Ukungena kubudlelwane obutsha, siziva sonwabile noloyiko. Soyika ukuba siza kunika ixesha elininzi kunye nomdla komnye umntu okanye akukho nto izakwenzeka, kwaye siya kubandezeleka. Nangona kunjalo, kukho imibuzo enokunceda ekuqondeni ukuba ubudlelwane bethu busisigxina okanye buyeza nje. Yintoni ibonisa ukuba abantu abakumkhondo olungileyo ukuba bakhe ubuhlobo obude, obonwabileyo?
Ekuqaleni, kunzima ukufumanisa indlela yokuphuhlisa nabanye. Ngokutsho kwezazinzulu, ukwenzela ukumisela ukuba uqhubeka njani kwikamva lakhe, imisebenzi edibeneyo ye-15, njengokungena kwiqela, ikhonsathi, isidlo sangokuhlwa okanye ukuhamba. Emva kwala mava, inkanuko yomnye umntu ifikelela kwinqanaba eliphezulu, emva koko iqala ukuwa, ukukhokela ukwahlukana, okanye ubudlelwane phakathi kwamahlakani kuyakhula kwaye kunobudlelwane.Yamkela i-ufuphi
Ukuziphatha kunye nesimo sokuziphatha kunye nesimo ngeendlela kuneempembelelo ezibaluleke kakhulu kwimpumelelo phakathi kwabantu. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sizibona njani ngokunxulumene nomnye umntu. Kwelinye icala, sifuna iqabane lethu ukuba iqabane lethu libone okona kulungileyo, kwelinye icala, silindele ukuba singabakho, kwaye iimbaleki zethu ziya kwamkelwa.
Ukusondela phakathi kwabantu ababini kuyanda xa sisazi ukuba izikreqo zethu. Ngenxa yoko, siyabamkela, kwaye, nangona kunjalo, sukungavumi ubudlelwane. Izazinzulu zikholelwa ukuba indlela eya kuhamba ngayo ukusuka kwinqanaba lokwenyani, iyakungqina indlela amaqabane aziva ekhululekile omnye komnye. Ukuba amaqabane azive ekhululekile ngokuhamba kwexesha kunye nezinto eziphambili zokuzonwabisa, ubudlelwane buza kuqhubeka.
Ngokwezifundo eziqhutywa kukuthatha inxaxheba kwabantu abatsha, abo bagxininisa ukuba zingakanani na ukuba zilingana nolunye ulwaneliseko lungaphezulu. Ukwamkelwa kwezinto ezifanayo kubonisa ukuqina kolwalamano. Ukufana phakathi kwamaqabane kuyimfuneko ukugcina ubudlelwane bexesha elide. Umgaqo wokuba "umtsalane wezichasi" usebenza xa kuziwa kubudlelwane bexesha elifutshane. I-Clarkvest (2007) yangqina ukuba xa amaqabane ayafana ngokusuka kwimbono yemfundo kunye nobudlelwane, umngcipheko whwiphu uyancipha.
Ulwalamano olufihliweyo
Umgangatho kunye nexesha lolwalamano lwethu nalo luchaphazela ukwaziwa ngokufihlakeleyo. Inyani yile yokuba umbulelo kumava kunye nokunxulumana namava exesha elidlulileyo, ngokuzenzekelayo siyamkela ubudlelwane nomnye umntu. Yintoni ebonisa iimvakalelo zethu, phakathi kwezinye izinto, uncume, unxibelelwano olubonakalayo okanye ithoni yelizwi. Ngokutsho kwabaphandi, kokufakelwa okufihlakeleyo ngokunxulumene neqabane, eyona ndlela ikhuselekileyo yokuncamathisela kobu budlelwane.
Kwenziwa isifundo, efuna ukhetho olukhawulezileyo lwamagama ahlawulwayo ngokweemvakalelo ngokusekwe kwiifoto eziboniswe liqabane. Impendulo ekhawulezileyo enamagama afanelekileyo ibonisa isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kwiqabane. Kwaye abo babenesimo sengqondo esihle ngasinye babika inani elincinci leengxaki kubudlelwane ngokuhamba kwexesha.