Ngaba ujonge izibini ezonwabileyo, ngaba uyazibuza ukuba ifihlekile? Iingcali zengqondo zityhila imikhwa emi-11 ephambili ekhoyo kwiintsapho zamaqabane abonwabileyo. Bajonge kulula, kwaye umphumo awuzukuzenza ulinde.
1. bonisa rhoqo indlela oyixabisa ngayo
Ulwalamano olonwabileyo lusekwe kwiimvakalelo ezilungileyo, ukunamathela kunye nokusondelelana. Iqabane ngalinye lifuna ukubonisa rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka kangangoko kubalulekile kuye. Kwaye oku akuyomfuneko into engaqhelekanga, okona kubaluleke kakhulu, inyanisekile. Shiya elinye lamanqaku amnandi, bhalela imiyalezo malunga nento ocinga ngayo ngeqabane. Yenza izinto ezintle ezixabisa umdla wakho. Ekuza kwi-psychotherapistst, izibini ezininzi zikhalaza ukuba enye engazi ukuba iqabane lihlala njani izinto aluthandayo. Kodwa baxabiseke umntu, enye yeemfuno ezisisiseko zomntu ngamnye.2. Kwizibini ezonwabileyo xabana
Kwanakwizibini ezonwabileyo kukho iingxabano, aziyi ndawo, kodwa kufuneka baxabane. Isikhokelo sexabiso elifanelekileyo lokungabikho kokugxekwa omnye komnye, ukuthuka, ukutyeshela. Kuya kuthatha ixesha elincinci, kwaye uya kuyenza iphakame, kodwa uthe wangaze ulibale. Ke ngoko, zama ukugcina ukungakhathali okungaphezulu ngexesha lokuxabana ngokwakho, kuyazi ukuba onke amagama amabi kwidilesi azalwe phantsi kwengcinezelo yoxinzelelo, kwaye ingavakali.
3. Soloko ubuza ngento oyifunayo
Rhoqo, oochwephesha bengqondo kufuneka bave izikhalazo ukuba intanda ithandekayo / ithandekayo engazi ukuba intanda inesiqingatha sabo. Ngapha koko, baqinisekile ukuba ukuba bayabathanda, ngokuqinisekileyo baya kwazi kwaye beyenza. Kubalulekile ukuqonda into enye - abantu abaqhelekileyo abanayo isipho sikaTelepathy, ngoko kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthetha iqabane malunga neemfuno zakhe, ukunambitheka kunye nezinto ezikhethwayo. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, ngakumbi kwinqanaba lokuqala, kufuneka liphinde izihlandlo ezininzi - kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Endaweni yokupheliswa ngumntu othandekayo 'onxibe iimpahla zakhe, "zama nje ukuba uthini ngeminqweno yam kwaye bambuze kuye.4. Veza iqabane lakho lothando
Umntu ngamnye ubonakalisa uthando lwakhe ngendlela yakhe. Ngomntu umbumba, komnye umntu, amazwi, kodwa ngezinye isenzo kunye nezipho. Kunokubakho abantu kwisibini, abonwa ngokwahlukileyo kukubonakaliswa kothando kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ukuba kuyiqonda njani eli qabane liziva. Ukuba ungumxhasi wezipho kunye namagama, kwaye indoda yakho ithanda isenzo, emva koko umbonise indlela oziva ngayo ngoncedo lwezenzo kunye nezimbo zomzimba. Indlela yomntu ngamnye ikuvumela ukuba uhlale ugcina i-spark kulwalamano.
5. Yenza imisebenzi kunye
Ipesenti enkulu kakhulu yazo zonke iingxabano kwi-quararel kwisibini esikwisibini esikwisihloko sekhaya, esithi, umbuzo wokuba ngubani na ekhaya. Kodwa kwizibini ezonwabileyo ngenxa yokungafungi, bakwenza nje yonke into kunye. Umzekelo, nokuba indoda ayithandi ukuhlamba izitya, uya kuyenza ukuze intanda yakhe ibe intle. Ungahlala phantsi kwitafile yokuxoxa kwaye uxoxe ukuba ngubani oza kuqulathiswa. Ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbi emoyeni wakho uphila umoya we-pintional, kwaye uya kuvuya ukujongana nokulungiswa kwendlu yezitya.6. Zixabise iingalo
Ukugcina i-idllll kubudlelwane, unxibelelwano kubaluleke kakhulu, nangona kunjalo, akuyomfuneko ukuba inciphise ukubaluleka kweengalo. Izazinzulu ziqinisekisiwe ukuba ngexesha lokudibana kwe-Tactile emzimbeni, i-hormoni ye-obetocin iveliswa, ebizwa ngokuba yi-hormone "yothando". Udlala indima enkulu kubudlelwane bengqondo phakathi kwamahlakani. I-oxytocin inciphisa iintlungu zomzimba, inegalelo ekomelezeni i-gomon, idibanisa abantu kwaye isusa uxinzelelo lwengqondo. Ke ngoko, kokukhona sitshatiso sigobo kwaye sinxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni, amandla abo owomeleleyo.
7. Thetha ngeengxaki
Umntu othile wayedla ngokuthintela ingxoxo yeengxaki, ekholelwa kakhulu ukuba ekuhambeni kwexesha iya kwenziwa ngokwako. Yindlela nje efanayo isebenza kwelinye icala. Ukunxiba ukunyusa imeko-ingxaki yonyusa ngakumbi nangakumbi, iqala ukucaphukisa kwaye ihamba kwiingxabano. Akufanelanga ulindile de i-volkanolo ivusa-nkqu neengxaki ezincinci zibhetele ukuba zigcine iqabane ngokukhawuleza.8. Qwalasela imida
Ukuba imida yobuqu ayihlonitshwanga kwisibini- akuyi kubakho ulonwabo. Ngoncedo lwemida, ungaqonda ukuba uphela uphela kwaye iqabane lakho liqala. Ezo zinto kufuneka zixoxwe ngazo nabathandekayo, ke wonke umntu uya kukwazi ukwanelisa iimfuno zabo ngaphandle kokubangela umonakalo omnye. Iingcali zengqondo zibhiyozela iintlobo ezi-3 zemida:
- Ngokweemvakalelo: Lixesha lexesha lokudibana, kwicandelo ngalinye, kwaye hayi.
- Umzimba: Yintoni kwaye ngeyiphi indawo yokuhlala, kunye ne-frequency yokuchukumisa.
- UVIWO: Ngaba kufanelekile ukudibanisa isangqa sabahlobo, nokuba siyitshintshe imeko kwinethiwekhi yoluntu, kangaphi ngokuhambelana nesihloko sobudlelwane.
Ezi zinto zibonakala zincinci, zichaphazela kakhulu umgangatho wobudlelwane.
9. Isihogo sicela ukuxolelwa nokuxolela
Ngaphandle kokukwazi ukuxolela, abayi kukwazi ukusinda nakuphi na ubudlelwane-le yenye yezona zinto ziphambili zoxolo. Xa umntu exolisa, iphakamisa ukuba iyayiqonda impazamo yakhe kwaye izakuzama ukuyivumela kwaye ingasavumeli. Kwaye umntu olungileyo uyayiqonda le meko, ayamkeleka kwaye alibale ngento eyenzekileyo, akasakhumbuli ngento eyenzekileyo. Kubudlelwane obonwabileyo, abantu abaze babeke ucelomngeni ukubonisa iqabane labo.10. Phumla omnye komnye
Kubaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane bokugcina ibhalansi yokuqaqamba kunye nokuzimela. Nokuba sikunye, khumbula ukuba umtshato awuzange wehlise ukukhanya kwakhe, usenabo ubomi, umdla wam uhlala. Kuya kufuneka uhlonele indawo yakho yomnye umntu, ungazalise umhlaba wonke umntu omthandayo. Emva kokuchitha ixesha ngaphandle komntu omnye komnye, uya kuba nesithukuthezi, kwaye oku kuya kuba nefuthe elihle kulwalamano. Ke ngoko, funda ukonwabela ubomi ngaphandle koluntu omnye komnye kwaye uthembele umntu wakho amthandayo.
11. Cela uncedo
Kubudlelwane obunempilo, kuyinto yemvelo xa bafuna uncedo ukuba kukho into engenakwenzeka ukuba uyenze ngokwakho. Ukuhambahamba ukuya kwi-psychologist, ukujonga iisemina kubudlelwane bosapho, njl. Akoyiki ukucela iBhunga, akukho mntu ungenazintloni kwezi ngxaki, akasivanga phantsi kwakhe kwaye akayigwebi enye.