Namhlanje, uluntu luhlawula ithuba elininzi lokukhangela iqabane lakhe lokuthandana kunye nenyani yokuba "ubomi bafikelele kwicala elifanelekileyo", kodwa kubhalwa kakhulu kuhlawulwa kwimpilo kunye nokonwaba kwabantu. Ulwalamano lweMonogamous, hayi ulwaneliseko nolonwabo, yiba yeyona njongo iphambili kubo bonke abantu abadala, abancinci nabadala.
Kodwa ngoku siza kukhumbula kube kanye kwaye Ngonaphakade: ulonwabo luyinto entle. Abantu abafumana ulonwabo kubo nakwimimandla yabo ngokwemvelo batsala abanye kubo. Ke yintoni kanye kanye etsala abantu abonwabileyo.1. Abazibambisi ixesha elidlulileyo
Ukuba umntu akakaze aphuke intliziyo, oko kunokuba nomonwa-ngomnye wabantwana abambalwa, onokubalwa kwiminwe yesandla esinye. Phantse wonke umntu emva koko "watshutshiswa" okanye waliwe ngaxeshanye. Kodwa bonwabile abantu abanesizungu abanamathele kwixesha elidlulileyo. Bayilibala nje yonke into eyenzekileyo, kwaye endaweni yoko gxila kulo lonke ixesha nekamva.
Le yinto enomdla kakhulu ebantwini, kuba ibonisa amaqabane anokubakho ukuba akabathinteli kubudlelane bayo. Ngokuchasene noko, into yomqobo ilungele ikamva elinokubandakanya iqabane elitsha.
2. Baphephe "ubudlelwane" obubi "
Xa abantu bodwa kwaye bengonwabanga ngale nto, bahlala bevumela ubudlelwane obungenampilo ukuba bangene ebomini babo. Kwaye olu ayilobudlelwane bothando kwaphela - banokuba bekhohlakele, benobuhlobo kunye nosapho. Ngokusisiseko, umntu ngelishwa umntu onesizungu akafuni ukuba yedwa, ngenxa yoko uyavuma ngobomi bakhe babantu abanokungakufanelekeli.Kodwa onwabile ngokwenene amanenekazi aselula anomdla azikwazi ukuyiphepha njani abantu abalungileyo. Ewe kunjalo, le yinto enomdla kumaqabane anokubakho. Ukudibana nomntu ozijikelezileyo nabantu abalungileyo kwaye abangekeli kakubi, luphawu olukhuthazayo. Ukuba ubuvumelekile ebomini bomntu onjalo, emva koko kuya kuba ulungile.
3. Bazithanda
Uthando lwakho yinto ebalulekileyo yomntu. Ukuba intombazana ethile ayizithandi, njengoko enokulindela ukuba omnye umntu uza kumthanda. Abantu esidibana nabo banokuziqonda izinto ezinje. Ukwanela okuncinci okuncinci kunokuba yinto ehlekisayo kwaye kubonakalise ukuba awuqhamiswanga kwinyani, kodwa amaqabane anokubakho anokubakho ngokukhuselekileyo xa kufuneka abathandiyo.
4. Babeka iliso
Oonwabileyo abanoyolo abantu abanololo abazithandayo, kodwa bayazikhathalela, kuba bonwabe ubomi babo kunye nolonwabo. Ezi zinto zifana nokutya okuhle, ukuzivocavoca, ukuhlamba rhoqo, ukucoca amazinyo, ukutyelela ugqirha ukuba kuyimfuneko, kunye nokuzithemba ukuba unobomi obonwabisayo nobesempilweni. Abantu abangatshatanga abakwaziyo ukuzikhathalela, bebona amaqabane anokubakho anomdla kangangokuba bangakululungelanga uncedo.5. Baziqhelanisa nokuziqonda
Ayisiyo ikratshi kunye nokukhathalela ngokwabo kubalulekile, kodwa ukwazi ngokwakho. Ukuba umntu uyazi kakuhle iimfuno zakhe ezibalulekileyo, iingcinga, iimotifs, njl njl, uyakwazi ukwamkela umntu ongazenzisiyo ukuba umntu othile ukhubekise umntu, ukuba acele uxanduva kwaye acele uxolo. Iqabane elizimeleyo akufuneki likhombe kwiingxaki eziphambili.
6. Zizimele
Enye yeengxaki ezinkulu kubudlelwane kukuba abantu balibale ukuba bazimele. Kukho izinto ezimbalwa ezizothe kunokuba zinobudlelwane apho abantu baxhomekeke khona. Ulwalamano oluhle, olusempilweni lufuna abantu ababini abangenazingxaki zokuzimela kunye nesizungu. Banokuzikhathalela, iiakhawunti zabo kunye neemfuno zabo. Inkululeko yinto ebonakalayo yabantu abonwabileyo.7. Bachaphazela ubomi babanye
Xa abantu bengonwabanga ngokwabo, bazama ukutshabalalisa ubomi babanye. Kodwa ukonwaba ngokwenene abantu abanesizungu bazama ukomeleza intembeko yabo bathanda. Umzekelo, bahlala benikezela ukunceda umhlobo ukuba afumane umsebenzi, kwaye anyamekele konke konke.
8. Abakhuphisani
Kuyenzeka ukuba uza nemeko embi kunaba abantu ababini balwela into enye yomqobo. Unoyolo abantu abanesizungu abayi kuzama ukumlandela umntu. Bayakuqonda ukuba olu asilulo ukhuphiswano lokufumana iqabane lakho lothando, kwaye oku kuyeyona nto inomdla.
Mhlawumbi esona sigqibo sibalulekileyo kukuba ulwazi ngokwakhe lelona lizwe linomdla linokwenziwa. Banoyolo abantu abanesizungu abahlala nabo ngokwenene emhlabeni, bahlala betsala abanye.