Kwixa elidlulileyo, kwakungekho mibuzo malunga nokuba ngubani omele abuyisele imali ekhaya aze anike usapho. Ibhinqa liyalixhasa ifama engabandakanyeki kwindoda ngelixa usenza imali exhaswa yile fama.
Kwakukho i-tigid kwaye konke ukwahlukana noxanduva olucacileyo, apho umntu obhinqileyo angakwazi ukufumana umsebenzi, kwaye indoda yabekwa ngqilizi kwisofa phambi kweTV kwaye ingafumani mali.
Amaxesha atshintshiwe. Abafazi banika ilungelo lokusebenza kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba ezinye ezithile-thile zichaphazele ukuvela kweentsapho ezingaphelelanga. Ukubonelela umfazi akusavumeli ukuphelisa umntu omtshintshileyo. Kwaye le ndoda ayisoloko imthanda umfazi awayelala naye kwaye unabantwana abadibeneyo. Kwangelo xesha, amadoda anethuba lokuba evila, tshintshela umsebenzi ukuze ufumane imali kumfazi kwaye unengxaki yokuba uphumelele.
Kutheni le nto umfazi engenakwazi ukuba yindoda ephumelelayo? Lo mbuzo unzima kakhulu, kuba bobabini besini babeka ityala ngalonto ngamanye amaxesha baxabana kwaye babandezeleka ngenxa yokusekwa kwale ngxaki.
1. Uphononongo loluntu oludala. Kwiintloko zamadoda nabafazi abaninzi abaneembono afanele ukuba aphumelele ngakumbi. Esi sisiphumo semfundo esisasekwe kwezi ndlela zisetyenziswa ngabazukulwana abakhulu kunye nootomkhulu abakhulu ekukhuliseni abantwana babo. Indoda ngoku ineemfuno zokufumana imali kwaye inike usapho, ngaphandle kwento yokuba lo mfazi uthathe imbopheleleko efanayo, etyebile kakhulu ixesha lokhathalelo lwasekhaya. Kuyavela ukuba ubomi buhleli, kuba indoda engenamfazi ayinayo, kodwa ikwanjalo, ngaphandle kokusebenza, ndizama ukuqalisa phambili.
Iindlela zemfundo ezindala. Ukunqongophala kokuqonda ukuba indoda inokutshintsha kunye nebhinqa kwiindawo kwaye ibe yindlu. • Owayesengowemibono ukuba imali iwafumana umntu.
Konke oku kukhokelela kule ngxaki xa indoda iqala ukuba ivakalelwe kukuba intanda yakhe iphumelele kwintsimi yakhe yomsebenzi. Yena nendlu ayinakubakho, kuba "lo ayisiyonto ingumlindi, kwaye imali ayizuzi kakhulu ukuba ikwazi ukuva" intloko yosapho. "
2. Izinto ezifunwayo kwindoda. Ibhinqa linokuphumelela ngakumbi umntu, kodwa nkqu namanenekazi ngokwabo baqala ukufuna amachaphaza aphumelelayo kunabo. Umthwalo omkhulu ugqithiselwe emagxeni abantu xa kungekho luntu lulinde ukuphakama kunye nokuhlaselwa komsebenzi kuye, kodwa umfazi yena ufuna ukuba aphumelele ngakumbi. Inokuba yenzekile kumnqweno wokuthetha lo mfazi: "Ke, uyeke ukuphumelela, yehla ngamanyathelo ambalwa apha ngezantsi. Kwaye ngelo xesha ndiya kuba yimpumelelo kunawe. " Apha umbuzo uhlala uphumle kumandla, amathuba kunye neempawu zomntu, nokuba zisabelana ngesondo. Kukho amadoda anokufumana impumelelo, kwaye kukho abafazi abafikelela kwiincopho eziphakamileyo. Kwaye ukungakwazi kwabafazi abaphumeleleyo kukunyanga amadoda angaphumelelanga kunokuba enze amahlakani ukucwangcisa iimbambano ngesi sihlandlo.
Nika ingqalelo kwinto yokuba akukho mntu ufuna impumelelo emsebenzini. Abanye abantu bade baxelele abantu obathandayo ukuba abo bahlala ekhaya kwaye bathuthuzelekile nakubantwana. Ukuba umntu obhinqileyo uyaphumelela, indoda iwela imeko apho ingabuzi ukuba ufuna ukungaphumeleli. Ungumphambili kufuneka uphakame, kubaluleke ngakumbi, uphumelele! Ke ayifuni kungekuphela nje kuluntu, kodwa ungumfazi ngokwakhe. Ukukhetha umntu kuye, umntu ngamnye uthi amandla omelele, owomeleleyo, ophumelelayo, onobutyebi, njl njl. Ke ukuba ingaphezulu kwendoda ethile, ayifuni ukumjonga. Kuyavela ukuba umfazi ngokwakhe ubeke impumelelo kwindoda kwisikhundla: nokuba ucwangcisa, okanye asasazeke, kuba uya kufuna iqabane eliphumelele, kwaye uya kukhangela umfazi ophumeleleyo ukuba ajonge njengegorha kwimvelaphi yakhe.
Ithelekiswa neembopheleleko zabasetyhini. Ukuba indoda iphekishwe ngokukuko, hlamba iimpahla ngokugqibeleleyo, ungene endlwini, yenza ubushushu, ukukhulisa abantwana, kuphucule iimpawu kunye nezakhono ezilungileyo, ziya kuba zilukhuni. Ayifuni msebenzi, kodwa iya kuba ligorha ukuba liqala ukuyenza. Kwangelo xesha, umfazi ophambili ekufuneka eyinto yokuphambili afanele abandakanyeke ebomini kwaye abantwana baya kuziva bengakhululekanga ngokuchasene nemvelaphi ye "mfazi olungileyo". Umbutho uya kumdumisa kwaye uphile: "Luhlobo luni lwenkosikazi, ukuba umyeni wakho wenze yonke into kuwe?". Indoda ingenzeli indlu nabantwana, ngelixa umntu enokumnqama. Lo asiloxanduva lwakhe. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umfazi akagcini kujoliso lwasekhaya kwaye akakhuli abantwana bakhe, nanku apha, uya kuqalisa ukutyhila ngaphandle koluntu, kodwa nendoda.
Bona ipateni etyhalela amadoda nabafazi kwiingxabano kwaye bahlukane nokuba batshintshe ngequbuliso iindawo, baphumelele kwezo ndawo zinganjongo zenzelwe bona? Indoda ihlala ifuna umfazi obuthathaka oya kuba ngumfazi olungileyo wendlu (ungcono kunaye). Kwaye umfazi uhlala efuna iqabane elomeleleyo eliya kufumana imali eninzi kunaye. Kwenzeka ntoni xa indoda iphumelele kubomi bemihla ngemihla, kwaye umfazi uphumelele emsebenzini? Ayezakhiwe kwakhona, kodwa qhubeka uphila kwimithetho yakudala. Ngoku amaqabane abo kufuneka aphumelele ngakumbi. Kodwa baphi? Nangona umbuzo unokusonjululwa ngenye indlela. Umzekelo, ukuba umntu obhinqileyo uphumelele emsebenzini, ke indoda ifuna ukuba iphumelele ngakumbi kuye, iyaqhubeka nokusebenza njengangaphambili, okanye iqalisa ukwenza ekhaya kunye nabantwana, abangazange babandakanyeke kumfazi. Ukuba amaqabane omabini athabatha le mbono, ke usapho lwabo luya kuba namandla kwaye luvisisane.