Ngokuzalwa kwabantwana bakho, umdla kwabazali abalungileyo baya ngasemva. Umntwana uba yindalo yonke, ngemithetho nemithetho, iminqweno kunye neemfuno. Abazali abasandul 'ukuchitha ixesha labo kwaye bachitha onke amandla ukukhulisa umntwana, zama ukuqinisekisa ukuba yonke iyimfuneko ebomini kwaye inike onke amabakala. Kodwa liyeza ixesha lokuba kufuneka ugqithisele imeko. Lo mzuzu uyeza xa abantwana bekhula, kwaye abazali abanyibilikileyo nabasenamandla bayaluphala.
Abantu abakhulileyo abasakwazi ukujamelana neengxaki zasekhaya, akufuneki kuphela ngononophelo kwaye baqwalasele, kodwa nakwinkxaso yemali. Ingca isafuna ingqalelo, imali, imali. Kukho ukungqubana kwenzala-Izixhobo zilahlekile kwaphela.Kwicala labathi, abanothando nenkxalabo kubaluleke kakhulu, ungaphoswa njani into ebaluleke kakhulu kubomi babantwana kwaye uxhela abasebandleni?
Zonke ezi ngxaki zithanda ukuwa emagxeni omfazi. Ngumntu ogxekayo ukuba yintombi entle, eseleyo umama ongenantlonelo. Kodwa gcina ibhalansi inzima kangaka! Kwaye nakuphi na ukuphuphuma kwemiphumo. Kwenziwe ntoni? Ngubani obaluleke ngakumbi - abantwana okanye abazali? Ngubani oza kuphila ngaphandle kwengqwalaselo noncedo?
Kuya kwenzeka ntoni ukuba uyachitha ixesha elaneleyo kubantwana?
Khetha phakathi kwabantwana nabazali kunzima. Kunzima ngakumbi kwabo banabazali ababalaseleyo. Nangona ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi ukhetho lucacile. Abantwana baqala ukumgama. Banesangqa sabo sonxibelelwano kunye nezinto abanomdla kuzo. Umbulelo kubazali mkhulu.
Abazali banike ubomi, babonelela ngezindlu, banika imfundo .... Uluhlu lwe-prorit lunokuba lungenasiphelo. Abazali bangabantwana, bomelele i-incamation, imvakalelo yomsebenzi kunye nemvakalelo yoxanduva. Abantwana bazama ukubuyisela izibonelelo ngamanye amaxesha nokuba bayonakalise impilo yabo kunye nezilangazelelo zabo. Kwaye ngalo mzuzu, abantwana abakhulileyo abakhulileyo, abanenyameko yabazali, banokuba baninzi, bakhubazekile, banomsindo, bakhathazekile. Ukutyeshela iimfuno kunye neminqweno yomntwana kunokucaphukisa iingxabano eziqhubekayo entsatsheni, khokelela kwizinto ezinzulu kunye nokuzithemba okungachaphazelekanga. Ukususa kwabo bavelayo, banokufuna ubomi bonke.
Ngeziphumo ebezingalindelekanga zentswela-nye inokuba:
- ubusela;
- Inkohlakalo;
- ihempe;
- ubundlongondlongo;
- uxinzelelo.
Ngokufikisa, xa umntwana eneemvakalelo ezingafunekiyo, unomdla kwizenzo ezikhawulezayo kunye nokuzibulala. Ke ngoko, kusoloko kubalulekile ukuba kufutshane nabantwana, ukuze wazi iingxaki zabo, iminqweno, iimfuno. Ngexesha, igama elilungileyo, i-hugs yethenda, ixesha elidibeneyo - Inqanaba elibalulekileyo kuphuhliso kunye nokuqulunqwa kwabantwana. Awunakho ukuphoswa ngeli xesha. Kubalulekile ukuba kunye. Nyaka ngamnye, inyanga, usuku, iyure ... ngeli xesha alinakuboniswa okanye lihlawulwe.
Ke ngoko, abantwana bafanele ukuba kwindawo yokuqala. Ubomi babo buqala nje kwaye buxhomekeke kuwe ukuba baya kuphila njani. Kuya kufuneka ukuba ube kufutshane nabantwana rhoqo. Ukuphumla kunye, sebenza, funda. Kwaye uncede abazali abalupheleyo. Kuba ukuhlonipha abantu abadala kunye nabazali, kubandakanya, kufuneka kubekwe ebuntwaneni. Kwaye ezona zifundo zibalaseleyo zizifundo zobomi. Bonisa abantwana kumzekelo wakho, njengoko kufuneka baphathe abantu abalupheleyo, abazali abalupheleyo. Fundisa abantwana abancinci ukuba bafunde abantu abalupheleyo, kwaye ulutsha luhlonipha kwaye lunceda utatomkhulu. Ukutsala abantwana ukuba banyamekele abazali abadala, ungabhatala ixesha kunye nelinye ngaxeshanye.
Abantwana kufuneka bazi ukuba ubudala badala lixesha elinzima ebomini, xa sikufuphi, abantu bomthonyama baba buthathaka, bekhusela, bethenga, bethenga ivenkile, bendwendwela oogqirha. Ubudlelwane obunobubele bunokuboniswa kuphela ngoncedo lomzimba, ababengenakuhlala benalo, kodwa namazwi afudumeleyo enkxaso, ukuthatha inxaxheba, uthando.
Kubalulekile ukuba ungazigqithisi!
Ukubonelela ngobomi obutofotofo kubazali kunye nobomi obufanelekileyo kubantwana, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba kukho nobomi bakho. Akunakwenzeka ukuba ungayihoyi iminqweno yakho, umdla kunye neemfuno. Ke ngoko, kufanelekile ukubabele amanye amatyala anxulumene nokukhathalela abazali abalupheleyo ukuba basondelelene nezalamane.
Akukho mfuneko yokuba yonke ingxaki ijikeleze indlu, ngaphandle kokushiya abazali bakho, akukho thuba lokuzithabatha nento. Umsebenzi olula, iiklasi ezilula zibanika ithuba lokuziva beyimfuneko kwaye luncedo. Abazali banokunceda abazukulwana ngezifundo ezithile, ezenza ubugcisa okanye ngemizobo. Umsebenzi wakho awuyeki phakathi kwabantwana kunye nabazali, kodwa ukuba ufunde ukunxibelelana ngendlela yokuba yonke into ikhululekile. Usapho olukhulu, olunobuhlobo alusosipho sekamva, kodwa umsebenzi wemihla ngemihla kunye neenzame ezidibeneyo. Ukuba unabazali abagqwesileyo kunye nabantwana abalungileyo, akuyomfuneko ukuba wenze ukhetho.