Iingxaki ezininzi zivela kubomi bentsapho, ngenxa yokuba amaqabane angaxabani nje, kodwa alungiselela kwinxalenye. Kukho ubunzima obungenakusinda ngokuzola, xolela okanye uyamkele. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba samkele isibakala sokuba le bhinqa lafunyanwa ngexesha lomtshato? Cinga ngenye yezizathu eziqhelekileyo nezinobuchule bokuqhawula umtshato-inzuzo yomfazi onobunzima.
Ithini kanye le ndoda?
Xa ingxaki yenzekile kusapho-ukuba kwenzeke koqhawulo-mtshato ngenxa yokuzibophelela kwinkosikazi yayo, kuba abaninzi bakwicala lebhinqa: "Akamthandi, Ukungabi natyala ngenxa yokuba ulufumene ... kwiminyaka edlulileyo, wonke umntu uphulukana nolutsha lwalo kunye nobuhle ... Indoda ayilunganga. " Kodwa masicinge, ngaba kuphosakele kwindoda ekulungele ukuqhawula umtshato umfazi obethelelwe?Xa amaqabane ahlangabezana kuphela, enokwenzeka, umfazi wayehle, ewe, uyahamba. Wayezikhathalele, wazama ukuhlala ebukeka, ehleli ekutyeni kwaye waba nezemidlalo. Kodwa ngaphezulu kweminyaka yadlula. Ubunzima buyenzeka rhoqo emva kokuzalwa kwabantwana, ubomi bentsapho ixesha elide, kunye nobudala.
Indoda ijonga umfazi wayo, ingasabuboni ubuhle, othanda uthando. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba umntu agxeke indoda ukuba ithande inenekazi elincinci nelilali elinemililo, kwaye ngoku phambi kwakhe lihleli isilwanyana esivinini sobuvila nesifo sobuvila? Indoda inokunyamezela into yokuba ukutyhubela iminyaka eli bhinqa alwenzi abantu abancinci. Akunakwenzeka ukuphembelela oku. Nangona kunjalo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba nefuthe kubuncinci bakho kunye neefom ezinomdla.
Ityala ngalinye kufuneka liqwalaselwe ngokukodwa. Kukho amanenekazi amancinci anobuvila, ikratshi kwaye akanatyala emtshatweni, okholelwa ukuba bafanele babathande ngalo naluphi na uhlobo. Ukuba indoda yathandana nomfazi ngobuhle bayo, ukuntywila kunye nokuqina, ngokuqinisekileyo iyaphela xa iphulukana nezi fomu. Ngaba ndifanele Ndimbetheke? Ngokungalindelekanga. Akayeki ukuba ekugqibeleni lo mfazi wayefuna ukuthelekisa iinjongo zakhe, kwaye ukutyhubela iminyaka wayeka ukuzama konke.
Liyintoni ilungelo lomntu obhinqileyo?
Iminyaka ayihoyanga umntu, ngakumbi umfazi. Ukuzalwa, imfuneko yokuhlala rhoqo yabantwana, imisebenzi yasekhaya, imihla ngemihla yabasebenzi kunye nobudala nje yenze umfazi omncinci kwaye unomtsalane njengangaphambili. Ngokwemvelo, umfazi ukuba aluphele, afumane ubunzima, abe ngomnye, hayi njengoko wayekho ngaphambili. Kwabanye abantu basetyhini, emva kokuba ukhulelwe, ukusilela kwe-Hormonal kwenzeka xa kungekho manenekazi emincinci enqabileyo ngoku ijika ibe yi "rigs".
Ngaba zikhona iiwadi ezilabafazi? Hayi. Kwaye indoda kuya kufuneka iqonde ukuba kule minyaka ingumfazi ayiyi kuba mncinci kwaye ihlale inomtsalane. Ngapha koko, imvelaphi yehomoni ichaphazela imeko yeefom zomfazi. Kukho amanenekazi anemvelaphi yeHormonial yonke into ilungile. Kwaye kukho abafazi abathi, emva kokuzala, abasayi kuba njalo.
Umfazi akakufanelekeli kwinyaniso yokuba iminyaka ayimenzi mhle ngakumbi. Ngokukodwa ekubeni ichaphazelekayo neminye yemicimbi: INdlu, abantwana, umsebenzi, njl njl. Umfazi uphelile iiyure ezimbini ngosuku ukuze uhlale esipilini kwaye ubale ikhalori. Apha kufuneka wenze imisebenzi ukuze ixesha labantu bonke.
Yintoni onokuyenza umfazi ukuba umyeni asoyikisa uqhawulo mtshato?
Ukuba umyeni waqala ukoyikisa uqhawulo-mtshato waya kumfazi oginyile, akufuneki agwebe ngokungathandabuzekiyo. Ewe, indoda iya krwada kakhulu, ethetha umfazi wayo ukuba wayengayi kunyamezela iikhilogres zakhe ezongezelelweyo. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka iqondwe ukuba ngamanye amaxesha umntu akathethi nzulu. • Kukho abantu abangathandini abafazi babo, ke bakulungele ukuba kude nabo kuba bathetha. • Kukho amadoda awothusayo nje abasetyhini ukuba aqhawule umtshato ukuze baphose ezandleni zabo kwaye banciphise ubunzima. • Kukho amadoda anyanzelekileyo ukuba asoyike ngokusahluka, kuba ezinye iindlela kunye neengxoxo azikhange zinike isiphumo esifunayo.Unokwenza ntoni umfazi ukuba umyeni asoyikisa uqhawulo-mtshato ngokungabikho kokuncipha kwesisindo kuye?
1. Kuyimfuneko ukuqonda iinjongo apho indoda ihamba. Akukho sidingo sokunikela ingqalelo kwisizathu sokuba afune ukuba ungatyibilikisi. Nguwo lowo umnqweno wakhe ngayo. Kungcono unike ingqalelo ukuba uyakuthanda okanye ukhetha nje kwintabalala yakho kuqhawulo-mtshato. 2. Ukuba umyeni uyakuthanda, kuya kufuneka uthethe naye ukuba uyicombulule ingxaki. Cacisa izizathu zakho ngenxa yokuba usasazeke ngazo (oku akwenzeki ngolu hlobo), ngokuqinisekileyo umyeni wam wanceda ekupheleleni kwakho. Zama kunye ukufumana iindlela zokunciphisa umzimba. Ukuba umyeni uthanda, mbuze uncedo kunye nenkxaso. Ndixelele, into oyifunayo uthando lwayo ngelo xesha, ngelixa ulahlekelwe bubunzima. Kuya kukunceda. 3. Ukuba umyeni akathandi, ke uyakuqonda oko nokuba kunzima ubunzima, uya kuhlala engonwabanga. Ufuna ukuqhawula umtshato nawe. Isizathu sokuba angangaxeleli ngokuthe ngqo, umbuzo ekufuneka umcela kuye. Ngelixa uza kunciphisa umzimba, uya kuqhubeka nokugxeka. Nditsho nendlela elahlekileyo awuyi kuyilungiselela. Ngaba ndifanele ndizame umntu onjalo?
Kwaye okugqibela: Sicela abafazi ngokwabo. Ukuba ukhululekile kubunzima abangayinelisiyeni bakho, emva koko mxelele ngayo. Awuyi kunciphisa umzimba, ukhululekile.
Nokuba umyeni uyakuthatha, okanye uqhawulo mtshato. Sele uqale umsongela, ebhekisa engathandiyo ukuba uqhawule umtshato nawe. Ndikholelwe, ukuba umyeni uyathanda, uya kuba nako ukwamkela ubunzima bakho ukuba uyathanda ukuba njengawe.