Ngokunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha zilungele imicimbi eneqhinga.
Kutshanje, nonyana ophakathi esaya kwisidlo sasemini eMcDonalds. Ndamnika ilungelo lokumemela umama kuyo nayiphi na indawo yokutyela yasekhaya, kwaye ekugqibeleni saba lapho. Sincokole ngesikolo, abahlobo bakhe abatsha kunye nee-superheroes, emva koko wathumela ngequbuliso, etshiswa ngequbuliso, watshiswa ngocinga i-polangamburger kwaye wabuza:
- Mama, kwaye ngubani ondithandayo ngakumbi, mna, i-stanley okanye e-edward?
Umbuzo weklasikhi, ndiyazi, kodwa ndiyivile okwesihlandlo sokuqala, kuba lowo mdala akazange abuze ngayo, kodwa omncinci angakude kwintanda-bulumko.
Kwaye ke ndinombulelo kwezo ncwadi malunga nokukhuliswa endikufundwayo. Makhe abhale kakhulu entloko, kodwa osisiseko-ungaze uthi "ndiyakuthanda"--Ifakwe ngokuqinileyo.
Nangona ngamanye amaxesha kwakuthetha ukuba kubonakala ngathi le yeyona mpendulo inengqondo nechanekileyo. "Ufana ngam kunye nam nakuTata, bantwana abathandekayo, yonke into ebalulekileyo yobomi bethu kwaye asikhange sinyule izilwanyana zasekhaya kwaye singabonakali kakhulu impendulo, ivela kwindawo elinganayo.
Kodwa abantwana, kuyavela ukuba ne-Egoceric, kunye nombuzo wokugweba kunye nokulingana kubantakwethu noodade wabo, xa bebuza umbuzo wokuba ngumzali, bakhathaza ubuncinci.
Kuyavela ukuba xa umntwana ebuza: "Ngubani Ongathanda kakhulu, Mna, mna okanye oodadewethu," ufuna ukuziva ngoYe, malunga nezo mvakalelo uziva ngqo.
Kwaye ngokombono ohlonitshwayo kum ngababhali, i-Adel Faber kunye ne-Ellen Mazlish, ukulingana ngokunxulumene nabantwana ngamazwi aqokelela ukubaluleka kwabo nokuzithoba. Njengokutya okucinga kwincwadi ethi "Bazalwana noodade. Indlela yokunceda abantwana bakho bahlale kunye 'bazise imbali emfutshane.
"Umfazi oselula uphela kwendoda yakhe kunye nembuyekezo engalindelekanga:
- Kwaye ngubani othanda kakhulu, mna okanye umama wakho?
"Ndiyakuthanda ngokufanayo," umyeni uphendula aze abaleke kwingxaki enkulu.
Makathi: "Umama ngumama wam. Kwaye uyamangalisa, umfazi omuhle endithanda ukuphila ubomi bam bonke. "
Ke ngabantwana, xa sithetha ngolingano kwaye "ezifanayo" zeemvakalelo zabo, siyalingana nabantwana kwaye sixhaphaze ubuntu babo. Kodwa wonke umntu ufuna ukuba ukhethekile kwaye wahlukile kwabanye.
Kwaye oku akusebenzi nje kuphela kumbuzo othe ngqo malunga nothando lwabazali, kodwa nenani leepancakes kwiplate, kunye nexesha elichithwe kwilinye icala likamama, kwaye elivela kweliphi icala likamama, kwaye liza kuhlala kwelinye icala likamama, kunye neliphi icala lomama.
Umntwana olona lwando luphambili ngentswelo yakhe yeemvakalelo, hayi ukuthelekisa.
I-A. A. I-Fible kunye E. Mazlish icetyiswa oku kulandelayo amabinzana endaweni yokulinganisa umgangatho. Umzekelo:
Nye. Endaweni yokuhlulahlula yonke into ngokulinganayo ("Uneediliya ezininzi, njengodadewenu") ...
Masenze nganye inesidingo: "Ngaba unika iidiliya ezintlanu okanye iqhekeza elipheleleyo?"
2. Endaweni yokubonisa uthando olufanayo ("ndiyakuthanda ngendlela efanayo nodadewenu") ...
Mbonise umntwana ukuba uyayithanda indlela ekhethekileyo: "Ulilo kuphela ilizwe liphela, akukho mntu uya kuba nako ukuthatha indawo yakho."
3. Endaweni yokuhlawula abantwana inani elingalinganiyo ("Ndiza kuchitha imizuzu elishumi kunye nodadewenu, emva koko ndile mizuzu elishumi") ...
Thatha ixesha lokufumana imfuneko yokwenyani: Ndiyazi ukuba bendisenza ixesha elide noncwadi lodadewethu. Esi sincoko sibaluleke kakhulu kuye. Nje ukuba sigqibe, ndifuna ukwazi ukuba yintoni ebalulekileyo kuwe. "
Kwaye nokuba umama okanye utata unesilwanyana sasekhaya, olona nyango lubalaseleyo uya kukhululwa kwimvakalelo yokuziva unetyala kwaye, agxininise ukuba baphumelele kubantwana ngamnye, banike wonke umntu ukuba azive ethandekayo kwaye ebaluleke kakhulu.
Kwaye ngaloo mhla, kwisidlo sasemini, ndaxhoma unyana wam kwaye nditsho ngoncumo ngoncumo:
-Ndine-robert enye kuphela, inye kuphela inkwenkwana entle kwaye imangalisayo endikuyo ukuba ndivuya kakhulu. Ndikuthanda kakhulu, kakhulu, kwaye ndithanda kakhulu xa sichitha ixesha kunye.
Uye wancuma, ceke i-hamburger kwaye wandixelela umhlobo wakhe omtsha esikolweni, ogama linguMesis, kunye nomdlali webhola owuthandayo ...
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