Umbhali kunye nombhali uAnna Kozlova baxelele iinethiwekhi zentlalo, ezifanayo nobomi bukanina abukho kwi-cinema kunye neemagazini zabasetyhini eziqaqambileyo. Besifuna ukuthi siyampapasha iposti yakhe njengembono yangasese, kodwa bacinga kwaye bagqiba kwelokuba siyavuma nje ukuba sivumelane naye.
Ndiziva ndilungile kubukhoma, andikhathali. Ke ngoko, bonke abantu basetyhini abahlala kwimanyani eNgcwele kwaye badibene kwangoko bakumema ukuba uza kuphuma uye kuphuma-ungowe. Lo mbhalo ayisiyo myalelo hayi nokuba yingcebiso, libali nje malunga neemvakalelo endandizifumana ukusukela ngalo mzuzu wokuzalwa kwabantwana bam nabangaqondwanga, babengaqondi ukuba basondele nam Umbutho. Ikliphu yoNyaka oMtsha malunga nobubi obenziwa kwityala lam.
Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba abantwana banzima, kunzima, kufuna ukuzila. Ekuphela kwento ekungekho mntu uya kukuxelela yona yinyani yokuba abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emithathu bayadinisa kakhulu.
Ndandithanda ukuba ndibandakanyeke emncinci, kodwa abanye abantu babonakala ukuba bayayibona. Bafa ngobubele kwesinye sezimvo zosana, kwaye landiqhuba. Ndacinga: Esi sisiphi isidalwa endisiyo, ukuba andikuthandi ukuchitha ixesha nomntwana wam. Njengomntu okhulileyo angathanda isihlalo esibulalayo seNdlu, esingaphantsi sokusondla, ukunyathela nokuhlamba, andiqondi.
Ndabathanda abantwana bam, kodwa bendifuna ukubaleka ngalo lonke ixesha, kwaye mna noViniquila ngokwam. Ngapha koko, bekukho inani elithile loomama abakwi-psychosis yengqondo, ebonisa umzekelo oqinisekileyo. Bona ngokunyaniseka (njengoko kwakubonakala ngathi) inzala echaza imihla yabo yeveki 'kunye nonyaka omnye ", baphikisana nesihloko seempawu, babonisa ukuntywila, kubonakalise ukuntywila okunzulu kangangokuba ndandingengomdla. Kwaye ngale nto mna, ndiyaliqonda.
Macala onke, kubandakanya noomama "olungileyo", ukuba bekucacile: andifanelanga ukuba neminqweno yakho, ngaphandle komntwana. Ngapha koko, phantse yonke iminqweno yam yabonakala ngathi iyingozi kwimpilo-ntle yomntwana. Awunakho ukuqeqesha kwiholo (wena, waza wazala uloliwe?), Awufuni ukushiya ikhaya (kwaye ucinga ukuba njani umntwana ngaphandle komntwana (kwaye uya kuba ngumntwana Kobanye uhlobo lokuqokelela, apho wonke umntu uya kukukhohlela ?!), Awukwazi nokude unxibelelane (ndingahamba nomntwana, endaweni yokuba ndihlale ekhompyuter!).
Ukuqala kwam ukuphuma nditshutshisa, ndayothusa ukuba abantu bazonayo kwaye abantu abangaqhelekanga bandithatha. I-stroller yayiluhlobo lwe-trigger ebavumela ukuba bathethe nam, ndinike ingcebiso, kwaye uninzi lubaluleke kakhulu. Nangona ndingakhange ndibonakale ngathi ndibaleka ndicela isikhalo "Ndincede, andazi ukuba ndenze ntoni !!!". Ndaxelelwa ukuba ndinxibe njani umntwana kwaye ndingathini na ukuba umnike into embi, ndancitshiswa ngenxa yokuba ndingakwazi ukuthoba umntwana xa ekhala, eyokuthi, wayini, iwayini ).
Oogqirha babona kum, ngeyona ndlela ilungileyo, engqondweni, kweyona nto imbi kakhulu - izinambuzane. Umzekelo, xa unyana wam wawa kwaye ethandabuza, ugqirha esibhedlele wandibonisa amabala kwi-X-ray intloko kwaye wabuza ngokungqongqo malunga nekhondo lokukhulelwa. Yonke le nto yayijongeka ngathi ndimisela ngokucacileyo la machiza, ndikhulelwe kakubi, kwaye ngoku ugqirha unyanzelwa ukuba abandezeleke.
Ubomi bam bonke emva kokuzalwa kwabantwana babekhangeleka ngokungathi ndinike uluntu ilungelo lokundijonga kwaye ndigwebe isenzo sam. Iimfuneko ezinikezelwayo kum, nangona zazibonakala zingenguye, kodwa, nangona kunjalo, zikholelwa ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba zihlangane nazo ngokomgaqo.
Ndifikelele kugqirha we-orthopedic ngokusamkela, kwaye wabuza, kwaye ndingahambi nomntwana kwi-physiotherapy? Kwaye kutheni yonke imihla kangangemizuzu engamashumi amabini andichithi i-compepet gymnastic ngepensile kunye netawuli ejijekileyo, ofuna ukubamba iminwe yakho? Impendulo "Akukho xesha" yayiyeyona mpendulo imbi kakhulu, wayehlala elandela izimvo: "Ukuba sele uqalile umntwana, kufuneka uyenze." Kwi-Kindergarten Ndabuzwa ukuba kutheni ndingeyiyo iisokisi kunye ne-pajamas? Ukuba uqalile umntwana.
Kodwa kwangeyona nto imbi kakhulu. Eyona nto imbi yayiyeyona nto imbi kakhulu kubusuku bonke omama abenze yonke le nto bafunyanwa. Bona, ngokungafaniyo nam, babengengabuvi kwaye babathanda abantwana babo. Ndandihlala ndindixelela malunga noomama abanjalo. Tanya-Wenze kakuhle! Amaxesha amane ngeveki ithwala intombazana ePerovo ukuya kwisikolo somculo! Kwaye ngeCawa kunye nokuzoba! Ndaphinda ndaziva ndinetyala kangangokuba amaxesha amane ngeveki ndifuna ukuxhonywa, kwaye ngeCawa, kuphela yinkxaso kum, ngakumbi ukusuka kwi-10 ukuya kwi-12, xa kukho isiponji.
Kwakubi kakhulu kunxibelelwano lobuqu. Xa abantu endibanikele nabo emsebenzini, ndafunda ukuba ndinabantu, baqala ukuzibuza, kwaye ndingathini? Oko kukuthi, kwakubonakala ngathi kufanelekile ukuba baqale ukuthetha ngamazwi: Molo, ndingu-NEA, i, kukho indlela, kukho abantwana!
Ndiyakomelela ngakumbi kunam imibuzo ngayo: Banjani abantwana bakho? - umz. Mhlawumbi, lo ngumbuzo ongenatyala, nokuba unembeko, kodwa ndinokuba nengcaciso ethoba ihlazo. Icebiso lento yokuba, ngaphandle kwabantwana, bathetha nam malunga nento, kwaye i, ngokucacileyo, ayikho enye into enomdla.
Ngapha koko, musa ukubuza oogxa bethu: umyeni wakho unjani umyeni wakho? Kwaye unjani umama wakho? Kwaye njani i-erosy yakho ye-cervix? Kwaye malunga nabantwana abathathwa njengevumelekile kwaye banyanzelekile. Kwaye impendulo echanekileyo ihlala inje- yolule imilebe kwi-dicky smile kwaye utsho ngephupha: Owu, bayamangalisa! .. (ukuba uthe wavuka).
Bonke abanomdla kwindlela abantwana abachitha ngayo ixesha ngelixa umama esebenza ngayo? Ngokwesiqhelo lo mbuzo ubonakalisa i-fery yabantwana. Ukuba uthi abantwana banayo i-nanny kwaye uyamhlawula imali eninzi, abantu basusa iintloko. Ngomqolo wam emsebenzini, imibuzo ibisoloko ivakala rhoqo: Kutheni usenza abantwana ukuba abashiye kwi-nanny kwaye baye emsebenzini? ..
Ukulandela le nto, kufanelekile, ndaliqonda ixesha elinzima ebomini bakho, ndaqonda into enye. Ukuba ngokwemisebenzi yomsebenzi, inkangeleko, ubunzima kunye nokuqhelaniswa kwezesondo ukuze kulwe kakubi, ke nabantwana nangayiphi na indlela. Yonke imihla, abafazi abatsha nabatsha bajoyine ukhuphiswano olubizwa ngokuba "ngunina", ngaphandle kokurhanela ukuba ugqatso alusoze luphele, kwaye akukho bubhaso.
Umthombo wombhalo: Anna Kozlova
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