Intlonelo yile, ngelishwa, hayi umgangatho wobuntu, ke ukuqonda kunye nemfundo kwiintsapho ezahlukeneyo kwenzeka ngokwahlukileyo. Ukuzama ukuphakamisa umntwana onesidima nenembeko, sikwakha ngokoqobo abathobelayo, besenza imiyalelo yerobhothi.
Sukuyitshintsha imisebenzi kwenye
Xa umntwana ebonakalisa ukungafani, elele phantsi kwevenkile enkulu okanye ephosa abantu abadlulayo abadlulayo, abazali bahlala bengaziboni ityala labo, baphumelele ngootitshala, abahlobo, kunye nendalo yakhe. Nangona kunjalo, ukukhuliswa kwentlonelo ngumsebenzi wabazali kuphela.Unjingalwazi uFrederick Rviyuyua, Umbhali wencwadi ethi "Imbali yokungasebenzi kakuhle:" Eyona nto iphambili kuye kolu suku "zibonisa isibongozo sobugcisa ngokungathanga ngqo Umzekelo wakhe, kuba ithiyori engaziqhelangayo kuya kuzisa naziphi na iziphumo. "
Ulilizwe eliphila kwihlabathi liphela, indalo iphela. Into oyibonisayo kukuzalwa kwakhe, iya kusasazwa ngobomi bakhe bonke.
Intlonelo = Intlonipho
Kutheni umntwana enokuthi "lo mhle" kwaye akanakwenzeka "lo mkazi uyoyikeka"? Kutheni ungatsho ukuba "awunantsingiselo", kodwa uyafuna "andiyithandi"? Intlonelo kukuba, amandla ikakhulu ngokuyintloko anyamezele inqaku kwaye abe nembeko kwabanye abantu nakwesibini ukuba ihlengahlengiswe kwihlabathi. Ukuthetha "Aunti Yoyikisayo" akunakubeki kuba kunokukukhathaza i-auce. Umntwana unokucinga njalo, kodwa kufanelekile ukuba uthethe ngokuvakalayo - Lo ngumba wokukhuliswa kunye nobuchule.
Bonke abantu bahlukile
Kubantu abohlukeneyo esibongoza ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ke, njengoko umntwana ethetha nabahlobo, akunakwenzeka ukuthetha notitshala. Indlela ayamkelayo ngayo ummelwane akalungelanga unina wommelwane. Umgaqo ophambili walo naluphi na unxibelelwano kukuhlonipha kunye nomnxibelelanisi.Isohlwayo: Ungamvumanga
Bonke abantwana ngamanye amaxesha baziphathe kakubi. Kuhlala kukho isilingo sokumangalisa igama "elibi" okanye okanye ukungaziphathi kakuhle kwabantu abadala kwaye ujonge impendulo. Le yenye enye indlela yokutsala umdla wakho.
Ugqirha wezengqondo ucebisa: Ukuba umntwana uyafunga okanye uxhathise ngokubonakalayo, kufuneka achaze, echaza into ayenzayo.
Akukho luhlu lucacileyo lweendlela zemfundo yeNkxaso-mali, yeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu yinto eqhelekileyo; Kuyimfuneko ukuchaza ukuba kutheni le nto imithetho imelwe ukohlwaywa ngokungathotyelwa kwabo. Ewe, eyona ngxaki iphambili yigunya. Ngaphandle kwegunya labazali, akunakwenzeka ukubandakanyeka kwimfundo-ithi thea de viargis, ugqirha wezengqondo.
Indumiso rhoqo
Nokuba umntwana uziphethe kakubi, qhubeka ungumzekelo wokuziphatha kakuhle kuye, kwaye xa ebuyele impilo yokuphila, ungalibali ukumdumisa. Wabamba umnyango ukuba nguMama - enkosi kunye nokudumisa. I-dill, ukubona ubumdaka abangenakhaya, nangona kwakumangaliswa kakhulu - chaza ukuba kutheni kungelenzeka kwaye kutheni inokwenzeka kwaye idunyiswe. Kwiminyaka emi-2 ukuya kwengama-4 ubudala, kunyanzelekile ukuba sidumise kwane "enkosi" - kwaye iya kungena kumkhwa. Hayi kwi-demex ukubiza "Enkosi", enkosi, enkosi.
Namhlanje, imbeko ngokwenyani, ingenalo ixesha: bhala ileta yombulelo, ukubuza impilo - onke la ngamaxesha onke. Nangona kunjalo, imbeko entle isafuneka kubomi bakho bobuqu. Okwangoku siva "nceda", kokukhona ndibulela kakhulu. Umntwana othobelayo uyakhula ngendoda eyenza kwaye ihlonipha yena kunye nabanye, oko kuthetha ukuba ixesha sisixhobo nje, kodwa sinembeko.