"I-Poshilovil kwaye yaphosa," "Ekhohlo, engathethi kakuhle," "yanyamalala," "ayiphenduli iminxeba" - abafazi babonakala bebuya. Umgangatho onamandla "ubambe intloko" ebuthathaka njani, ukuba abo baqala ukukholelwa kwinto engekhoyo?
Abafazi abaninzi babandezeleka ngenxa yokuba nothando olungafanelekanga, nokuba bangakuqondi ukuba abaze babathandile abantu, ngenxa yabo balila, banesithukuthezi. Lixesha lokufumanisa amadoda athe qokelela abafazi ukuba abo bathandana nabo ngaphandle kwenkumbulo.Ekuqaleni kufuneka iqondwe ukuba amadoda avela ebuntwaneni ayakhula. Xa besilela kwi-love ngaphambili, baqala ukufumana ubundlobongela okanye ukophula umthetho bonke abafazi. Amadoda amaninzi agqiba kwelokuba angaze athande, kodwa kuphela abameli bobuthathaka besini ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zabo. Oku kuyimfuneko ukwazi ukuba ukusuka kumzuzu wokuqala wokuthandana nokulindela iqhinga kwindoda kwaye ungakholwa uncumo lwakhe.
1. Ithemba
Eyona iyingozi emfazi, kukubonakala kwethemba lokuba le ndoda iyayithanda kwaye ifuna ukuba kunye naye. Ivela njani? Yonke into ilula ngokwaneleyo: Indoda ithembisa umfazi ukuba ufuna ukuva kuye. Unokuvuma uthando, uthethe ngekamva eliqaqambileyo, nkqu nokwakha izicwangciso ezidibeneyo. Nje ukuba umfazi aqalise ukukholelwa kwinto umntu engazange aqaphele kwaye engaboni, ngoko nangoko awela kumgibe wakhe.
2. Uthando
Xa umfazi eqalisa ukuva iimvakalelo ngenxa yomntu, eguqukela kwisidenge, elungele yonke intanda yakhe. Uninzi 'lomelele eli lizwe "liyisebenzisa. Babona ukuba amaqabane acime iingqondo ezinzima kwaye athobele iimvakalelo zabo. Ngoku ungabalawula abafazi abanjalo ukuze benze yonke into abafuna kuyo amadoda.
3. Kuthembela
Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, ngaphandle kokuthemba, musa ukwakha ubudlelwane obuqinileyo. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka ikhokelwe ngumgaqo: Jonga kwaye ubone ukuba umntu wenza ntoni. Awudingi ukubathemba amadoda, kungenjalo baya kuyisebenzisa kuphela. Ifanele iphunyezwe ukucinga ukuba kubi kumntu ozokulandela umntu ukuba akhangele, ahlengahlengise imeko apho umntu azibonakalisa umntu. Umntu akadingi ukuba uthembele, kufuneka azi. Kwaye oku kunokwenzeka kuphela emva kwenani elikhulu kuphela ngokujonga kwalo kwiimeko ezithile. Ngelixa umfazi ethembisayo, iyamfama.
4. Isini
"Ukuba ulungile ebhedini, siya kuhlala ndingaba kunye," Umfazi uyakwazi ukudibanisa ukungahambelani. Isibakala sokuba le ndoda yajika yaba sisithandwa esihle, oko akuthethi ukuba akazami ebhedini nomnye umfazi. Amanenekazi amaninzi aqhubeke ubudlelwane kuphela ngenxa yesondo, ungafumani ukuba amaqabane anokukhusela, asebenze kwizakhono zabo zesondo.
5. Imali
Lowo unemali inamandla. Amadoda abona indlela abafazi abaguqe ngayo kubazi abaziintloko. Ukuba sisityebi emehlweni omfazi akukho nzima: kuyipholise kwi-cafe, ikhwela ngemoto, thenga ingubo yakhe. Umfazi ucinga ukuba wafumana "igolide", nangona indoda ichitha imali eqokelelweyo, eya kuphela kungekudala. Rhoqo, ezo nkampu ezinjalo ziya kuhlala zihleli kumanenekazi abo, zifuna umvuzo ophezulu kubo. Kuyavela, sele umfazi kufuneka anike yonke imali.
Amadoda akhawuleza azive iindawo ezibuthathaka ukuba zibeke uxinzelelo kwaye zilawule abafazi.
Kwaye xa bethwala, banyamalala ngequbuliso, ngaphandle kwento yokuba banokuvuma ukuthanda kunye nokwakha izicwangciso ezidibeneyo zekamva.