Ngamaxesha ngamaxesha, umbono olungileyo uya kulungiselela "ukukhangela impilo" kubudlelwane bakho. Mhlawumbi, akukho mntu uyimfihlo ukuba ukuba ungabutyesheli ubudlelwane, iingxaki zinokuvela, kwaye isibini esitshatileyo siya kuyiqonda ukuba ayifiki njengangaphambili. Ukugcina ukusondela kwaye qiniseka ukuba yonke into "ilungile" kubudlelwane, kufuneka uzibuze le mibuzo ilandelayo.
1. Ukhe ukufunga ngakumbi okanye ukuphikisana neqabane?
Ukuba umntu othile uvele ngaphezu kwesiqhelo, kufuneka uzibuze, ongumthombo wengxabano. Ngale nto kufanelekile ukuba ujonge ngaphambi kokuba ibe yingxaki enkulu. Ukuba uvumela ingxaki ukuba iphuhlise umntu wakho, inokukhokelela kwintlukwano kunye nokuphulukana neemvakalelo kunye.2. Ngaba uziva ngathi iimfuno zakho zeemvakalelo azinelisekanga?
Lo mbuzo ubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuba umntu ovela kumaqabane uziva ukuba iimfuno zakhe zeemvakalelo ayoneliseki, lixesha lokutshintsha into. Ukuba kwisicwangciso seemvakalelo olindele ukuba sibe sinye, kwaye ufumana enye, inefuthe elibi kulwalamano. Susa kwangoko ukrokrela ukuba omnye umntu usekhona, kwaye uqala ukwenza kancinci kwiqabane lakho ngengcinga "ukuba lenzelwanga kum, kutheni ndifanele ndenzele yona." Oku kuya kubangela ngokungathandabuzekiyo kwiingxaki ezinkulu. Kuya kufuneka uhlale neqabane lakho kwaye wenze uluhlu lwezi zinto ezintathu ukuya kwezintlanu anokuzenza ukuze afezekise iimfuno zakho zeemvakalelo. Zama ukwenza oku rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukubuyisela inkoliseko kubudlelwane.
3. Ngaba uyaphoxeka emzimbeni kubudlelwane bakho?
Isincamatheliso yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobudlelwane. Ukungabikho ngokupheleleyo kokuchukumisa kunye nokuncamathisela kukhokelela ekuphuculeni i-upupture, uqonde la maqabane okanye hayi. Ukuba unxibelelwano lwe-Tactile luncitshisiwe, kufuneka wenze umzamo kwaye uqiniseke ukuba ichukumise omnye komnye. Xa udlula kwiqabane, ucofe igxa kwaye ugxile ekuchukumiseni ukubuyisela unxibelelwano lwangaphambili kwaye uzive usondele kuyo. Ukuba bekungekho jath yokulala ixesha elide, kufanelekile ukuba i-alamu kwaye uzame ukulungisa yonke into, ukuqala ubuncinci kunye nokuchukumisa.4. Ngaba ucinga ukuba iqabane lakho libeka umsebenzi wakhe okanye ezinye izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka ngaphezulu kwakho?
Xa umntu engazivanga kubudlelwane obabalulekile kwiqabane, ukucinga kwakhe kuyaqala ukutshintsha, kwaye ufumana ezinye iindlela zokuziva ubalulekile. Rhoqo ezi ndlela zinokukhokelela kwiingxaki ezininzi. Xoxa ngeemvakalelo zakho neqabane- unokuziqonda ukuba uziva. Zama ukulalanisa kwaye ufumane iindlela zokwenza iimeko iimeko ukuze bobabini bazive bebalulekile omnye komnye. Ekugqibeleni, wonke umntu uyathanda, xa kubonisiwe kubo.
5. Ngaba uziva ngathi usetyenzisiwe?
Ukuba uziva usetyenziswa nokuba yeyiphi na imeko, iphakamisa ingxaki ngokuthenjwa. Kuya kufuneka uthembele ngeemvakalelo zakho. Ukuba iqabane lityeshela iimfuno zakho kwaye lihlala libeka endaweni yokuqala, lo luphawu olubi. Nakuphi na ubudlelwane obungafuneki kungekuphela nje "kuthathiwe", kodwa "zinike".6. Ukuziva ngathi, ukuba nobudlelwane, phosa into ebomini
Ngaba uziva unexhala? Jonga abanye abantu kwaye ucinge ukuba inokuba yintoni ubudlelwane kunye nabo? Ngamanye amaxesha bayayenza xa benomsindo kwiqabane labo, kodwa ukuba le yenzeka rhoqo, ngokuqinisekileyo kukho iingxaki. Kuya kufuneka uzibuze ukuba kukho izinto onokuzenza kunye njengesibini. Kukwakufanelekile ukuzama ukwenza into emnandi kube kanye ngenyanga ukuxhasa "i-scark" kubudlelwane.
7. Ngaba kuye kwafuneka uyeke ukuba nguwe ukuze ugcine umhlaba kubudlelwane?
Xa uyekile ukuba nguwe, uqala ngokuphila ngobuxoki. Oku kwenzeka rhoqo xa iqabane lihlala lizama ukutshintsha, ukuxabana ukuba awulunganga ngokwaneleyo. Umzamo wokuba ngumntu ongenguye, ngokungamisiyo yilahleko - wonke umntu ufuna ukuthandana ukuba ngubani ofuna ngokwenene. Yile nto inqwenelekayo ngaphandle kokukhetha. Kuyinto engenakwenzeka ngokupheleleyo, kodwa unokulalanisa kwaye utshintshe iintlobo zokuziphatha.8. Ngaba ityala leyona nto iphambili kulwalamano lwakho?
Abanye baqhubeka nokuhlala kubudlelwane babo kwimvakalelo yokuba netyala okanye ngenxa yesinye isizathu. Ukuba akukho luthando kunye nobuhlobo, kusenokuba lafika ngexesha lokuphosa iinjongo zabo. Impazamo ayisosi sizathu esihle sokuqhubeka ubudlelwane, kunye nobudlelwane bexesha elide obusekwe kwimvakalelo yetyala akuyi kukhokelela kwinto elungileyo.
9. Ngaba kukho imvakalelo yokuba 'ninika ", kwaye iqabane" lithatha "
Kufanelekile ukuzibuza - Ngubani owenza yonke imizamo kulwalamano lwakho? Ngapha koko, naluphi na ulwalamano, ngaphandle kokukhetha, kubalulekile ukuba lube nokukhulisa kwaye ubanyamekele, kungenjalo nothando olukhulu oluya kuba yintyatyambo ngaphandle kwentyatyambo ngaphandle kwentyatyambo ngaphandle kwamanzi. Ukuba uziva ngathi nguwe wedwa "osebenza" kulwalamano, lixesha lokuthetha kwimiphefumlo. Rhoqo inokuba ngabangaqondi okuqhelekileyo, kwaye nje ukuba yonke into ixoxwa, unokufumana indlela yokuphuma.10. Ngaba usebudlelwaneni ngenxa yokuba uziva ukhuselekile "kwindawo yokuthuthuzela"?
Ngapha koko, oku kukude nomzekelo omnye kwaye baninzi abantu abahlala behleli kuba bonwabile, kodwa ngenxa yokuba konke abakwaziyo. Boyika kakhulu ukuba ndingaziwa kwaye bakhethe ukuba yintoni eqhelekileyo. Akukho sidingo sokuvumela iinkolelo zayo ezilinganiselweyo ukuba ziphazamise ubomi obugcweleyo. Yibalikroti.
Ubudlelwane busebenza ngokwenene. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, abantu baneempawu ezahlukeneyo, imvelaphi kunye nezinto ezikhethwayo. Ukulalanisa, unxibelelwano kunye nokuxolelwa kufaka igalelo kulondolozo lobudlelwane obunempilo. Kuyimfuneko ukuqulunqa ezakho izilangazelelo, kwaye oku kuyakuba negalelo ekuvelisweni kwamathuba amaninzi okuzonwabisa ngokudibeneyo.
Eyona nto iphambili kukuba bonwabe kwaye uqhagamshelane rhoqo, kunye nokungakwazi ukufaka okongezelelweyo, kodwa bathethe ngokuvulekileyo kwaye baveze iimvakalelo zakho. Kwaye, ewe, ukufumana ixesha lokukhathalela ngononophelo. Ukuba zininzi izindlu ezijikeleze indlu, i-monotony nenkqubo, ubudlelwane buza kuqala ukufa.