Iingcali zengqondo ezisebenza nabasetyhini ziya zisiba ne-Dyspuria ye-Bodily Dyypuria, ezifumana ubunzima abantu abaninzi nge-XX chromosome kunokuba zimelwe. Sibuze ugqirha wengqondo i-ASU MikeeV ukuba axelele ngeDysphoria yabafundi bethu.
Ngokuqhelekileyo idyspuria "yi-euphoria ngokuchaseneyo. Inqanaba lahlukile ngendlela efanayo, kuphela kwicala elahlukileyo. Kwaye njenjenge-Euphoria, iDyspuria inokuba nezizathu ezahlukeneyo-esi asisosifo, luphawu.
I-Dyspiaria yomzimba ibizwa ngokuba yimeko yengqondo apho umntu akakwazi ukwamkela umzimba wakhe njengenxalenye yenxalenye yakhe ". Ityala labucala neliqaqambileyo le-bodily Dyspia-iDyspia, xa umzimba ungenguye nje, kodwa ngokuthe ngqo ukuba yintoni. Oku kunokuhamba kunye nemvakalelo yokuba lusizi "kutheni ugqirha ongaqhelekanga obonisa esipilini?" Okanye isidumbu esimnyama, ndiza kukutshabalalisa, "kodwa ukongeza impilo kunye nobuhlobo kuyo nayiphi na imeko.
Intembelo yokuba "ngokuqinisekileyo ayindim" naphi na, kwaye ukubaleka kwesinye isini asingalunganga xa kuthelekiswa ne-Anorexia, inyathela ngotyando, ukuzenzakalisa kunye nokuzibulala. Kwaye iDysphoria yeDyspia ayikhupheli nto kolu luhlu.
Idyspiaria yomzimba, ingakumbi inzima, i (kakuhle, inqabile) izizathu zendalo yobugcisa. Umzekelo, ukungangqinelani okukhulu kwehomoni, i-schizophrenia okanye isohlwayo sesohlwayo sesondo-xa umntu, ngembonakalo "yentombazana enemifanekiso yezidenge" enesifo se-chramomal "enengxaki yokuphuhliswa kwe-intrauterine. I-Schizophrenia, isini iDysphoria ayingolungelelwaniso olunzima (Gregor "Koki likhunjulwe?). Kodwa abantu benzekile ngeentloko ezigcweleyo be-cockrostic kwaye kwangaxeshanye ukwamkela ngokupheleleyo emzimbeni wabo; Kwaye amantombazana eyenzeka kwinqanaba le-testosterone ukuba oochwephesha bobuqili bafuna ukubathumela ukuba basebenze kwimikhosi ye-Airborne-kodwa kwangaxeshanye abaphilayo, bazithemba ngokwabo kwaye baneliseke ngokwabo kwaye baneliseke ngokwabo kwaye baneliseke ngokwabo kwaye baneliseke ngokwabo kwaye baneliseke ngokwabo kwaye baneliseke ngokwabo. Kwaye ngokupheleleyo, igcwele abasetyhini abaya kuthi baxelele oyena Mkhosi we-meticatcher ebusweni "hayi isigulana sam!", Imfuza kwaye ikwayale abantwana! " Kwaye nohlalutyo lweehomoni zesini azikutyhili. Kwaye, bona, kubonakala ngathi kuyinto eqhelekileyo, rhoqo ukuya kule nto i-euphoria ngokuchaseneyo. Kwaye konke kuba umzimba awuyo. Ngamanye amaxesha ngokuqinisekileyo, yile nto kanye. I-tits eqinisekisiweyo? Hayi loo nto. Impumlo edlulisiweyo? Sincancise isisu? Izihlunu eziphosiweyo? Ndithenge i-strictoon kwaye ndiphathwe phambi kwesipili kuyo? Kwakhona hayi ... oh! Simele singene kwi-esile!
Ecaleni kweDysphoria ayikho ingxaki engaphantsi kwengxaki yokwahlukana nomzimba. Apho, ubuncinci, inyama yakho ayingeli mproard okanye ingqumbo emntwini. Indoda ayimkhathalelanga. Malunga nekhava yololiwe, ahamba kuwo ukuya emsebenzini. Ukucofa ngokupheleleyo apha olunye uloliwe akukho mfuneko, kwaye kunjalo - yintoni umahluko. Ndiphi na, kwaye iphi le moto, akukho nto ifana ngayo. Imeko entle kakhulu, ngakumbi xa kufuneka, ngaphandle konxibelelwano, nabantu abohlukeneyo bachukumisa. Ukuhluma komzimba kubonakaliso lwemoto olukhubazekileyo, ohenyukazi kunye noomama koomama. "Uya kuba fuck-musa ukuba rhabaxa." Ewe, ewe, yiyo.
Zimbini izizathu zokuba sonke sikwinqanaba elinye okanye elinye safumana ukungaziphathi kakuhle ukuba sithabathe imizimba yethu.
Okokuqala, sonke sayidlula i-pullertat xa ngequbuliso iqubuliso, ngaphandle kokubhengezwa kwemfazwe, iqala ukuhamba kwicala elingalindelekanga. Kwaye nokuba awujongi esipilini iminyaka-iimpahla ezihlala zigxunyekile, izilonda kunye nefenitshala zilambile, i-T-shirt ihamba kude, kwaye isuswe ngomxube I-Cat umchamo, itenda kunye nesikali sentlanzi esibolileyo. Ngaphambili, le yayingeyo! YINTONI? ... kwaye ukuba ufumana isibindi kwaye ujonge esipilini? Kwanabo banethamsanqa kwaye bonwabile abangakhange babethe amanqatha kwaye ulusu luhlala lucocekile - bafumana impumlo engaqhelekanga, ayidingi kuyo yonke i-gozas kwaye i-ouzas idinisa iinwele zombala.
Kodwa enye into ibingalunganga. Ekugqibeleni, xa upapashwa, kungekuphela nje umzimba. Kubi kakhulu ukuba sele sidutyulwe ngokuqinileyo okulindelweyo koko kufanele ukuba le bhyfaly iphaphane ngoodoli. Ivakala ngenkohliso yenkohliso.
Ngapha koko, wakhe njani ulindelo malunga nekamva lomzimba yintombazana embindini (oko kukuthi, i-peasant) kwiminyaka engamakhulu amabini eyadlulayo? Ebhafini, ngeveki. Kwiminyaka elishumi elinesihlanu ndiza kwenza ukuba ndingudadewethu abaninzi. Amashumi amathathu anesihlanu amalunga nomama ngoku. Amashumi amane anesihlanu-njengo-Aunt Stesh. Ngamashumi amathandathu-njengogogo. Ukuba usapho lune-phenotype engaphezulu kwesinye (Auntar Massha kwaye iintloko zide kwaye zinemilenze emikhulu, i-fubsm kunye noDan noDan Annic, emva koko le ntombazana ingena Yiba libali kuhlobo lukaTata kwaye uya kufana noAunt, kwaye mhlawumbi emenye oomama - kwaye uya kuba njengomama. Inketho ijongeka njengomgangatho we-jean baker - yayingenguye!
Masithelekise ukuba le ntombazana ibonwa i-niked, i-Semi-i-Stedi-i-Steding kwaye inxibe kancinane imizimba yebhinqa evekini, kwaye mingaphi le mizimba ineempawu ezifanayo nentombazana? Ewe, ukuthembeka - bangaphi kwimizimba yabasetyhini ababoniswa kuthi ngokunxulumene ne-Khomosaiens, kwaye ayizizo iifoto zomthetho ze-pitoshop?
Kwaye amabhinqa amadala okwenyani asondeleyo kwi-genotype yentombazana ayikulungeni ukuba uqhekeke kweyakhe ecaleni kwakhe. Ingalunganga. Akukho nto yokujonga apha! Nika itawuli!
Kwaye intombazana kanye iqinisekile - jonga njengesigqubuthelo- kulungile kwaye mhle, kwaye akukho nto imbi, iphumelele, kukho imoto ye-style okanye kukho imoto. Ijongeka ngathi mama-boyike kwaye kufuneka igutyungelwe. Imfuza yokungakhathaleli intengiso, kwaye uyasithula iinyawo kunye ne-esile, udadewabo okanye udadebo kayise. Okanye indibaniselwano yoomakhulu ababini.
Kodwa ndixelele i-fashionista malunga nokungcola kwendawo ye-bikini- uya kutyhafa.
Kulungile. Ngabantwana kucacile - yiya elwandle kunye rhoqo kwaye echibini. Kwaye uMakhulu akalibali ukuthatha nawe. Kwaye malunga neDiva etsaliweyo Ungakulibali ukukhumbuza ukuba ziyatsalela, kwaye inyani ayenzeki. Kwi-Intanethi, egcwele iingqele malunga nendlela abazenza ngayo iifoto zeefoto, bobabini abantu besini azinabungozi ukuba bajonge ukuhleka, kwaye bacinge.
Kwaye wenza ntoni nawe? NgoMelankoly, yintoni kuwe, mphefumlo ophaphazelayo, ndiyathemba ngenxa yesi sizathu le nyama engalukanga, ekwakufuna ukhathalelo? Yeyiphi enye bajije, isiponji (yaye usafuna, akunamsebenzi uyayifuna), into eyamkelekileyo ngokwentlalo, hayi ukuxinana, hayi overcook, yaye oko kuya bani konke konke, yena kukulandulela konke konke? Olu xwebhu, oluziphethe kunye nawe, apho bajonga khona kwaye lusandulukayo (kwaye ngawe ngaphakathi kwesi sisele, ayinguye wonke umntu onokuqiqa kwintsapho enothando ("ngubani lo mntu?") -Kwenzeka ngokupheleleyo. Umzimba, ofunyanwa yingqondo 'kwi-overanding yokubopha imbi engaqhelekanga, ihluthwa amathuba okucwangcisa ukwazisa ukuqonda malunga neemfuno zomzimba. Ngenxa yoko, kufuneka sifumanise ukuba yintoni le ayifunayo, ngokwemiqondiso engathanga. Ndifuna ukulala, "kwaye" ndiza kuthenga ezindongeni kwakhona, "bendifuna ukusela," kwaye "andizibhalanga ngelizwi nangezolo," hayi "fu, andifuni kutya" kwaye "Kulungile, kwakhona, kwakhona kwi-acne". Okanye uve (kakuhle, nini ekutshateni kwendawo yesithathu, hayi kufutshane, oh, ayisondeli) njengo-Aunt Lent, ukuya kugqirha, kwaye emva koko i-hug, kwinqanaba lesine, ke Yonke into, endleleni, emangcwabeni ee-Ivanovna, mkhumbule?
Yintoni enokwenziwa?
Kwindlela yokuqala esondele kakhulu - thatha umzimba ukuba ukho, kwaye oko kukuthi, kunjalo. Ungazithandi (le yeyona nto ifanelekileyo)-kwaye, umzekelo, njengesilwanyana sakho sasekhaya. Ngendlela, mhle kakhulu. Kunye nomtsalane, jonga, oko kungcoliswa. Ngendlela, njengento efana nabantu abathandayo - into kumama, into kunyana wam.
Kukho abantu abangawuthandiyo "isilwanyana", kodwa banjengokuthi, "ngokungathi umzimba wam ngumntwana wam." Inokuba njalo. Uyakwazi, njengoko uthanda, kuphela esiya emzimbeni ukuya kwi-Channel yonxibelelwano yavela. Yonke inyani yokuba umntu okwiDysphoria ijonga imiqondiso yengxolo okanye ukwahlulahlulo kukuqonda ukuba izicelo zokuphila. Kuyinto encinci kakhulu kunathi ngokwethu, kodwa incinci ngokupheleleyo. Mhlawumbi ubomi obuqhelekileyo kunye nokukhuselwa. "Ukutshaya ndifuna" - kwaye wenze ntoni, akunakwenzeka ukuba uyeke ukutshaya kwabantu abaninzi, kodwa masikhuphe uxolelo lolunye usuku? Kwaye ndiya kuyifumana kwikona ethule kwaye siyifunga-i-ind, uyafuna? Kwaye amanzi amanenekazi ayabanda?
"Ndifuna iitapile ezithosiweyo" - Ngaba ngqo iitapile? Okanye mhlawumbi amanye amanqatha afanelekileyo, ioyile yeoyile yeoyile? Kulungile, xa iitapile zichanekile ngokuchanekileyo - okanye mhlawumbi sibhaka kwi-foil?
Ngapha koko, inkangeleko, ukuba siyayigqala ngokuba "lo ngumzimba wam womntu, akunakwenzeka ukuba ukhubekise," nayo yabona kancinane, kodwa ilula. Ewe, ewe, hayi i-tuggy kwaye ayinaRihanna. Ewe, kunye nombombo, akunandaba, musa ukuphuma eAfghan Borzoy. Masenze ukugxila nje sicocekile, sibodwa, sondliwe, simnandi se-foxterier. Kwaye kufuneka wenze - ochwayiwo, ococekileyo, ococekileyo, ococekileyo. Ukuhamba, ukuhlala, upholile kulo mzimba, ukhululekile kwaye kumnandi.
Kwaye sele kuxa "uphosakeleyo, ezilula kwaye zonwabile" ziya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo, zihlala ziqinile "zinomtsalane, zimhle." Ukuba kukho imfuneko, kunjalo. Ngamanye amaxesha amanqaku amathathu okuqala atshintsha ubomi babo kunye nokuvuma ukuba ngomnye umntu olungu.
Ngendlela, amagama athi "umzimba" kwaye "iyonke" injalo ixesha elinye. Nzulu.