Rhoqo sifika kule meko xa yonke into ibonakala ngathi iqala kakuhle. Ubudlelwane babunjengentsomi, uthando kunye nayo yonke loo nto. Kodwa inguqu ukuya kwelona nqanaba litsha yenzekile, kwaye ngequbuliso umfazi ovela kwindalo yakhe ethandekayo, eyayinxibe umntu othandayo, iba lixhoba lomntu othandayo. Sithetha ngento embi kakhulu njengengcinezelo kubudlelwane.
Inokuba zombini ubundlobongela bomzimba kunye nokuziphatha. Ngapha koko, zombini ezi bonakaliso azicacanga apho zingasokuze zicace nto kwaye kwenzeka ntoni. Kodwa i-algorithm yokuphuhlisa iimeko ezinjalo zihlala zifana. Ibhinqa liyanyamezela. Ngoba? Ngaba yityala ngento ethile? Unotshe. Njengomthetho, umfazi nje akakufanelekeli. Ngokuchasene noko, kanye abafazi abathembekileyo nabathembekileyo bahlala bevelelwe kumlinganiso onjalo, ngaphakathi ngandlela zonke bazama ukugcina lo mbutho.
Kutheni njalo, kuba ukuba ubundlobongela buvele kubudlelwane, ayikuthembisi nantoni na elungileyo? Ngokuqinisekileyo ewe. Akuyi kubakho nto ilungileyo kulwalamano, kuba baya kusekelwa luloyiko. Kodwa kutheni le nto amabhinqa, abayiqondi le nto? Kwaye apha yonke into inzima kakhulu kwimbono yengqondo, kwaye leyo yiyo loo nto.
Umfazi uqwekelekile kwizinto ezimbini: uzigxeke kwaye ujonge ukuzithethelela kwiqabane. Nokuba yeyiphi into eyoyikisayo, kodwa, kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuba indoda ifaka amandla kwaye ngokuziphatha iqabane, emva koko ukholelwa ukuba yena uyangqubana. Oku kunokubangelwa zizinto ezahlukeneyo. Apha umoya wosapho, apho kwakhuswa khona umfazi. Kwaye ukufunda izihlobo ukuba indoda ihlala ilungile. Kwaye nje uthando olucocekileyo kunye nethemba lokuba uyakuqonda kwaye alungise impazamo yabo kwaye akaphinde kwenzeke.
Kodwa, nokuba yoyikeka, kubaninzi kakhulu - kuya kuphinda. Kuba isimo sengqondo esifanayo esiya kumfazi ayisiyonto ingako, kodwa le nkqubo.
Umntu ukholelwa ukuba kufanele kube njalo. Kodwa basadibana, wahlukile ngokupheleleyo? Ewe, kunokwenzeka, ngoluhlobo nje. \
Kodwa ke kwakutheni ukuze atshintshe kakhulu? Umbuzo uyabonakala. Kodwa i-psychology isixelela ukuba olu ludidi lwabantu abahlukeneyo, xa bengena kubudlelwane, batshatile, baqala ukuthathela ingqalelo iqabane kunye nepropathi yabo. Ke ngoko, nayiphi na inkcaso, nokuba ngumbuzo oqhelekileyo "uza kubuya nini namhlanje?" Uya kubonakala kwii-bayonots njengezikhubazekileyo. Ke ngoko, ukuxilongo kobudlelwane obunjalo kuyadanisa-abanathuba kwikamva elonwabisayo.
Yintoni umfazi? Iyanethemba lokuba ithemba lokuba zonke izinto ziya kuhlala zinjalo, njengangaphambili. Kwaye yena akanakuncedwa kule meko. Apha ufuna inkxaso kwabathandekayo abaya kuba nakho ukuyikhupha ezi sangqa zivaliweyo kwaye banike ixesha lakhe kunye nenkxaso ukuze baqonde ukuba ityala lakhe alunakukhathazeka. Kuba ukubetha - akuthethi ukuba uyathanda. Nantoni na awayengaxelelwanga kwaye akunamsebenzi nokuba uthenjiswe njani na. I-ALO, amanani esihloko asiphoxe. Zikhathalele kwaye ujonge ubudlelwane babahlobo bethu kunye nabantu obathandayo ukuba basondele ukuba kuthatha.