Kwiyadi yenkulungwane ye-XXI, kwaye namhlanje akukho mntu uya kuyithetha ngokuqinisekileyo, njengoko kwakunjalo ngexesha le-USSR, ukuba "asinantlondi elizweni." Ubukho bakhe buziva naphi na: kumculo, iincwadi, iifilimu, intengiso. Uluntu kwiinethiwekhi zentlalontle lunyusa imixholo, amadoda nabafazi abafihli inani lamaqabane ezesondo, esabelana ngeenkcukacha ezikhoyo. Ngaphandle kwenkululeko yangoku, intshabalalo yesihlobo se-stereotypes ezininzi, ukuza kuthi ga ngoku kukho umgca omdaka phakathi kwe "Wecho!" Kwaye "Ah, uthanda ityhefu!".
Ukuba indoda iphawuleka, ngokuvakalayo kwaye iqhelekile ukuba ne-Spriestate esondeleyo, umfazi onesisu esifana 'nesityebi "sisenokujonga i-Kosos Abameli abaninzi abanesini esomeleleyo. "UTikhoni" -Ongroups, osebenza nabo engqondweni, enesifo sengqondo esinengqondo kunye nokuba nekhwele, kunye nomona ngokwengqondo, kwaye noomakhulu kwiibhentshini banokuthula- apha yonke into icacile.
Kutheni le nto abantu benokufumana inani elikhulu lesondo, bencoma uluhlu olubanzi 'lwezolonwabo ", kwaye kuba amantombazana ukuza kuthi ga ngoku akwenzeki ihlazo elihlazo? Oku kuphenjelelwa zizinto ezininzi ebezingafanelekanga.
I-Striarchate-isiseko sokungalingani phakathi kwamadoda nabafazi ngoku kukho umzabalazo wabasetyhini kwindawo enye kwi-par enamadoda. Kodwa yayingasoloko injalo. Usolusapho yinto enokubonwa kumazwe amaninzi ukuza kuthi ga namhlanje, ngakumbi kwimpuma enye. Uhlobo olunjalo lwezonxibelelwano lubonisa uninzi lwendoda kuyo yonke into. Uthatha inxaxheba kwezopolitiko, kwezoqoqosho, yigunya lokuziphatha, ulawula ipropathi kwaye ngokubanzi ufuna ukuzithoba kuye kwinto yonke.
Izazinzulu zicebisa ukuba imodeli yoluntu enjalo ivele kwiminyaka engama-4,000 ngaphambi kwexesha lethu. Inkazana leyo ibifanele ithobele indoda yonke, kuba yayiphuma kuye. Yena ke, ukuba athe, ephindeka, ephila, abulala umsulwa, kwaye kumqolomba walindeleka ngumgcini wengcinezelo, eyayifanele ukulandela indlu.
U-Aristotle kwimibhalo yakhe wachaza abasetyhini njengabanesiphene xa kuthelekiswa namadoda, oko kungakhathazeli kuphela icala lomzimba, kodwa nokuqonda. Ngokoluvo lwayo, ukubiza "isiqingatha" esibuthathaka "sokwenza umsebenzi wokuzala, khonza umyeni wakhe.
Kwezinye izizwe, ukubizwa ngokuba "kukuthinjwa" komfazi wexesha elizayo wasasazwa. Umgodi wahlawula "utata ozolileyo" woMtshakazi, ngaloo ndlela afumana ilungelo kuye. Imitshato emininzi yayichasene nentando. Ukuba umntu unako ukufikelela okuphindaphindiweyo, eli bhinqa lalihluphekile ithuba lokutshata kwakhona. Emva kokusweleka komyeni wakhe, waba yindawo engekho mthethweni kwaye wayehlala ebeka izandla, njengoko ubomi bakhe bungenantsingiselo.
Ukugcina imodeli yololusapho, kwakuyimfuneko ukuqinisekisa ukuzalwa kweendlalifa kunye nokudluliselwa kobunini bobunini benzala yabo. Kuyenzeka ukuba ukwenze oku kunokuba kukungcungcuthekiswa komfazi wenkululeko yokuzikhethela kubudlelwane besini, amathuba obomi obuzimeleyo ngaphandle kommeli wesini esomeleleyo. Imithetho, izithintelo zadalwa, kwiimfundiso zonqulo ezichazwe ngokweenkcukacha umfanekiso ofanele ukuba ube ngumfazi kwaye ke imithetho enjalo idityaniswe eluntwini, edluliselwa kwizizukulwana ngezizukulwana.
Kutheni le nto, kodwa asinakuphela?
Emva kwayo yonke le nto ichazwe apha ngasentla, iba yinto entle, indlela yoluntu oluye lwakhula ngayo. Kodwa loo rhatyato lashiya into enkulu yabasetyhini, kuba i-echoes yakhe ivakala kude kube ngoku. Kungenxa yeso sizathu, indoda ifanele ithande ukwenza isenzo ezininzi apho uluntu oluza kusabela khona. Ukuba ushiya abantwana-inokuqondwa, kodwa kufanelekile ukuphosa umntwana wakho kwintombazana yakho, uya kuyibona "i-cuccoo" ngonaphakade.
Enye ithiyori ithi umntu uyindoda, ethi kwinkqubo yendaleko izama 'ukuchumisa "amabhinqa" amaninzi. Idlulisela izinto zakhe zofuzo, ngaloo ndlela zikhulisa isikhundla sayo eluntwini, igunya phakathi kwamanye "amadoda". Indaleko icinge ukuba lo mfazi kufuneka akhethe amadoda afanelekileyo awayehluleke ngokuphakanyiswa komzimba. Kwaye ukuba ummeli owomeleleyo akanakukhetha ngokukodwa, amaqabane obhinqileyo afanele ahlasele amaqabane, aphephe ubuthathaka kwaye ungaphuhliswanga ukuze abantwana babe sempilweni. Ke ukuthetha indalo.
Ukuba unikela ingqalelo kuluntu lwale mihla, emva koko amantombazana amaninzi akhetha ukunxibelelana nabantu abaxabisekileyo ngakumbi. Amadoda ayathandabuza malunga nokubonelelwa kwezinto, ukubiza abasetyhini ukuthengisa. Phakathi kwabameli besiqingatha esiqingqiweyo nabo banabo abaphila kwiakhawunti yomnye umntu, kodwa babizwa ngokuba yialfasons, kodwa into enqabileyo enqabileyo.
Unokugqiba. Ngokubanzi, akukho nto imbiyo yokulahla ubomi bakho njengoko ufuna, ukutshintsha amaqabane ezesondo inyanga nenyanga, ukuba uziva uyonwaba kakhulu kule.
Kuphela ngulo: Amadoda aya kukhetha kwabo bangafikelelekiyo. Ewe kunjalo, ukuba sithetha ngabantu abahle, enobuntu bokwenyani.
Mhlawumbi kukho ukuphakama komfazi, kuba ayilingelilo nto akwaziyo ukunika ubomi kumntu omtsha. Ekugqibeleni, imeko kwiimpawu zokuziphatha, inkululeko yesazela. Ngomntu, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuqhayisa ngemithwalo yobomi bomntu, abanye bathule ngokuthozama. Akukho nto ilungileyo kwaye xa indoda ilala nelungelo lonke. Oku akupeyinti iimpawu zakhe, kodwa zibonisa kuphela ukuba uzama ukuqinisekisa indlela. Ke ngoko, abafazi bakhetha amahlakanifanele amahlakani ukuze kungabikho zikhuselo kwingubo.