Elinye i-Intanethi ye-Intanethi ye-Intanethi ye-Intanethi ifakelwe i-subtitle "eyona nto imbi kwihlabathi eliphantsi emhlabeni iya esikolweni ukuba idle apho wonke umntu." Emva kwemiyalelo kulwimi oluhlekisayo, abameli boovimba baqalisa ukubonisa ukuba ayisiyonto engenasithukuthezi, kodwa ngenxa yokuba bengafuni ukukhubekisa nabani na.
Yintoni imbi kwi "Sheading"? Kutheni ungahlekisi? Iingcebiso "zivuka ngokwakho" zihlala ziva abo baba ziithagethi zeFatfobic, i-Luuki, misobine, ubuhlanga kunye namanye amahlaya anocalulo. Umsebenzi wokuhlekisa kukubonakalisa ukungabikho kokusesikweni kwezentlalo, gcina imeko, susa uxinzelelo. Kodwa hayi ukubetha umntu owenzakalisayo, ukuba angabomeleli obo birrarchy, musa ukwahlula phakathi kwabantu abahlonitshwayo kunye nabo banokuzonwabisa kuwo, njengoko bengabalulekanga. Cacisa (ukuxhasa ucalucalulo) ukugxothwa. Inqaku.
ISIMEMO SOKUFAKA UMNTWANA WOKWENZA INXAXHELWANO YOKWENZA NGOKWENZAYO-LIYAFUMANEKA. Esi sisikhundla esilula kakhulu - ukucacisa uburharha obukuko kunye nokuziphatha okuhle "ukungabikho kwesithukuthezi" kwixhoba. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, xa yonke into ingena kwindiza ye "Joke" - inokuba nenkani, akunjalo? Ingakumbi ukusukela kwi-ta "ye-Zhiruha" okanye "ukungasebenzi" yinyani "ngokwenene", akunjalo? Abantu abanazo okanye ezinye iimpawu zomzimba ezikhoyo ukuze badibanise abanye, akunjalo? "Ke kutheni le nto bacinga ukuba iziqhulo zikhubekise idilesi yazo, kuyahlekisa kakhulu - yahlukile kuninzi. Umfazi opheleleyo akanamdaniso wokukhwela abanye, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ethanda ukudanisa? Ngaba uyazi ?!
Ixhoba, elixhathisa, elibonisa ukungabikho kokuboniswa - kuyingozi. Unokutsala aboni bokugweba. Ngobuninzi, bambalwa abantu abafuna ukuziva isikimi kwaye, ngakumbi, akukho mntu ufuna ukohlwaywa. Yonke into, ukuqonda, ukuqonda ukuba bayakhubekisa abo bangazange bayicaphukise. Kodwa abantu abahlekisayo ngale ndlela abayithandiyo ukuba bazive bebaluleke kakhulu, benobuchule, bomelele, bomelele, baqhelekile. Ukuhlekisa kukwayindlela yokohlwaya. Kodwa inye into, xa sikhwela igosa elikhohlakeleyo okanye lithambekele kakhulu kulawulo lwamadoda - akunakulindeleka ukuba baphulukane namandla abo kunye namandla ethu.
Ekugqibeleni, i-val yobutyala, nangona ihleka malunga nengxaki - ayithethi ukuyicombulula). Kodwa amahlaya ngaphezulu kwabantu abamnyama, umzekelo, ngokusemthethweni ukwenzakala, amahlaya malunga "neentsana eziziziyatha" ngesini esinye seSteries Stereotypes kwaye, kwangaxeshanye, ukuhlutha amabhinqa ilungelo lokwenza impazamo. Kufuneka okanye sihlale siphila ngexinzelelo, ukoyikwa ngokungqongqo ukuba kuhlekise, kuba ngaphakathi ukuqaphela ukuba yinto yokuhleka, okanye ukujoyina le ndlu yakho enoyolo . Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, oku akukutshutshiswayo - le "nje" nje "nje" yinguqulelo yokukhanya kwengqondo, okuthethayo - ngenxa yobundlobongela obungakhuselekanga.
Ukuhleka yisenzo esimnandi. Ngokuphathelele kumzimba, iHormonight, imnandi kakhulu. Ukuhleka ngaphezulu kwexhoba le-etking lenza ukungcatsha emnandi, ngaphandle kwexesha lalinomtsalane kumkhathaleli, wayenomtsalane kwimvakalelo yokugqwesa ekuzipheni kwakhe. Ngaphezulu kokufakelwa buthathaka kuba kunokwenzeka. Kwaye ngequbuliso akunakwenzeka, ndiqinisekise ukuba idini lithathe imeko ngokuhlekisa.
Hayi, ucinga ngokunzulu, ngaba ucinga ukuba ndihlekisa ngohlobo lomzimba wam? Ndiyahlekisa kuba ndilahla ukutya, ndingakoyiki umlomo? Ukopha kwam ngenyanga, kuhamba kunye nee-spasms, kwaye indlela yam yokungakhathazeki iyahlekisa? Kwaye, ndiyeke, ndiyagculela ngenxa yento oyihlekisayo kum, kwaye ndizilahlile? Ndihlekisa kakhulu, ewe. Kunjalo! Nika icwecwe kwi-spasms, iBanderlogs, ukuba ufuna "inkxaso". I-Dearonia yinto entle xa ingayi kuzithemba. Ngamafutshane, ndiyazi ukuba sisasazeke njani. Kumsebenzi wam, kulungile kuyanceda, kodwa nditshisa rhoqo izidlo. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo, ndiza kubona iSaucepan etshisiweyo ihlehlisiwe kwaye ibhale umhlobo: "Ndingumama weempungutye! Ipani yoyisiwe, ipasta ikhutshelwe kwaye ijoyine umkhosi wam! ". Kodwa xa betyhefu esikolweni ngenxa yobume bekhaka kunye nobungqingqwa beeglasi kwaye baqulunqa zonke iziqhulo ze-chick ngayo-ndandingenasizathu sokungazithembi. Akukho nto ihlekisayo entlokweni yam. Kwaye ilungelo lokufumana iziqhulo malunga nendlela endiza kuzoba ukuba uzaphula iiglasi, akukho mntu. Kwaye hayi, andizukuvumelana nento yokuba umbono wokufumana amanqaku entloko yam iyahlekisa. Khumbula: "Zihleke ngokwakho" - ayisiyo "zihleka aboni bakho." Sukuxhasa abo bakukhathazayo. Awuhlekisi. Into eyenzekayo kunye nawe ayihlekisi.
Ukuhleka kunokuba yindlela yokusabela kwinto engalindelekanga, kubuhlungu, ukunganyamezeleka kwetyala, - oko kukuthi, enyanisweni, kunokuba yinto ehlekisayo okanye into ehlekisayo. Ngokubanzi, oku kukuphendula okuqhelekileyo kwiziganeko zehlabathi elijikelezileyo. Kodwa "zihleka" kubantu abakugculelayo - bathetha "ukuhlekisa ngani", "yibani nexhoba", "khuseleke, uqiniseke Sihlambuluki asihlekisi. Yihleka into yokuba ukhanyele - kuthetha ukuqondwa yingxaki kwaye uvumele ukonakaliswa ukuze uqhubeke, kanti loo nto imele imiswe. Musa ukoyika ukuba nzulu. Musa ukoyika ukubonakala ngathi uyadideka okanye unesithukuthezi. Zininzi izizathu zokuhleka. Ke lona ubundlobongela obuthile kuwe anikho namnye kubo.
