Ukukhanya kwegesi yindlela ecothayo kwaye ibuhlungu yokukhohlisa ngomnye umntu. Olu luhlobo logonyamelo lwengqondo, apho umntu azama ukwenza ukuthandaza kwabo kwaye aqalise ukuziva "onesiphene". Ngamagama akhethiweyo "Ityhefu" ngokuthe ngcembe ingena kwingqondo yomntu kwaye idla nakuphi na ukuthembeka nokuzithemba kunye nolonwabo. Kwaye yintoni embi ngakumbi kunezo, kwangaxeshanye ixhoba aliqondi nokuba kwenzeka ntoni de kube kudala.
Ngoku ke ingqalelo-oku kwenzeka rhoqo ... kanye ekhaya, kwaye ukusuka kwicala lomntu wakho amthandayo, ophethe iqabane lakho linendlela efanayo yeqhinga. Ke, ukujongwa njani inkohliso ngokwenene kwaye yintoni eyenza ixhoba ukuba likholelwe kwinyani yeyona gama lingenakuphikiswa.1. "Unethamsanqa lokuba unaye umntu, kuba akukho namnye umntu ofuna wena"
Ungayigcina njani umntu ngo "leash emfutshane." Kuyimfuneko ukukhohlisa, ukunyanzela ukuba bakholelwe ukuba i-leash yeyona ndawo ibalaseleyo. Kukwanjalo nangeyisiporho; Abantu abanjalo babamba amaqabane, babamfamekisa ngethuba lokuba yonke into iya kuze yahluke. Isitshixo kukuba ixhoba linyanzelwe ukuba likholelwe ukuba usindiso lwayo lusindiso, oya kuthi afele ngesithukuthezi ngaphandle kwakhe.
2. "Konke kuphela entlokweni yakho"
Imidlalo yengqondo yenzelwe ukweyisela umntu ukuba uyaphambana, uhlala efumaneka kakhulu kwiimeko ezinjalo. Ukwazi ukwenyani kuyakwenza inkohliso kangangokuba neemvakalelo ezintlanu azinakuthenjwa ukuba amehlo neendlebe isishwankathela ngokupheleleyo. Nangona kunjalo, inyani yile yokuba kufuneka uzithembe, kuba ayisiyiyo yonke into eyenzekayo "entlokweni yam."3. "Akumangalisi ukuba unabo abahlobo abambalwa ... kunzima kuwe ukuba uthanda"
Kuya kufuneka ukhumbule oku kulandelayo: Akukho bantu 'bakunzima ukuthanda, "abanye abantu bathanda nje ukuzithanda, kuba bengazi ukuba kuthetha ntoni.
I-Masters-manliphars ayazi indlela "yokugcoba" yonke into eza kutshintsha ukuzithemba kokuzincama. Uphawu olunye olucacileyo lokuba i-gesi isebenza ngendlela abaguquka ngayo kwaye bazama ukushukumisa injongo yabo. Bakulungele "ukujongana nomntu, ngaphandle kwazo zonke (ezingekhoyo) ukuthoba komlinganiswa wayo." Amava kakhulu egesi iyahamba nangaphezulu, eqinisekisayo abanye ukuba ixhoba lakhe le "phambana" okanye "ingxaki".
4. "Kuyo yonke into engalunganga, unetyala"
Inokukhula ngokwenyani ibe yingxaki enkulu. Njengawo nawaphi na amanye amaqhinga, yonke into iqala nge, iya kubonakala incinci. Ekugqibeleni, obu buxoki bunokufikelela ngokugqithileyo, umzekelo, xa umntu etyhola iqabane kwiingxaki zakhe, ukuqikelela kunye nokuzimisela. Ngenxa yoko, ixhoba lihlala nemvakalelo rhoqo lehlayo kwaye lityhola ngokwakhe ngokoqobo yonke into eyenzekayo kwihlabathi elijikeleze yena.5. "Ndiyekile nje ukuba kutheni ubona ngokunzulu"
Nawuphi na uxinano lomnye umntu othanda ukuyizisa ekonakaleni. Emva koko, bangenakubalo ngokungacwangciswanga ukuba yayiyinto nje nje, nokuba inokuthiwa njani nzulu. " Akukho sikholelwa ukuba iqabane alityhefu, kodwa likhokelela kwinto oqala ngayo ukuziva unetyala kuba "unomdla kakhulu."
6. Andizange ndiyithethe "
Izibane zegesi zihlala zizama ukudida ixhoba labo. Bayakuphikisa ukuba izinto zenzekanga nje ukuba ixhoba liyababona, okanye, kwaye konke akekho lwenzeka. Ixesha elingaphezulu, akuthengiswanga ukuthandabuza ezakho iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakho okanye nokuzibuza ukuba awuyi kuphazamisa.7. "Uyazi, awulunganga nyani ..."
Umntu ngamnye uneetalente zendalo kunye nezakhono aziqhayisayo. Ke, usukelo lwe-gasladir kukuhlisela ixhoba ngalo naliphi na isizathu sokuthanda kwakhe. Iza kuqala kancinci kancinci, ngokucwangcisiweyo ukonakalisa ukuzithemba nokuzithemba, ngokubonisa naliphi na amabango kwixhoba kunye neetalente zayo. Okona kungcono, kuya kukujongela phantsi ukuzithemba, kwaye kubi kakhulu - uya kuqala ukukholelwa ukuba "kubi kakhulu kuxhomekeke kumchwephesha, yibani ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngezembeko."
Inyani yile yokuba uninzi lwayo okanye olunye luphume ukuba lubethelele, lungabonakala lubonakala lungenathemba. Yintoni embi ngakumbi, phantse ayinakwenzeka ukufumanisa i-Gralaphu, kwaye ekugqibeleni, abaninzi bakukuthinjwa kobudlelwane obuyibhubhisi kangangeminyaka okanye ubomi.