Kuya kubonakala ukuba apha kunzima ukumisela ukuba iqabane lakho likulawula ukuba lihlala lisifunga, linobukrakra, lihlala lisongela okanye libeka i-lolmimatum. Wonke umntu ubonakala eluhlobo lwe-rumpy hooligan, ofumana kwaye odola. Nangona oku kunokuba njalo, kukho imiqondiso eyongezelelweyo enokuzibonakalisa ngokwahlukileyo.
Ukuba uziva ukuba iqabane likwazi ukukulawula, kubalulekile ukumisela imiqondiso yeli ngoku. Ayinamsebenzi, i-narcissus, iSopaopati okanye inxanelwe amandla eLeech, ofuna ukubuyekeza eyabo ingqondo, ukulawula omnye umntu, ukuze kunyanzelekile phelisa oku ngokukhawuleza. Ke, indlela yokuqonda ukuba yintoni oyilawula.1. Iqabane linengxaki yokuzithemba
Kwisifundo seSteam, abo basindayo kwimpikiswano enkulu, abo baziva bekhuselekile kubudlelwane babo bafumana inani elikhulu leengxabano ngamaqabane abo kwaye baxela imbandezelo yokunyuka kwezingquzulwano. Kwangelo xesha, iqabane linokuba nempikiswano encinci "kwi-fallth kwimpukane yendlovu."
Ukuba awuzange unike iqabane lakho isizathu sokungazithembi kuwe, kodwa kwangaxeshanye uqaphele ukuba uyakujonga okanye i-cheenking ijonga ifowuni yakho okanye ikhompyuter yakho xa ungajongwa, kubi.
Unokwenza iingcinga malunga nokuba uchitha ixesha elingakanani kwaye utyhile ungathembeki, nokuba akukho sizathu sokukrokrela. Ekuphela kwendlela yokuba umntu onjalo azive ekhululekile, kusoloko eyazi into oyenzayo.
Musa ukuvumela iqabane lakho ukuba lilawule izenzo zakho. Ulwalamano olusempilweni lusekwe kwintembelo kunye nokunyaniseka. Ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho likufumanisa kunzima ukuthembana, ubudlelwane abunakukwazi ukumelana.
2. Ibaluleke kakhulu ngokunxulumene nawe
Iqabane alifuni kuphela ukulawula apho uya khona nento oyenzayo ngexesha lakho elikhululekileyo, ufuna "ukungaboni" kumntu okwincazelo yakhe oya kwenza izinto azifunayo.Enye indlela yokwenza oku kukugxeka rhoqo: iimpahla ozinxibayo, iinwele, indlela omele ngayo, hlalani ngexesha lakho lokukhululeka, kunye nabahlobo, njl njl. qala ngezinto ezincinci, kodwa ngokukhawuleza baya kubuya babe ngabameli bokugxeka ukuba uyamnika.
Eyona nto imbi kukuba umntu ozama ukukulawula ufunga iimpikiswano ezintle, ngoko ke ukugxekwa kubonakala ngathikholisa kakhulu.
Ekugqibeleni, kufuneka uzithembe ngakumbi. Kuyazithemba ukuba kubalulekile ukusebenzisana neqabane elizama ukukulawula kwaye ulikhusele.
3. Isoyikiso
Abanye abantu bacebisa ukuba ezoyikiso zifanele zibe ngokwasemzimbeni ukuze zibe yingxaki. Kodwa izoyikiso zokuqhekezwa kobudlelwane, ukusikelwa umda "amalungelo" okanye nokuba isoyikiso ukuzilimaza kunokubachazelwa ngumntu njengesoyikiso sogonyamelo. Lowo ulawulwa uhlala eziva "ebambelele kubudlelwane" kungengenxa yoloyiko, kwaye uloyiko lweqabane lakhe liya kubabulala okanye liyeke.
Ngamanye amaxesha, umntu unokusongela ukulahleka kweeasethi zemali, ekhaya okanye nabantwana ukuba ashiya iqabane lakhe lilawula (okanye liya kuphoswa). Nokuba zizisongelo ziyinyani, kuba "umlawuli" yenye nje indlela yokufumana izinto azifunayo, ngenkcitho yeqabane lakhe.
4. Uvavanyo lwe-hyperactive
Oku kubhekisa kwisenzo sokurekhoda yonke intsebenziswano kubudlelwane, kwaye le yenye yezona ndlela zingqongileyo zolawulo.Ngayiphi na indlela, kukho ukutshintshiselana rhoqo kweenkonzo. Ekugqibeleni, esi sibini sifanele sithandane kwaye lonke ixesha sihlala 'sithandana, umzekelo, ukwenza inkunkuma, hlamba izitya emva kwesidlo sangokuhlwa, ngokunjalo.
Nangona kunjalo, uvavanyo lwe-hyperactive luvumela iqabane elilawulayo ukuze liqinisekise ukuba "kufuneka". Kodwa xa "ikhaya inkosi" ibhiyozela isenzo ngasinye esincinci, unokuqiniseka ukuba uyazama ukukuphazamisa, ukudala umbono wokuba ukwenzela okungaphezulu kunaye.
5. Uzama ukukucima kubathandekayo bakho
Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokulawula iqabane lakho kukuzahlula kubo bonke abantu ababathandayo. Le yenye yeempawu eziyingozi ezibonisa inqanaba eliphezulu lobuqili.
Nokuba imeko yakho ingakhathali, ungaze uvumele umntu azihlukanise nabahlobo bakho okanye usapho. Basondelelene abantu abasondeleyo basinika amandla kwaye sinike inkxaso, kwaye ilahleko yabo inokukhokelela kwiingxaki zokwenyani, ngakumbi ukuba uzama ukukuphazamisa.
Iqabane elinenkathalo liza kukwamkela ngokupheleleyo usapho lwakho ngokupheleleyo kunye nabahlobo, kwaye ukuba akayenzi le nto, oko kufanelekile ukuba acinge - ukuba kuya kufuneka njalo.
Yintoni enokwenziwa ukuba uyalawula
1. Gcina isondele isondele
Xa ujongene nabantu abanetyhefu kwaye babuthathaka, kuya kufuneka uhlale kufutshane nabantu abanokukhathalela.2. Zigcine
Kuyimfuneko ukwenza isicwangciso sokhathalelo lwemihla ngemihla, nokuba ngohlobo lokuzilolonga, ukufunda incwadi elungileyo, ukucamngca nangonyango.
3. Udinga isicwangciso
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokwaphula ubudlelwane, isicwangciso siluncedo. Qiniseka ukuba uqwalasela yonke into amanyathelo ambalwa, kuba iqabane lakho mhlawumbi likho iqhekeza lamaqhinga ukukugcina kufutshane.4. Phatha imeko ngokungakhathali kwaye ungabi mngcipheko
Iqabane elifuna ukulawula onke amanyathelo, ngakumbi ngendlela ye-Copathic okanye i-narcislands, inokuba yingozi ukuba isuswe kuye ngokwaneleyo, nokuba ayikaze ibonwe kugonyamelo ngaphambili. Sukuqengqeleka amehlo akho kwaye ucinga ukuba yonke le nto ayinakwenzeka kuwe. Kufuneka uthabathe nzulu imeko kwaye wenze konke okunokwenzeka ukuzikhusela.
5. Musa ukoyika ukufuna uncedo kufutshane nawe
Umntu olawulwayo womelele kuphela xa ekwakhela kwihlabathi jikelele.
Mfuneko yokuba ungalibali ukuzikhathalela imihla ngemihla kwaye ujikeleze ngabantu abakuthandayo.