Isibini ngasinye esongeza iipatheni zabo zokuziphatha kubudlelwane-ukusuka kwindlela abantu abaphila ngayo, ngaphambi kokuba benze indima ekhokelayo okanye olungiselela isidlo sangokuhlwa. Nangona iitemplates kunye nemikhwa ikwindalo kubo bonke abantu, ngelishwa, ayizizo zonke ezo zinethemba. Ngamanye amaxesha indlela yokuziphatha ethile inokubangela kuphela ukucaphukisa okuncinci, kodwa emva kwexesha elithile, umsindo, obuhlungu ngokulula.
Sinika imizekelo yeetemplate zetyhefu ezi-7 ezinetyhefu apho kufanele ukuba inqatywe ukuba ufuna ukuba nobudlelwane bexesha elide nobude.1. Imodeli yokunamathela
Ngokwesi sikimu, umntu omnye uziva ngathi ubudlelwane bakhe abufanekiweyo, kwaye enye ifuna indawo ezimbalwa. Lowo ufuna indawo, "ukhubekise" ngeli qabane kwaye unyanzele ukuba 'ubambelele "owomeleleyo ngakumbi. Ngapha koko, yenye yezonamodeli ziqhelekileyo kubudlelwane. Umzekelo, omnye umntu uziva ukuba indawo yakhe yokuthuthuzela ngumgama, ngakumbi emva kokuxabana, kwaye enye ivakalelwa kukuba kufuneka athethe ngoku. Ukuyilungisa, oochwephesha bengqondo bacebisa ukuba banxibelelane kwitemplate yeqabane labo. Umzekelo, kungcono ukubuza: "Ungathanda ukuthetha ngantoni?" Ukunika iqabane ixesha lokucinga ngale meko.
2. Ukubeka ityala kwiqabane lakho
Ngokuqinisekileyo, abaninzi baqhelekile ukuba imeko yokutshintsha ityala kwiqabane labo kwiimeko ezininzi. Abanye bababini banomkhwa wokutyhola omnye komnye kwiimpazamo zabo, nokuba kwenzeka ntoni. Le yeyona nto ityhefu kakhulu, kuba xa amaqabane etyholwa kuphela ngokugwetywa nangokuzityhola, aphulukana nethuba lokuba nobubele omnye komnye aze azive esondelelene. Okuchaseneyo nemeko enjalo kukuthatha uxanduva ngezenzo zabo, kwaye le yinto eyahlukileyo kubudlelwane bobuqhetseba kunye neemvakalelo. Ke ngoko, endaweni yokuba lixhoba lomkhwa, kufanelekile ukuzama ukuthatha uxanduva ngezenzo zakho kwaye uxoxe neqabane lakho, ngaphandle koko akukho nto ilungileyo iya kusilela.3. Umyeni eFrendzone
Rhoqo yenzeka ukuba isibini siya kunonophela abantwana babo, kodwa saphulukana nenkanuko yaphela. Zombini ziqala ukuphatha omnye komnye njengomhlobo okanye umntu osebenza naye. Ngelishwa, izibini zilibala ukuba kufuneka babe ngabathandi kunye namaqabane, hayi abazali nje kunye nabamelwane abajikeleze igumbi. Kuyimfuneko ukuba usebenze ukuthintela oku, okanye kufanelekile ukuzama ukuphinda imvakalelo ye "byterflies esiswini" kwakhona. Ungaqala ubuncinci imizuzu eli-10 ngemini yokuncokola "akukho nto", ngokungathi ngomhla wokuqala. Olunye uhlolisiso lubonise ukuba isibini esiphakathi, esinabantwana, nxibelelana kuphela nemizuzu eli-15 ngosuku. Ke kufanelekile ukongeza ubuncinci imizuzu eli-10 ye-carefree toter okanye ukudlala ngothando xa ungazixoxe ngeengxaki, kodwa cela ukuba "isiqingatha" sasilusuku.
4. Izikhalazo kubahlobo, hayi iqabane
Cinga ngale meko ilandelayo: Abahlobo baziqonde ngokugqibeleleyo iingxaki zakho, kwaye bahlala kwicala lakho. Nangona kuhle, kodwa ukuba oku kuyenzeka ngexesha lobudlelwane, kuya kuzisa ububi ngakumbi kunokuba kuhle. Ukudonsa umphefumlo kuphela kubahlobo bakho, ngalowo babonakalise iqabane elikuKhanya elibi. Ukongeza, kunokwenzeka ukubachasa ubudlelwane kunye nobuhlobo. Xa kukho into engahambanga kakuhle, kuya kufuneka ubuze umbuzo ngqo kwiqabane lakho kwaye uzame ukuxoxa ngayo yonke into.5. Umzali onomsindo kunye nomntwana onengqondi
Khawufane ucinge ukuba elinye lamaqabane alibale ukuhlawula inzala kwimali mboleko, ngenxa yebhanki ebeke isohlwayo. Akumangalisi ukuba elinye linokulahlekelwa ligazi elibandayo kwaye liyayikhubekisa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kwenzeka phantse kuye wonke umntu. Ukuthintela oku, ukusuka kwasekuqaleni kufuneka uzame ukwakha isimo sengqondo sokungalingani okulinganayo kwaye ungaphathi iqabane elikhulileyo njengomntwana. Ihlala ilula ukuyithetha ngokuzolileyo kwaye izame ukusombulula ingxaki.
6. Ukuqhayisa ngokugqithisileyo kwiiNtetho zeNtlalontle
Izifundo zibonisa ukuba ukusetyenziswa rhoqo kweenethiwekhi zentlalo kuchaphazela inqanaba lolwaneliseko lwabantu kunye nobudlelwane. Ngenxa yoko, oku kuthetha ukuba ngakumbi ubonakalisa ubudlelwane bakho, kokukhona isidingo sakho siya kuba kukungqina ukuba ubudlelwane bomelele. Mhlawumbi umntu uyakonwabela ukwabiwa kweDogamine emva "ukuthanda" kunye "nezimvo". Kodwa, kunokwenzeka, izizathu zinzulu. Oku kunokuhlawula okanye ukufihla ukungakhuseleki ebomini bakho kunye neqabane. Nokuba zithini na ngezizathu, kufuneka ugxile ekulungiseleleni iingxaki zakho, kwaye ungafihli into kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo. Isibini esonwabileyo ngokwenene sichitha ixesha elincinci lokupapasha iinethiwekhi zentlalo kunye nexesha elingakumbi lokudala iinkumbulo ezimnandi.7. Ukuzama ukugcina yonke into iphantsi kolawulo
Ngokwesiqhelo, kwimeko enjalo, umntu omnye ufuna ukulawula elinye na kwitrafini. Kwaye ukuze uhlale uzolile kubudlelwane, omnye umntu uyakuvumela ukuba uyenze. Kodwa konke oku kukhokelela kwinto yokuba umntu ephantsi kolawulo ekugqibeleni avakalelwa njengexhoba. Kwaye oku, ukuyibeka ngobumnene, akuyi kukhokelela nantoni na elungileyo kulwalamano. Ukuthintela itemplate enjalo, kuyimfuneko ukuba ubhenele kwiinkonzo ze-psychotherapist (okanye nabani na okuthemba) ukuba uqala ukuziva ukhathazekile kubudlelwane.