungisa.
Ngaphandle kokukhangela ukulalanisa, ubudlelwane abunakulungiswa, ke ukuthatha isigqibo malunga nolwalamano olubi nomnye okanye omnye umntu, ukuba uqale ngalo, kufuneka ucinge ukuba kukho ukuvuma ukwenza ukungathobeki. Ixesha lomviwa-umviwa alinanto, kwaye kungekudala iingxabano ziya kuvela. Ngokuhambelana, kuya kufuneka bahlale ngandlela thile.