Ubudlelwane obunobundlobongela bunokuba nzima ukuphepha izizathu ezininzi, ezona zixhaphakileyo phakathi koloyiko, zikhanyele kwaye zixhomekeke. Kodwa ukuphathwa gadalala kunokwenzeka ngeendlela ezininzi.
Ezinye iintlobo zobundlobongela, njengokubetha kunye nobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo, ziyasebenza. Ezinye iintlobo, ezinjengokugozwa kwengqondo kunye neemvakalelo, kunokuba nzima ukwamkela, kodwa azikabi ntshabalalo.Ubundlobongela obuqhelekileyo okanye ngokweemvakalelo kubandakanya uburharha obuthi, indlela yokuziphatha ephambili, ukubonakaliswa kwekhwele, kunye naziphi na iintshukumo ezijolise ekujongeni ukuzithemba kunye nokuzithemba okanye isoyikiso. Kwaye isibakala sokuba oku asikushiyi iziqwengana okanye izikhombisi, oku akuthethi ukuba ubundlobongela bezengqondo akunakuba nokuvezwa kwexesha elide.
1. Iqabane lihlala lifuna ukwazi indawo yakho
Ubundlobongela bokomoya bunokuthatha indlela yolawulo olugwenxa. Nangona kunjalo, kumanqanaba okuqala ubudlelwane, inokuthathwa ngokulula ngokubhekisele nokhathalelo; Kwaye oku kunokuba kukuthoba.
Iqabane linokuqalisa ukuvela kumsebenzi wakho ngaphandle kwesilumkiso "sokumema isidlo sasemini." Emva koko ufuna ukwazi ukuba wenze ntoni emini yemini, kwaye uyenze nabani. Oku kunokukhula ngokupheleleyo, umzekelo, ekufakweni kwePyware kwizixhobo zakho zedijithali. Umzekelo, unokuzisa iqabane elifuna ukuya kuthi ga ngokusemandleni ukulususa kwintsapho nakubahlobo.
2. Banokuthatha intsingiselo, emva koko baba "mnandi"
Amaqabane-abadli-mdibanimo banokwenza ulawulo ngawo amaxhoba abo, bonakalise ukuzithemba kwabo. Bakuxelela ukuqhuma ukuzithemba ngokwazo okanye ngokugxeka iimpahla, imbonakalo nento oyenzayo. Banokukhathazwa ngezinto ezinje ngokubaluleka kwakho, kwaye bacaphuke ukuba awufezekisi iimfuno nemigangatho yazo.Kodwa ngequbuliso, utshintsho ngequbuliso lunokwenzeka kubo - ngakumbi ukuba baziva ngathi banokuphulukana nawe. "Emva kwengqumbo okanye ingqumbo, ndicela uxolo kwaye isiqinisekiso sothando zihlala zilandelelana, ngo-", "andisokuze ndiyitsho into ngaphandle kwakho. "
Yonke le nto ayiyonto ibonakala. Abadlwendi beemvakalelo abanalo uvelwano - lolunye uhlobo lobuqili ukugcina amaxhoba aphantsi kolawulo lwakho.
3. Yonke into inengxoxo yayo.
Impikiswano ihlala ihamba kuzo zonke izibini, kodwa kulwalamano olucaphukisayo Umlinganiselo wamandla uhlala uhleli. Kodwa ukuba yonke into yokungavisisani iphelele ngoloyiso lweqabane lakho, ngokucacileyo ayisiyonto ilungileyo kubudlelwane.
Iqabane ngalinye kwisibini kufuneka likwazi ukungavumelani kwaye lithethe. Kodwa "iqabane elinomsindo" liza kuba lixhalabise ngengxoxo esengqiqweni kunokulawula wena kunye nezimvo zakho. Nguye, intsingiselo kukoyikisa.
4. Ngaba woyika ukuthetha naye
Unokufunda okuninzi malunga nolwalamano lwakho hayi kuphela ngendlela iqabane lakho elinayo, kodwa indlela oziva ngayo. Unokoyika ukuchaphazela izihloko eziphambili, umzekelo, ngenxa yokoyika indlela esabela ngayo.Ukuba uziva uneentloni - lo ngolunye uphawu ukuba yonke into ayilunganga. Umzekelo, iqabane linokuvela emsebenzini wakho ngaphandle kwesilumkiso okanye ukucela ukuba wenze isenzo esithile sokuba ungafuni kuyenza.
Isakhono sokuthetha sibaluleke kakhulu kungekuphela nje kwimpilo yakho yengqondo, kodwa nempilo yeqabane lakho. Ukuba akukho nto injalo, iyakukucaphukisa ukuqaqamba kwakho.
5. Nangona kunjalo, ukwindawo yokuqala
Mhlawumbi eyona nto imbi kakhulu kubundlobongela obukhulu ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo - ukuba lingakanani iqabane lingaphumelelanga kwaye liyinqambi. Rhoqo abantu ababoni ukuba baba ngamaxhoba de bonke ubomi babo buguquke, kwaye bungaphantsi kokuphuphuma komntu wabo.
Umdliwa -dlule-qabane kufuneka ihlale ingumbindi wendalo yakho; Xa uthobela, ke "i" "" ndiqala kancinci ukutshabalalisa de ube ungumlinganiso.
Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe ngayo
Iingcali zengqondo zichaza ukuba ukukwazi ukukhangela indlela yokuziphatha kwengxaki kubalulekile kuba umntu owonileyo uzakuzama ukukwenza ukuba kuzo zonke iiwayini zakho. Kwaoko kufuneka ucacisa imeko kwaye uyenza icace ukuba uzihlonipha kwaye ulindelembe intlonelo efanayo.
Ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kuyaqhubeka, kuya kufuneka ucele iqabane lakho ukuba lihambe kunyango. Ukuba iqabane liyala kwaye alinakukwazi (okanye alifuni kutshintsha) indlela aziphethe ngayo, lixesha lokuba uhambe.
"Ngaphandle kobuhlungu bokwahluka, iya kuba yingozi kunokonwaba kunokuhlala kubudlelwane bubundlobongelango.