Ukwenza indoda kwibhinqa layo iluncedo, andizange ndilahlekelwa ziimvakalelo kwaye ndiyinyani kuye - inenekazi lifanele lincome indoda yakhe kwaye liyabancoma. Kodwa kuyimfuneko ukudumisa umgangatho onzima ngokuchanekileyo, ngaphandle kokuqhuba intonga, kungenjalo kuya kukhangeleka ngathi kuya kuba njalo kwaye kungathandekiyo. Ke, imithetho eliqela yendlela yokudumisa onyuliweyo.
Musa ukulukuhla
Kungalunganga ukucinga ukuba amadoda athile angekho mbono yendumiso. Nokuba babonakala bengafanelanga, indumiso yabo ngamanye amaxesha intsingiselo engakumbi kunabafazi. Nesizathu sokuba ubuxoki ebuntwaneni. Xa umntwana ebonakala ekukhanyisweni, akava ukuba luphi na uthando kwaye kunye nexesha ayazi le mvakalelo ngabazali bakhe abamnika izimo zengqondo ezahlukeneyo ezihamba nazo kubo bonke ubomi. Umzekelo, abantu basetyhini bacaca kakhulu ngulo mbhalo: "Bayandithanda xa ndindinika izipho", kodwa kuba amadoda: "Ndiyandithanda xa ndincoma." Ke ngoko, amadoda amadala alingana nendumiso efudumeleyo kunye nothando lomfazi uyayiqonda loo nto.Ngaphandle kokuthandabuza
Xa bemdumisa umntu, akufuneki ukuba uziphathe njenge fan. Ukudlulisela i-curming yakho kwindoda, kuphela amabinzana athandekayo anothando, uncumo, i-hugs kunye nembonakalo izaliswe luthando.
Phuma kwintloko yezitampu
Ukufuna ukudumisa umntu, kungcono ukungasebenzisi i-cliché ekuthetheni njenge "Kulungile", "Wenze", njl. Kule meko, kukho amathuba amaninzi oya kunxulumana naye kunye notitshala wakhe, kwaye ayisiyiyo le nto ilungileyo enokwenzeka phakathi kwakho.Ngokuchanekileyo dumisa indoda eluntwini
Kunzima ukudumisa umntu? Ngalo mbuzo, iingcali zengqondo azinakuphendula ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kuba Apha yonke into iyodwa. Amanye amadoda akayinyamezeli inyama yokuziva eneemvakalelo, kanti abanye, ngokuchaseneyo, banokukhubeka ukuba lo mfazi akazange ancome yonke imeko xa imeko ibekwe. Ngayiphi na imeko, ukuba ufuna ukwazi abo ubathandayo ngamazwi amahle nabanye abantu, gxininisa ingqalelo yakho kumandla ayo, kodwa akufanelanga ukuba idumise - yindalo.
Thetha inyani kwaye akukho nto ngaphandle kwenyaniso
Ngexesha lokudunyiswa, mntu ngamnye ufuna ukwazi ngaye inyani, kuyamnandi ngakumbi kunokumamela i-Frank Eglery. Akukho meko ungamdumisi umntu kuba ufuna into kuye. Nokuba uzama kangakanani ukufihla i-carland yakho, isavakalelwa, kwaye le ndoda ingakumbi. Kwaye ukuba uziva ubuxoki - iya kumqhubela phambili kuphela.Ngaba likho ixesha elifanelekileyo le-Peuflast?
Indumiso ayisiyo ilungiselelo lokukhutshelwa ngaphandle kwaye lixesha elithile. Amagama amnandi kwindoda kufuneka athethe nendawo okanye xa esenzeka ukuba athethe iimvakalelo zakhe ukuchaza. Ngoncedo lokudunyiswa, ungaphembelela le ndoda usebenzisa ukwamkelwa kwengqondo-xa esenza into emnandi kuwe, mxelele amazwi ashushu-uqinisekisile umntu ukuba aqhubeke nendoda.
Amanyathelo amancinci
Ukukhuthaza umntu ngokuphucula ukuziphucula ngokwakho, phawula kunye nokudumisa nakwezona zinto ziphantsi komhlaba - yonke into iqala ngenye encinci. Ungaze uzityhile izenzo zendoda yakho, kwaye akasayi kuze akutyeshele.Kwinaliti
Ukuba uya kwindumiso, ke ukhona umngcipheko wokubeka indoda kwi "inaliti". Kwaye ke, ukuba umntu obhinqileyo ude anciphise i-bar, i-good iqala ngakwicala elithandekayo lentanda. Kwaye ukuba uyeka ukudumisa kwaphela, imeko iya kwandisa nangakumbi. Ukuthintela into enjalo, idumise nje intanda yakho yezinto zokwenyani, kwaye ungazenzi izizathu ngokwakho.
Hlala nje eluthandweni
Kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekudumleni inyani. Umfazi othandekayo uhlala edumisa indoda enentliziyo esulungekileyo, kwaye uyayiva. Ke ngoko, hlalani nithandana neqabane lakho lomphefumlo kwaye ungakulibali ukumxelela into omthandayo.