Iintombi zinika inkxaso kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo zobomi. Sabelana nabanye abantu abasondeleyo, sabelo kunye novuyo, kunye nosizi. Kodwa kunxibelelwano kunye neentombi kufanelekile ukuba ulumke, kuba nakwezona ntshukumisa zibalaseleyo banokunika iingcebiso ezinobungozi abanakho ubomi obuhle bobuqili.
"Ufuna nje indoda"
Ngaba uyabelana nabahlobo bakho ngemiceli mngeni yakho, kwaye ukuphendula icebisa ukuseka ubomi obungcono? Kunzima ukubiza eli cebiso, kuba ubukho beqabane abathembi ukumisela onke amabakala obomi. Ngapha koko, ngokufika kwendoda, ezinye izinto ezikhoyo zinokwandisa kuphela. Kwaye ke, akuyomfuneko ukuba uyenze loo nto, ukuze kungakuphose ubuhlobo bokuqala, ukuvela, ukungahlali kwizixhobo zakudala. Ayisayi kunceda, yongeza iingxaki."Unazo izicelo ezinkulu kakhulu"
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba loo cebiso enjalo kwintombazana leyo ifuna ukunceda ubudlelwane namadoda bunemveliso ngakumbi. Kodwa ukuba uthe wasondela kuyo ngentloko ebandayo, ubudlelwane nomntu onentliziyo enengxaki, umlinganiswa ongafanelekanga kunye nemikhwa ecaphukisayo, ayizukukhokelela kwinto elungileyo. Kungekudala, "Ibubble" yokungoneliseki ziya kuqhuma, ubudlelwane buza kuphela kwaye kuya kubakho imvakalelo engathandekiyo evela kwilize.
"Beats, uthanda"
Imbono ephosakeleyo engathethekiyo apho ayikholelwa khona. Ukukholelwa kule nkqubo itshabalalise ikamva labasetyhini abaninzi. Khumbula, ubundlobongela abukaze bube bubungqina bothando! Kwaye ukuba umntu othile unika icebiso, kufanelekile ukucinga, kwaye nokuba kufanelekile ukuba kuthembentelwe ngokubanzi."Yiba nomonde, kuba kufuneka usindise usapho"
Ngokukodwa, ibhunga elinjalo limele live abafazi abanabantwana. Njengengxabano, yile: "Umntwana ufanele abe notata." Ewe, kufuneka, kodwa lowo wenza ngokwenyani njengotata, hayi oluhlu olu luhlulwe kweli nqanaba. Ngapha koko, uqhawulo-mtshato aluthethi ukuba uBawo akakwazi ukunxibelelana nomntwana. Ukuba izityholo zisoloko zilawula rhoqo kusapho, ukuba umntwana unyanzelwa ukuba abone umama onomama-akunakwenzeka ukuba akwazi ukubizwa ngokuba ebuntwaneni obonwabileyo. Ke ngoko, ukuzama ukuzincamala kwaye usindise usapho, ungabutyhila ubomi kungekuphela nje ngokwabo, kodwa nabantwana.
"Umntwana nje nolwalamano luya kubekwa"
Ukuba kubudlelwane bengxaki, emva koko imbonakalo yomntwana ikwinto eninzi ibanzi. Kule meko, umngcipheko womntwana ukuba uphumeze ukuba sesinye isizathu sokungathobeli, ungasathethi ke into yokuba umntwana apha enyanzelwa ngumtshato, engeyiyo eyona nto iphambili kulwalamano olonwabileyo. Nokuba le ndoda igqiba kwelokuba ihambe, umntwana akasayi kuze amyeke."Yiphose!"
Kwakuyinto yokuba nabahlobo bahlukane kakhulu ngokusilela kunye neengxaki kubudlelwane nabathandekayo kunye namaxesha amnandi akufuneki ukuba bathe cwaka kwaye bathule. Ngesi sizathu, iintombi zinokuba nembono engalunganga ngendlela yonke into kubomi bakho bobuqu. Ke, ibhunga elithi "Mphose!" Akukho mfuneko yokuba uqaphele njengomqondiso wesenzo, kwaye isigqibo sokwahlula-hlulo kufuneka sithathwe ngokuzimeleyo, sinobunzima obucacileyo "