Sonke siyakuthanda ukufunda iincwadi kunye namanqaku acocekileyo. Ngokukhethekileyo abo basixelela malunga nabantu obathandayo. Kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha sizama ukusebenzisa iingcebiso ekusebenzeni, ngaphandle kokucinga- kwaye ngaba umbhali uyazi kakuhle?
Siphendula. Umbhali walo mbhalo akakuko nje. Uyazi. I-Polina i-Widerdovskaya-Ingcali yengqondo yeklinikhi, i-guncelt eqinisekisiweyo, i-gestalt-quach kunye nesuphavayiza. Kwaye lo mbhalo malunga nento ekufuneka uyenzile ukuba kufutshane - narcissus. Kuba ngee-daffodils oh ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukunxibelelana.- Xa ukhetha i-IKran yakho, kufuneka ikukhethe. -Ndiyifumana njani into andinyulileyo? -Ufuna ukukubulala. // k / f "avatar" //Kwiminyaka elishumi elinesihlanu kubungqina bengqondo kunye neshumi elinesibini - kwi-psychotherapy yengqondo, ndamamela amabali amakhulu amabhinqa malunga nothando olungonwabisiyo. Ukukhumbula olona mabali lothando olubalaseleyo olunxulumene nokusilela kokuqonda phakathi kwamaqabane phakathi kwamaqabane, ukuguqula kunye nokuba sempilweni kwengqondo, ndiyaqonda ukuba phantse nakuphi na ukuba phantse kumxholo we-narcissism.Ithetha ngantoni?
Igama elithi "uNarcissism" namhlanje waziswa ngokwasesidlangalaleni. Yena ke, ubhekisa kwimbali yembongi yamandulo yaseRoma u-Ovidimi, uxelele kwiminyaka eyadlulayo eyadlulayo: Umfana wathandana nobonakaliso lwalo emanzini kwaye wasweleka ". Ukumamela eli bali, unokucinga ngokungathi "i-narcissism" kuthetha "ukuzithanda kakhulu." Isiphoso sabasebenzi bengqondo kukuba isenzo sekliniki sithetha ngokuthe ngqo."Kulungile kwasebuntwaneni"
Kukholelwa ukuba uNarcissus wayenomsindo, ukubanda okanye ukwala umama, ongazange athathe umntwana njengoko injalo. Ukugxekwa okuqhubekayo nokungandikhathalelwa kwabazali kunokutyholwa ngokudunyiswa okungafunekiyo, nto leyo eyayisenza ukuziqonda ngokwabo. Impumelelo engaqhelekanga nengashukumi, inyukele ezulwini kwaye ixhomekeke kwisiqingatha semini igorha lonyaka. Ukusilela ukuphelisa okanye ukungahoyi, kubonisa ukuba ngaphandle kwethamsanqa, akukho nto. Eyona nto iphakama kakhulu i-norcissism enkulu kwiintsapho apho abantwana bengaze banconywe kwaphela. Ukupheliswa kothando kumntwana kubi kunangaphambili. Ukupheliswa komntwana omncinci wothando kunamava njengaphakathi kwangaphakathi. Umntwana onjalo ufunda ukubandezeleka kubande kwaye agatya abazali, ngokuqhubekayo ukuphumelela impumelelo, ekunokwenzeka ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuqikelela ukuhlawula uthando. Ukuba umama uthanda iimbaleki eziselula, unyana uya kubeka iirekhodi. Ukuba umakhulu uyaphambana ngoncwadi lwasemzini, umzukulwana uya kufunda kwiGugu yoqobo. Kwaye kwimathematics pope imathematics, intombi enjalo iya kucofa kwibakala lesithandathu lomngeni owenzelwe ishumi elinanye. Ubuzile yintoni apha? Eyona nto ibalaseleyo yomnqweno wokufezeka- akukho nto. Ngaphandle koku, noqeqesho, okanye sebenza ngeempazamo, okanye ubugcisa okanye inkqubela phambili yezenzululwazi kunye nobugcisa, okanye nokukhula komntu. Ngaphezu koko: Oyena mhle kwihlabathi lethu wadalwa nguNarcissus we-narcissus (kwaye sisebenzisa). Ingxaki ikwelinye: Ukuziqhelanisa nengxaki yosapho, umntwana uhlawula isiphene esiphakathi emhlabeni.Ubomi buka-narcissus -
... Kukho intshukumo yaphakade yokuphucula, kuba ukulahleka kuye - kuthetha ukunyamalala. Ngamanye amagama, i-narcissi ihlala ikhona, into omele uyenze kwaye kwangaxeshanye - ihlala ithile. Kwaye ekubeni imvakalelo yokulahleka ngokwazo eyoyikisayo, ifuna rhoqo amathuba okuziphucula ngokwakho, ukudlula ebomini. Kodwa ayisiyiyo le nto imbi kakhulu. Abantu abangathandwa ngumntu, abakwazi ukuthatha uthando okanye banikezele. Ewe, ubuntwana begorha yethu yayiyintlekele kwaye yaphantse yamphikisa. Kwaye, ngokubonisa ukubandezeleka kwakhe, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uziva iintlungu nemfesane, njengam. Nangona kunjalo, usindile, i-narcissus ihlala ingahlali ematyaleni. Uhlawula umhlaba ngokutshabalalisa abo banxibelelana naye, besenza yonke into ayifundise abazali bakhe nabo. Ndifuna ukuxela ngakumbi."INkosana kunye nePauper"
Ngokwe-DedChotherapist Psychotherapist ye-Descotherapist Suma Numa, onke amaNarcisworisSworisSisS anokwahlulwa kwiindidi ezimbini. Makhe sibabize "inkosana" kunye "nomcelisi." Abantu Uhlobo lokuqala ("Abaqingqi") bajamelana nobukhali bokungafezeki kunye nokungafezeki. Umona wabo obuhlungu kwimpumelelo yabanye abantu ngamanye amaxesha uye waxutywa ngoxinzelelo. Baye banxunguphele kwaye baxhomekeke kumntu ongaphandle, kwaye bafuna imvume eqhubekayo, ethi kuphela enezikelo kuphela ekulangazeleleni. AKUFUNI ukuba baneliseke okanye bonwabe kuba bengakwazi ukonwabela ubomi. Indawo yobomi ibandakanyeka kwingcinga ebuhlungu yokuba ebomini akukho njalo. Ngenxa yoko, bachaphazeleka kakhulu kukunqongophala kwabanye abantu, kodwa boyike ukuba baya kubamba ngokusondeleyo, bebona "iimpazamo", bomelele. Daffodss Uhlobo lwesibini ("Iinkosana") Ziphathe njengeyona nto ichasene nesona phulo bize, kwaye zihlala zifunyanwa ngabo bantwana noodade abo uya konwaba .. Abawaboni amava abo aphakathi - intlungu engafanelekanga. Kulo mzekelo, ukhuselo engqondweni ixesha elide kakhulu (emva bonke, bancedisana umntwana ukuze zisinde!), Ngenxa yoko, abantu ngaphandle abanjalo uzinzile ukuya 'unrehadable. " Baqinisekile ukuba bagqibelele! Bafihla ikratshi labo elingenasiphelo, ngcono, ukuphakama kwabo krelekrele. Ukuba (ngokufutshane) wangena isangqa of okuvota, "iNkosana" Angáthini na ukuzalwa imfihlelo ukuvuma kuwe ukuba lo mntu mkhulu ehlabathini. Kwindawo yesibini - kwakho, ekubeni nembeko elizukiswayo ukwazi imfihlelo. Ikratshi izwekazi lisebenza njengokhuselo nomona ( "I kungcono kunokuba"), kunye nokuzithemba - ukukhuselwa kufutshane ( "Andikwazi ukumelana nawo ngaphandle nabo"). Ewe, iinkosana nazo zijongana neengxaki zokuseka ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, kodwa ungaze uyiqonde indima yabo kuyo. Ewe, kwaye ngokubanzi kubonakala ukuba onjalo makangakhohlisi njengoko nobuhlobo, ukhathazekile kancinane. Ngapha koko, phambili zizinto ezinkulu! Zithini izinto eziqhelekileyo kwiindidi ezimbini ezohlukeneyo zabantu? Isibakala sokuba abo kunye nabanye baphelelwe kukungafezeki, kuba "bangcono" - kwaye kukho indlela enye eyaziwayo, apho uthando lwabanye lunokufakwa khona. It ngokwahlula yokuqala ukusuka yesibini kuphela ngokungathi oku kubandezeleka. Ukuba kwimeko yokuqala ngayo ze kwaye kubuhlungu, ngoko ke wesibini - ngokutsha yi ukhuseleko ngokwasengqondweni de unrecognizability epheleleyo. Abalingane banobukhali, kangako ngakumbi bajongana noncedo lwe-Psychoupic. "Izikhulu ', phezu koko, ngokuba uncedo musa isicelo phantse naphakade; ubunzima ekubeni sisondele. Kodwa eyona nto iphambili kugxilwe kuyo kukuba ngaphakathi kwi "Prince" "yinkosana" (kwaye echasene), kwaye engaqondi ngaphandle komnye. Ke masihlangabezeni noko iinkosana zenziwe ngokwenyani.Qala: Isangqa esibi sokuqaqanjelwa
Imfihlelo eyoyikisayo ye "Prince" kukuba uthandabuzekile kwixabiso lakhe, kwaye ukuvuma kwakho kukutya okuphambili. Ke kaloku, akubon 'ukuba ubone ukuba awuqinisekanga kuyo, uya kukushiya kwaoko, ngenxa yokufuna lowo uya kumjonga ngomlomo. Kodwa ukuba, ukanti, qaphela ukuba yintoni eza kwenzeka? Okwethutyana yonke into izakulunga. Kuba i-daffodils ihlala ilumkile, inkosana yakho iya kukhankanya ngokukhawuleza kwaye iya kuba ngoyena mntu uthandwa kakhulu. Iza kukuzisela iintyatyambo zakho ozithandayo okanye iingubo zelungelo elifanelekileyo (kuxhomekeke kwinto ebangela eyona meko inamandla). Ukuba uyayithanda iholo yemidlalo yeqonga, uya kuthenga itikiti nje apho ubuphupha khona. Ukuba uhamba ngakumbi epakini, ayivumi ngayo okwethutyana: ukuhamba nje nje. Uya kufunda ulwimi lwakho. Uya kufunda ukuhlekisa ukuze ugculelwe kwaye uphulaphule ukuze uyakholelwa ukuba wazama ukuchukumisa ibali. Ezinye (zimfutshane kakhulu) ixesha oya kulonwaba. I-Narcissus inokuba lolona love lubalaseleyo, onalo owakhe wadibana nalo, kwaye lungabi nalo lonke. Kuxhomekeka ekubeni yeyiphi indawo yobomi enyulwe ngayo ukuze aziqinisekisile. I-Narcissus ihlala ilula ukuyazi: Awusoze ukwazi ukudibana naye ngokweemvakalelo. Kula maxesha, xa ulufumana imbono yakhe, kwaye unethemba lokuphumla, ezine nge-dibanisa kwaye ezintlanu nge-thais kwingqondo yakhe yawa ngokukhawuleza kwinqaku lesine. Akwanelanga kuwe: Uthatha phezulu ngokuphakama njengoko enguMthandi omangalisayo. Njengoko sele sisazi, imvakalelo eyoyikisayo ye-Sarcissus engaphakathi ye-Inrid inokuhamba kuphela ngendlela enye - ukuthantamisa. I-irany kukuba nokuba ingakanani na, ayonelanga, kuba ukungabikho ngaphakathi akunakwenzeka ukuba uvale ngaphandle. Nokuba umthandile kangakanani na, kwaye nokuba uyaphila kangakanani, uya kuhlala eyinto okanye kancinane, kuba yena, enzonzobileni womphefumlo, engakholelwa ukuba into ethile ifanele into. Ihashe, njengehashe le-munhhausen; usela enye yesiphelo sakhe, thula kwenye. Nje ukuba ujonga emehlweni akhe, uthi: "Umhle," kwaye, umgculelo, uya kuphendula uthi: "Nawe uyakuphendula." Kwaye ubukhali owoyikisayo uyakuqonda ukuba zonke iimvakalelo kwimanyano yakho zikho kuphela.Ukuqhubeka: Umona kunye "oodade abaselula"
Khumbula: USarcissus ongenantlonelo, kuba umona luqhubekile ukuqhubeka kokungoneliseki kuye. Kwaye uNarcissis uyakhanyela ngokungapheliyo ukuba abe nomona: Ngaphandle koko, ngaphandle kolo hlaziyo lubuhlungu, luya kunyamezeleka kwaphela. Umona we-Sarcisis 'Udade Omncinci' - ezinye izinto zobuqu, ezibonakalayo kubudlelwane: Ukungabi nambulelo, ukungakwazi ukucela uxolo kunye nokubanda. Umbulelo uthatha ukuba umntu unento endiyifunayo, kwaye oku kuyandithoba. Ukuzisola kunye nokukwazi ukuxolisa-kwakhona, kuba kungenjalo kuya kufuneka ukuba iqonde ukuba inkosana yakho iphosakele. Ukubanda kwe-Narcissus kuchazwa yinto yokuba ukutyhileka ngokweemvakalelo kubonisa ubuhlanya, ukuthembana kunye nokuphelisa imida. Kananjalo uNarcissa, oku kukufa, kuba ngelo xesha akayi kuba nako ukuyilawula indlela emnandi ngayo.Yintoni elandelayo?
Kuba i-narcissus ayinakukwazi ukusondelelana, "Uthando" lukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza luqala ukumdinisa. Kwaye ukusukela oko ingekuko ukuba ukusondela, ayikwazi kukonyula lula kuwe. Ke ngoko, kwakanye endaweni yenkosi ebalaseleyo, uya kufumana isidalwa esizinzileyo, sakhathazeka ebusweni bakho kwihlabathi liphela. Ukuba akakhathali ukuba ahlale eyindoda ethambileyo, ngequbuliso elala kakhulu engca ecaleni kwendlela okanye "ngamathuba" aya kuyilibala malunga nentlanganiso. Ukuba kufuneka umfanekiso, ubuza ngentlonelo kakhulu, awuyiphuli ngentloko ngasese xa wayesemphefumlweni. Xa uhleka, wabuza ukuba loluphi uhlobo ulwalamano oluhle kwihlabathi liphela, into enje: "Awunayo i-uhleka enkulu." Ukuhleka, ewe, ubambelela emqaleni wakho, kodwa kwakamsinya nje ukuba uzenzele, kuyavuma ukuba, uthi, kufuneka uphuphume amachaphaza eeglasi, tshintsha i-tutorial kwi-Logic kunye phucula inkumbulo, kuba ukuxelela ngomphetho okwesibini, kodwa malunga nengcinga kwisihlanu ... kwaye ngokubanzi, uyakufunda ukuba awungqinelani nawo ngenxa yenu i-whims ezincinci. Ukuba usekunye naye, ke iya kuba mbi. Nje ukuba wohlwaye umshicileli, kuyavela ukuba akwanelanga nabahlobo bakhe. Xa uqala ezindlebeni ukuze uncume kubahlobo bakhe, kuya kuba kukuba ungabhengeza uncumo utyelelo kugqirha wamazinyo. Xa uphula, kuvakala ukuba, ugweba ngesitayile sengxoxo yakho, awuzange ufunde incwadi yelogic. Kwaye, xa, uya kuphosa ipleyiti kuyo, uya kuba negalelo kunye nekomityi yakhe ethandekayo (eyenye yeendebe zakho zangaphambili zahlukana nemeko efanayo).isiphelo
Ukuba awumthandi, uya ngoku. Kodwa ukuba awumthandi, ungayifunda? Ibhonasi, ngubani olinde wena ekupheleni kweMarathon - uya kuba ngcono. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, akukho mntu ubuhlungu incwadi ye-Logic, okanye utyelelo olungaphezulu kogqirha wamazinyo, okanye isisu esisicaba. Isomvu ohlawulelweyo eli lixesha lokufunyanwa konyaka kwindawo yokuzivocavoca e-Elite - inkolelo eyoyikisayo ngokwayo kunye nemvakalelo yokuba ingenguye abo baphupha ngokwenza i-daffins yonwabile.* * *
Intlekele ye-narcissism inkulu ngaphakathi, ngokungabonakaliyo ngaphandle. Khumbula into enye: Nokuba unethamsanqa kangakanani inkosana yakho, uhlala eyingxaki ngaphakathi, kwaye uyazi ukuba akanantsingiselo. Uxolo, lube nokufana nolonwabo, ukumtyelela okomzuzwana xa wafumana amanqaku kwinyathelo elilandelayo lezitebhisi ezikhokelela esibhakabhakeni. Esona sidenge siyithandayo, ongaphantsi uyasixela ukuba isizathu sokulangazelela ubunzima kunye nokungoneliseki kwelizwe kuyo. Kwaye okukhohlakeleyo kuya kukuphucula njengenxalenye yeli lizwe lingelilo. Intyatyambo yakho entle entle, eyomeleleyo iya kuba nexhala, hayi ihlabathi kwaye akunjalo. Intetho yemihla ngemihla yokuziphucula ngokwakho ayizukuba njalo, kodwa ayiyi kwahlukile. Akasoze afumane ubushushu bokwenyani kuwe; Akakwazi ukukuphulaphula ngokunyaniseka, ukuba uziva kakubi kwaye "uyabuhlungu"; Akayazi indlela yokuzisola kwaye akakwazi ukuxhasa ngokweemvakalelo. Ngamafutshane, akukho mntu unjalo kubudlelwane nawe.Emva kwegama
"Andinalwazi lokuba ndithini umfazi. Ukungaphumeleli kwaye ubuthathaka kuya kuba nomsindo kwinto yokuba uyandicaphukela. Ukuphumelela kwaye uzimele kuya kundichukumisa imvakalelo yomona kunye nokuthotywa. Ndidinga intombi eyomeleleyo, impumelelo yakhe ndiza kujoyina lonke ixesha: Ngaphandle koko andiphindi. Kwaye ndichasile kakhulu kum xa ndithetha. " Esi sicatshulwa sithe senze omnye wabathengi bam, hayi kuzo zonke ii-narcissus: USarcissus onyanisekileyo nonkalipho akakwazi. Kodwa ngamnye kubo uziva ngathi. Ke ngoko, ukuba, nangona kunjalo, gqiba kwelokuba uhlale, uzigcine ngokwenyani yokuba ii-daffodils zikhethe ezilungileyo, kwaye ngenxa yoko inkosi yakho inyule. Kodwa ukuba ucinga ukuba le nto ingazi inokuphilisa endaweni yothando, uphoxekile. Umbhali wombhalo: I-Pelina inike i-gedinavskaya, http://gavedovskaya.ru/