Akukho mntu uya kuphikisana nento yokuba isibheno sibonelela ngezinto ezininzi ebomini. Izifundo ezininzi zibonakalisile (nangona kunjalo, njengoko wonke umntu owayekrokreleka), ukuba abantu abahle kakhulu, boba bhetele ubomi babo. Kodwa bambalwa abantu abakrokrelayo ukuba umtsalane oqhelekileyo uchaphazela iinkalo ezininzi zobomi, apho kuyinzuzo enkulu kakhulu.
1. Izibini ezinomdla zinamathuba amaninzi kuqhawulo mtshato
Namhlanje, ukuba inani leqela lolwandiso likhula njani kwigwele, kwaye uninzi lwabantu abathanda ukuhlala kunye, ngaphandle kokutshata. Ungatsho nokuba iziko lemveli lomtshato liphelelwe lixesha. Nangona kunjalo, abantu abaninzi basazabalazela "isitampu kwipasipoti", ngelixa ngokucacileyo bengayiqondi ukuba umnqweno omnye ayonelanga kwimpumelelo yolwalamano. Olunye uphononongo lubonise ukuba abantu abaninzi abanomdla banomgangatho ophezulu woqhawulo mtshato kunokuphumla. Itshekishwa kwakhona nabantu abadumileyo, kwaye iziphumo zazifana.
2. Abafazi abanomdla baqhelekile ukuba basebenze
Ngokwesiqhelo wonke umntu ucebisa ukuba abantu abanomtsalane babonakalisiwe ukuba basebenze, kuba umntu ozingela ukuba uhlale ecaleni kwe "quasimodo". Inokuba yinyani kumadoda, kodwa ngabafazi imeko baphikisana ngokupheleleyo. Kwisifundo esiqhutywa kwa-Israyeli, ngama-2656 abaphinda bahlolwe. Kwafunyaniswa ukuba amadoda amaninzi anomdla ahlala ebizwa emva kodliwanondlebe, kwaye kunye nabafazi yonke into yayihlukileyo. Abafazi abancinci abanomdla babedla ngokumenyelwa emsebenzini. Umahluko wawubaluleke kakhulu xa abafazi babeziingcali (ezihlala zifumaneka rhoqo kumasebe abasebenzi adibeneyo). Abaphandi bafika kwisigqibo sokuba i-HR-i-HR-ekhethekileyo yababhinqileyo iyamangalisa ngokwemvelo kwabasetyhini - abafaki zicelo ababona njengabakhuphisana nabo.
3. Abafazi bonwabile ngamaqabane amancinci amnandi
Umtsalane uhlala uyinto ebaluleke kakhulu yokuba ubudlelwane buwile. Nangona kunjalo, inomdla, oku kusetyenziswa ngokwahlukileyo kwimigangatho, kuba abasetyhini bathanda ukwenza ngakumbi ukwanelisa ubudlelwane babo namadoda anomdla kunawo. Kuyavela ukuba abafazi abanobude banobuntu kunye namahlakani abanobudoda abahlali bonwabile kwaye baneliseke ngakumbi. Olunye uphononongo lubonise ukuba abantu abangakhange bathande ukuba "bazalise le nto", umzekelo, bachitha ixesha elingakumbi kunye namaqabane okanye "zama ezinye. Kolunye uphononongo, kwafunyaniswa ukuba abasetyhini bahlala benomdla wokubeka intlonipho kwaye bazame ukujonga ngcono ukuba abayeni babo banomtsalane kunabo.
4. Abantu abanomdla bahambe ngokubambisana
Ngokwembali, intsebenziswano kunye yenye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokuphila. Ibulela ngokusebenza ngokudibeneyo omnye komnye, abantu baphuhlisa ngokuthe ngcembe behlabathi. Nangona kunjalo, ngokungathi kungakhathazeki, abantu abaninzi abanomtsalane bangenzi ntweni. Abaphandi baseSpain bafumanise ukuba abantu abanamalungu amaninzi afanayo (enye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo ngokubanzi ezinxulumene nomtsalane) kunqabile ukuba zisebenzisane.
5. Ukuphazamiseka komntu kunye nokuncitshiswa kobomi
Uninzi lubuze lo mbuzo malunga nenxalenye yobomi, ngakumbi abo bangalinganiyo ngokubonakalayo ngokwembonakalo - ukuba siya konwaba ngakumbi ukuba sinomtsalane kancinci. Nangona lo mbuzo ungqineke kakhulu, kwaye kunzima ukuyiphendula, impendulo ayizukuphinda "". Umzekelo, iimodeli (ngokucacileyo ngokuqinisekileyo zinomtsalane kunomndilili ophakathi) zinokwenzeka kakhulu ukuba zibandezeleke ngenxa yobudala kunye neemvakalelo zokungoneliseki kwobomi kunabanye.
6. Abantu abanomdla bahlala bebothuka
Mhlawumbi abanye bevile ingxelo yokuba ngabantu abanomdla ayonto inomdla ukunxibelelana, ngokungathi buhle kakhulu. Ewe, i-stereotypes ayifane iyinyani. Kodwa kule meko, isayensi iqinisekisa uluvo ngokubanzi lwamkelwa ngokubanzi. Ngokutsho kophononongo, abantu abahle abathambekele ekuziphuculeni, kodwa bawuxhasa nje umfanekiso wabo. Abantu abanomdla ngakumbi, kokukhona banamathuba okwenza into yokuphuma, kwaye okukhulu ngakumbi ukuba baya kubhukuda babhukuda.
7. Kucingelwa ukuba izazinzulu ezinomtsalane zisidenge ngakumbi
Kuyabonakala ukuba inomdla ngokumodareyitha kwiindawo zesayensi kunye nezifundo kunzima kakhulu. Le ayisiyo "i-ofisi nje eqhelekileyo, apho ubuso bunganceda ukufumana ukukhuthaza. Zesayensi, ekuphela kwendlela eya empumelelweni kukukwazi ukucinga kunye nomsebenzi, kuba akukho namnye uya kunika, umzekelo, komhlaba ukuya ibhaso ngenxa nje yokuba unalo imbonakalo cute. Ngapha koko, inyani ichasene ngokupheleleyo. Abaphandi bafotsha ezinye izazinzulu kwaye bababonisa iqela labantu, becela uluvo lwabo kumgangatho wophando lweziyonzulu. Okothusayo kukuba, abantu babekholelwa ukuba izazinzulu ezingathandekiyo zisebenze ngcono umsebenzi wazo, kwaye zazisekwe kuphela kwizimvo zabo kwiifoto.
8. Amadoda amancinci amancinci anesihloko
Kucingelwa ukuba ukuchuma kunxulunyaniswe ngokungagungqiyo nomtsalane. Ewe, abantu bahlala bezama ukukhetha iqabane elihle ngakumbi. Nangona kunjalo, ngokutsho koPhando, abantu basetyhini basengozini yokukhulelwa ukuba ukhetha iqabane elincinci elinomtsalane. Inyani yile yokuba amadoda anomdla alala nenani elikhulu labasetyhini kunabalingane babo abahle kakhulu, eyona nyaniso ixhaphakileyo kwihlabathi liphela. Ngokutsho kwesifundo, isixa se-spermatozoa sikhutshwe ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo sincipha ngeqabane ngalinye elilandelayo xa indoda ihlala ilala ngesondo. Ke, kokukhona ngesondo ngakumbi kwindoda, ithuba elincinci lokuchumisa umfazi.
9. Abafazi abanomdla ngokubanzi abanomdla baxhaphakile kwimihla
Kwilizwe elikwi-intanethi lokuthandana kwi-intanethi, kubonakala kucacile ukuba abantu abaninzi abanomdla bamenyiwe ukuba bathandwe. Nangona iyinyani ngokupheleleyo kubantu, imeko yinto enzima ngakumbi kwabasetyhini. Kuyavela ukuba amadoda ahlala ekhetha abafazi abangamkelwa ngokubanzi, bekholelwa ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba baphumelele. Ngamanye amagama, ukuba le ntombazana ayinayo inkangeleko yobuhle, iyakonyusa ithuba lakhe ngomhla.
10. Abasetyhini bakhetha ubudlelwane bexesha elide amadoda angayithandi i-macho
Xa kufikwa kwimilinganiselo yemveli yomtsalane wamadoda, kukho izinto ezininzi ezihlala zithathwa njenge "madoda" kwaye intle. Umhlathi obizelweyo, uncumo olubanzi kunye namabele abanzi - nje kuphela, kwaye kubonakala ngathi amabhinqa azokubonakala esebenzisana neqabane elininzi. Hayi indlela ekulula ngayo ukuqikelela, yonke into ihambelana ngokuchanekileyo. Izifundo zibonise ukuba amadoda aneempawu zomfazi ngakumbi abe "amaqabane" afanelekileyo "kunabasebenzi babo. Nangona abafazi bakhetha uninzi lwamadoda angamadoda ukuba angaqhelekanga, athanda ukukhetha amadoda aneempawu ezilinganayo zobudlelwane bezexesha elide ubudlelwane bexesha elide.