Iingcali zengqondo ziya zijamelana nemicimbi yabasetyhini abakhalaza ukuba babonakala ngathi babenolwalamano namadoda, bangabambili, ababumangalisayo, abanobulungisa. Makhe siqwalasele umzekelo. Ibhinqa liqhelene nendoda, bonke bakhula, njengesiqhelo: Ukutsala, imbalelwano, amagama othando, izincomo, kwada kwenzeke ngomhla.
Uyedwa umhla omnye, emva koko yonke into iqala ukuphela, abanye kufuneka babe neentlobano zesini, emva koko le ndoda iza kuqala ukuba ihambe, kathathu idlula kwiinyanga ezimbalwa, emva koko aqala ukuzifunda ngokwabo.
Emva kwento ethile okanye ixesha elithile, indoda leyo iqalisa ukuhamba kude nomfazi. Iqala ukufowunela kwaye ubhale, mhlawumbi ungaphenduli iifowuni. Uyala iintlanganiso, ubhekisa kwingqesho emsebenzini okanye ekuswelekeni kwamathuba. Ngesiquphe ukuqalisa ukhalaza ngento ethile, oko kukuthi, unengxaki entsatsheni, enezempilo okanye emsebenzini. Ukuba sithetha ngeemvakalelo, umfazi ubayeka ukuba baziva emntwini. Ubonakala ngathi akanamdla kuye, nangona wayethetha luthando.
Lo mfazi ungena kwi-stir, kwenzeka ntoni kwindoda yakhe, into ayenzileyo, ngenxa yento ayitshintshileyo. Ukuba akazifumani iimpendulo kwindoda, iqala ukubhekisa kwiingcali zengqondo.
Umzekelo, kwimeko nganye yonke into ikhula ngenxa yezizathu. Izizathu eziqhelekileyo zezi: 1. Indoda i-Alfons, yawokuqala laa mfazi wazeka kuye, emva koko wathambisa 'ukuba alambe "kuye nothando, kangangokuba wavuma ukusombulula iingxaki zakhe.
2. Umntu akaziyo ukuba ufuna ntoni. Oku kunokuba njalo.
3. Indoda ixakekile ngokwenene. Nangona kunjalo, kule meko, kungekudala uya kwanelisa umfazi xa athathe ingqalelo kwaye aqala ukufuna iindlela zokucinga ukuba akakhathali kuye.
4. Indoda yi-bachelor, ngoko ke ibopha umfazi onesifo sokungakhathali kunye nokudala ukungafezeki.
Eyona ngcinga iphambili yokuba umfazi kufuneka afunde, indoda ayifuni ukwakha ulwalamano olunzulu naye. Ngaphandle kwesizathu, akazange ayityeshele kwaye anikele ingqalelo kumfazi, akazimiselanga ukuba nolwalamano olulandelayo nolunzulu nalo.
Ngapha koko, kukho indlela yokwenza umfazi ukuba acinge ngaye: Kuthatha ingqalelo engaphantsi kuye, ngelixa ufumana ukunxibelelana naye ukuze ungacingi ukuba yahlulwa. Ke, kunokubangela nje umfazi ukuba abaleke emva kwakhe, cinga ngaye kwaye ade afike kuye.
Kodwa nikela ingqalelo, abafazi abathandekayo: Indoda ayizange idibane nentliziyo yakho. Utshilo nje (kwaye mhlawumbi akazange athi) malunga nothando, ukuhlawule imizuzu embalwa yokuthathelwa ingqalelo, enikwe imixholo eyahlukeneyo, ikwabonile okanye amatyeli aliqela achithe umhla nawe. Kwangelo xesha, bekungakuniki nantoni na, ayizange inike imvakalelo yozinzo kunye nokunyaniseka kweemvakalelo zayo, ayizange ibe yindoda yakho (iqabane lakhe), njalo njalo. Ngento omthandayo?
Imeko inzima kwaye ingaqondakali kubafazi abaninzi. Ungafumanisa kwaye uqonde ukuba ityhalela umntu kwiintshukumo ezinjalo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukwazi into enye-ngokucacileyo ayizimiselanga ukwakha ulwalamano olubi nawe, kungenjalo uya kuziphathela ngokwahlukileyo.