I-Nelekt yenye yezona ndlela zikhohlakeleyo zengqondo. Okokuqala, kunzima ukwamkela, okwesibini, ukungabeki kuphela kwiimeko zokufakwa kwexhoba, ke kulindelwe uncedo lwakhe.
Ngapha koko, ukungangeniswa lulwaphulo-mthetho olulandelayo, ngelixa i-nexlemaper ibonakala inyanisekile kwaye ixolile ukuba inyaniseke ngokupheleleyo. Umxhaphazi uyaqinisekile ukuba kubalulekile ukuba unyamekele intuthuzelo yayo kwaye ikwazi ukwanelisa iimfuno zakho kwaye wenze oku ngenkcitho yabanye.
Ngelishwa, njengokuziqhelanisa, uninzi lwamadoda lusebenzisa amaqabane abo kunye neentombi zabo, ngaphandle kokuzinzisa, kodwa kukondla ukuzithemba kwakhe kunye nokufumana amandla kumfazi. Akukho nto ifana ngokhathalelo lokwenyani okanye ububele angenazo.
Khumbula, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uvile kakhulu kumyeni wam okanye umfana othandanayo ngokunyaniseka: "Bendingazi ...", "Ndilibele ..." kwimeko, xa kunjalo babesesichengeni kakhulu kwaye baxhomekeke kuyo, umzekelo, isigulana, belambile okanye ngaphandle kwemali. Akukho bungqina buthe ngqo netyala, ngoko ke i-absurger ilula kakhulu ukuba ifumeke kwimbopheleleko kunye nemfuno yokuphendula indlela abaziphethe ngayo. Ewe, enyanisweni, ndalibala umsebenzi, ndaye ndakhwaza uMama wam, umhlobo wacela ukuba aphose kwisikhululo seenqwelomoya ... kwaye amehlo athembekile.
Enye yezona zinto zibonisa izinto ezingekho mthethweni. Kule meko, indoda idala umfazi oya kumyalela lo mfazi, athathe isigqibo sokuba ngubani, ukuba ngubani na, uya kuthengwa ntoni na, kodwa yintoni leyo oyifunayo, kodwa yintoni. Emva koko amabinzana aqala ukuvakala: "Ukuba awufuni - oko kuthetha ukuba ungalambi," kuyabiza kakhulu "(ngokunxulumene nenzululwazi elula." Kukutya okuyingozi kwaye iivithamini nazo ziyingozi "," asimkelanga. "," Ndiziva ndigula sisidlo sakho "," ndikuthenge oko ukuthandayo "njalo njalo.
Rhoqo, ukungakwazi kungqina ngokwamaxesha apho umfazi ekwikhefu lokukhathalela abantwana. Emva koko awunakumvumela ukuba ayokhokho ("usempilweni, kutheni ufuna"), engawuthengi amayeza ("ndilibele"), musa ukunika abafazi " Izinto ezibalulekileyo ezixakekileyo, andikwazi ukukunceda "), musa ukukhathalela impilo yakhe, umzekelo, efuna ukusondela kwangoko emva kwe-EPisiotomy okanye i-CSIAREAN EKUGQIBELWANO XA UMFAZI WOKUGQIBELA WAKHONA.
Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba enye yeempawu ezikhanyayo zentlawulo yentlawulo ijolise ekuthinjweni komfazi woluntu kunye nezixhobo. Umyeni ucela ukuba aguqulele umsebenzi olula, kufutshane nendlu ukuze akwazi ukunika ixesha elingakumbi kusapho kunye nentanda yakhe, ahamba nayo yonke intombi yakhe, kwaye ahamba nayo yonke Kwelinye idolophu, ukulungisa eli nyathelo kwimidla yabucala namathemba.
Emva koko unokulandela usulelo oluyimfuneko kumfazi wolawulo namandla: "Ndinika umfazi wam wonke umvuzo!", Kodwa enyanisweni, umntu okwiziphambuko, kuba uthatha umcebisi omkhulu wokuba yiyo Ukunyanzelwa ukuba ungamonakalisi usapho. Zonke ezona zilungileyo-ngabantwana kunye nomyeni, zihlala zikwenzakalisa yena. Abafazi, emagxeni olawulo olugqithisileyo kwinxalenye yonke ehlabathini, kodwa kwintsapho, iqabane, abantwana, bahlala bediniwe ukuba kutheni udiniwe). Ke, ulawulo kunye noxanduva-uchitha ubutyebi, uyatshisa. Kwaye kwimeko yabasetyhini, olu luxanduva kunye nolawulo alunikeli naliphi na igunya, olu luxanduva lwekhoboka, hayi umphathi.
Eyona nto imbi kakhulu ayinakwenzeka ukwahlula phakathi. Umyeni onenkathalo-vumela ukuba angasebenzi, hlala ekhaya, nangona kunjalo, umntu ohlala ugula, kodwa ngendoda enjalo iya kukhawulezisa ukuya kulungiswa. Umntu ongazange abonakalise umphandle wobuso bakhe bokwenyani, kwaye rhoqo xa uzama ukujonga rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka kwaye echaphazelekayo.
Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka ikhunjulwe ukuba kwezona meko zimbi, ukugxothwa kuphele ekufeni kwexhoba, ngelixa i-nelekletter ijongeka njengomhlolokazi othembekileyo, kodwa kwiminyaka embalwa ifumana idini elitsha kwaye ibali lisiya kwindawo entsha ujikeleze.
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Umona
Ngaba kufuneka ubone, ukubukela, Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba uvuye ngokunyaniseka kwezinye izinto zabantu? Ngaba iyakwazi ukutsala amandla ovuyo lokwenene okanye kuye kwakholeka ukwanelisa kuphela "ukusilela kokutya"?Imbali yosapho
Ukuba kukho ithuba, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba zinjani izinto kunye nosapho kumrhanelwa ekungakholelwayo. Ukuba kukho iingxaki zabasetyhini, ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo, obungaqhelekanga, okanye ukuntywiliseka kwemfazwe kwinkolo okanye ubugqi, ke kufanelekile ukuba nesilumkiso.
Ukungakhathali
Ngaba lo mntu uvelwano ngokunyaniseka, unobubele nentlungu yomnye umntu, okanye uhlala engenantlonelo kwabanye? Amadoda amaninzi acacisa ukungangqinelani kwabo ngumbandela nge-mascullby, kodwa akukho sibindi sokungakhathali. Kule meko, obu bundlobongela obufanayo.Ukukrokrela
Umzekelo: "Iqela labantu limi elunxwemeni, esi sikhokelo sithi: Nalu ulwandle olunesaqhwithi esakhe lwasitsho satsho latshona umfazi." I-Abyerer ithi: "Eli bhinqa lakudala lafa kuba abantu bakhe bafuna ukufumana ilifa." Njengoko besitsho, kuzo zonke iihlaya kukho ihlaya elithile. Ukukrokrela kukuyila i-schizon, ukubona ukuba yeyiphi, kufuneka ubalekele.
Indlela yokubaleka?
- Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba indoda isendleleni kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe iyafolika kuwe bonke abahlobo kunye nezintombi, iziqalekiso ngeZihlobo, "unokuzinyanzela ukuba uhlale wedwa emhlabeni," unokuzinyanzela.
- Ngaphandle kwesosi ayiyeki ukunxibelelana nabazali kunye nabahlobo abasondeleyo. Mabasoloko besazi ngezenzo zakho, izicwangciso kunye nempahla kusapho.
- Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba imeko apho indoda isebenzisa umngcipheko wakho kunye nobukhoboka bokunenzakalisa uphinda-phinda.
- Khumbula ukuba uwedwa, kwaye ubomi bakho bodwa. Owona msebenzi wakho ukuphila kwaye ube sempilweni kwaye wonwabe. Kwaye enkulu, ukhathalele ngaphandle kwakho kakhulu. Ukuba uziva ngathi awukhululekanga, okanye ubona isoyikiso ngqo kwimpilo yakho yokuziphatha neyokuziphatha, banokulula.
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