Kule mihla, amantombazana ayanda kwi-wallet kwixesha labo elikhethiweyo, ulibale ukuba kukho uthando. Yintoni eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu ebomini: uthando okanye ubutyebi bezinto eziphathekayo? Wonke umbuzo unempendulo yawo.
Uthando yimeko yengqondo yomntu. Ngoku awuyi kudibana nezibini, ezingokwenyani, uthando olufanayo. Amantombazana ayanda rhoqo ngenxa yomntu, kodwa ngenxa yobutyebi bakhe, iiakhawunti zakhe zebhanki kunye ne-wallet. Amadoda, athi, aqhubeke nohlobo. Kodwa kwixesha lethu kukho amadoda akhathalela imeko yabo kuluntu, ngenxa yomtshato, kumfazi okhuselweyo. Kuba la madoda, olu hlobo "lothando" lunegalelo ekuzifezekiseni nasekuqinisekisweni.
Yintoni uthando? Umntu ngamnye unenkcazo yayo leli gama. I-Wikipedia isinika inkcazo-ntetho: "Unophawu lwendoda, ukunamathela okunzulu kunye nokufuna komnye umntu okanye into, imvakalelo yovelwano olunzulu." Ngothando oluthile sisifo sebhabhathane esiswini, xa ufuna ukwenza okuhle, kwaye kwimozulu kukho ithontsi lokunxila xa ugungxula kwiimvakalelo eziphezulu. Kwabanye, le yimvakalelo yokuncamathisela xa ufuna ukuvuka nalo mntu, ulele naye, wenze yonke into kuye. Kwaye entabeni kwaye uyolo lokuba naye, ukuba kufutshane, cinga ngaye rhoqo, ukufumana iimvakalelo ezifudumeleyo nezithelisa ngazo. Kwiqela lesithathu: Le yimvakalelo engathethekiyo, enjalo ngentanda yakho, kwaye xolela yonke into, kwaye zonke iiseli zifuna ukuba kunye lo mntu, ungaze unike mntu. Kwaye umgama unganyamezeleki ukuba unexhala, kuba uqala ukuphosa, ngokungathi akukho mbandela. Umntu akakuqondi le mvakalelo konke konke, umntu akamavanga kwaye akanolwazi lokuba, kwaye abanye banxibelelanisa yonke idatha engezantsi kothando, umntu ngamnye unengxaki yothando.
Ifilosofi yaseRussia Vladimir Sergeevich SolovyoV yabelwe iintlobo ezintathu zothando: 1) Uthando olusezantsi, imbuyekezo epheleleyo yento yothando kunye nembuyekezo epheleleyo. Umzekelo, uthando lwabazali kubantwana babo, ukukhuselwa kobuthathaka-womelele, ukusuka kwicala lomgadeli omkhulu phezu kwabancinci; 2) Ukunyuka kothando, ubuncinci belichithi, kodwa eyona inkulu, inqaku, abantwana bayabathanda abazali, abantwana abavela kubazali bayabanika okungaphezulu; 3) Uthando ngokwesondo, njengoko wanikayo, kakhulu, ezele luqeqesho oluphakathi, njengoko indoda inike uthando, ngoko ke uya kuyifumana, ininzi kakhulu kwaye iyakufumana, umgangatho yothando olunikeleyo, umqolo onjalo kwaye uya kufumana.
E-Erich of Erem Yabela Iindlela ezi-2 zothando: 2) Uthando olwenzileyo luthando olufuna ukunciphisa inkululeko yento yothando, ukulahla kuphela, kodwa nobomi bakhe. Kutheni etshabalalisa? Kuba, utshabalalisa yonke into, lonke unamathela, eluthandweni, uthando, lutshabalalisa umntu ngaphakathi, kwaye kungekuphela yintanda, kodwa nothando.
Kodwa ukukhetha uthando, ungalibali ngamabinzana anjengalo: "Awuyi kuba nothando olunye" kwaye "uthando luza kwaye luyekile ukutya." Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ukhangele kuphela izinto ezibonakalayo ebomini!
Imali yinto nje ebonakalayo yomntu. Enkosi ngemali, imeko yentlalo inokufezekiswa kuluntu. Ngokwenza uphando phakathi kwabahlobo bakhe, amanqaku olwahlulelwano lahlulwahlulwa laya mabini: 1. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba umntu onemali angonwabanga, kuba umntu esimthandayo unokuxela ngeengxaki zakhe, Bonke ubunzima. Ukuba nemali, awunakuba nomntu okufutshane.
2. Abanye, bakholelwa ukuba kuya kubakho imali, kuya kubakho uthando. Kodwa, ngelishwa, ngokufuthi, kwizityebi, abawenzi eluthandweni, bathandane nemali yabo, hayi emntwini.
Vumelana, abantu abonwabileyo ngabo banothando nemali. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kulula ukufezekisa oku, phantse ayinakwenzeka. Ungaba sisityebi kwaye wonwabe kuthando? Impendulo ilula, kodwa ayiyonto yomntu, ukuba ifune izinto ezilungileyo nomntu omthandayo. Kodwa ayisoloko yenzeka, umntu uyadinwa, umntu uya kwenye, umntu unesithukuthezi kwaye uya kukhangela inketho ngokulula: Indoda enesipaji esincinci.
"Nabathandekayo kunye neParadesi kwingxowa." Ewe, kodwa eli lizwi lisasebenza kuphela de ube nolwalamano oluthandayo, kwaye xa kukho indawo enobuzaza ebomini, okanye nosapho, emva koko igumbi eliyiparadesi aliyi kuba yiparadesi, kuba imali ihlala ifuneka kwaye yonke imali ihlala ifuneka kwaye yonke indawo ihlala ifuneka kwaye kuyo yonke indawo . Kubomi bosapho, uninzi lwamantombazana angcikiva amadoda abo ekuswelekeni kwemali. Kwaye ayinakuphikiswa, kuba nyani, akufuneki ukuba utye kakuhle, kodwa unxibe, gcina indawo, kwaye ukuba iindleko ziya zisiba ninzi nangaphezulu. Ngaba ihlabathi liya kulawula imali?
Wonke umntu unembono yayo. Kodwa ihlakele kakhulu kwinto yokuba imali iyindlela yokuphila, wonke umntu ongumniniyo, ubomi bakhe bonke. Imali ayilawule, basombulula imibuzo emininzi. Kodwa uthando ngemali ayithengi. Kwihlabathi lethu, abantu abaninzi abahlali, basebenza nje ukwenza imali. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kuya kuba yimfuneko ukuba uphile kumtshato osemthethweni-ufuna imali, uzale umntwana ngaphandle kwemali, okuthetha ukuba ungamniki, ukufumana imali, ufuna imali. Kwaye ke abantu baphile kubo, la maphepha 'aphelile ingqondo.
Ke, yeyiphi eyona nto iphambili ebomini: uthando okanye imali? Umntu okholelwa ukuba uthando, umntu ucinga ukuba loo mali, kodwa ikwakhona imbono yokuba uthando nemali ibalulekile emntwini, njengoko kuchaziwe apha ngasentla, ukungaphili ngaphandle kwemali. Zombini kufuneka zihambe ngokuchaseneyo, intombazana ayifanele ihlale entanyeni "kwindoda yakhe, ayifanele icele imilenze yayo entloko, injani yona imali, ukuba injani yona imali endlwini. Kodwa wonke umntu unembono yayo yokujonga, amaxabiso ayo, akunakwenzeka ukuba enze umntu ukuba atshintshe, nganye ikhutshwe engaqhelekanga.