Makhe siyinyani esweni: ixhala okanye ixhala endibathanda abantu bambalwa. Ukuba uhlala unexhala malunga nokuba kungenzeka ntoni okanye kungenzeka kwixesha elizayo, ngokungathandabuzekiyo kuyaba noxinzelelo. Ngexesha elibizwa ngokuba yintlekele ephakathi, uxinzelelo luvela phantse bonke abantu.
Isisombululo sayo kwezi ngxaki zimbini ngokwayo sele inzima kakhulu, kodwa ukuba uyadibanisa kunye ... Ke, ukuba ijamelene nenkxalabo ngexesha eliphakathi.1. Iyaqondakala into yokuba imbambano ephakathi iqhelekile
Ngokuqinisekileyo, bambalwa abantu abakhe beva ngovuyo lolonwabo. Ngapha koko, umxholo onjalo njengolonwabo ufundwe kakhulu, kwaye ijika le-U-Deped lavela uninzi lwezi zifundo, kwaye phantse kuwo onke amazwe. Uthi ukonwaba kwabantu kunokwenzeka ukuba ufikelele kwinqanaba elibaluleke kakhulu ngexesha lentlekele ephakathi.
Ingxaki ephakathi-ephakathi ixhaphake kakhulu kunaye nabani na. Ukuqonda oku ngokufudukela kwingcebiso yesibini.
2. Ukwazi ukuba awunguye kuphela olwa njengo
Ukuqala, kuyafuneka ukuba ucinge ukuba yonke inqwelomoya yobomi bakhe. Umzekeliso ubuxoki kwinto yokuba umntu ephethe inqwelomoya ezele ngabakhweli (usapho, abahlobo kunye nabanye abantu babalulekile kuye). Eyona njongo iphambili ye-Pilot kukuba abakhweli bakhe banembono yokuba yonke into iphantsi kolawulo olupheleleyo kwaye yonke into ihamba kakuhle nangokufanelekileyo. Inyani yile yokuba wonke umntu ngabaqhubi beenqwelo moya zabo, kwaye bonke amaxesha ngamaxesha ajongene nengxolo ngexesha lokubaleka.Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba wonke umntu ngabaqhubi beenqwelomoya, kwaye nabani na uzama ukwenza umbono wokuba yonke into iphantsi kolawulo. Kodwa enyanisweni, umqhubi ngamnye uya kujongana nesiphithiphithi emva kweenqwelomoya (ubomi bakhe). Yile nto kanye ebangela i-curve ye-curve yolonwabo. Akukho sidingo sokucinga ukuba yahlukile kuloyiko, nabanye abaqondisi ukubonisa i-alarm yabo kunye nexhala eluntwini.
Kufuneka uyazi ukuba akukho mntu uwedwa kumava akho, kwaye abantu abaninzi kwihlabathi liphela bajamelana neemvakalelo ezifanayo zengxaki ngexesha eliphakathi. Ke ngoko, luncedo ukukuxelela malunga ne-alam yakho ukuba ivale abantu.
3. Musa ukuzithelekisa nomntu "omele ukuba"
Kubaluleke kakhulu. Abanye abantu bachitha ubomi babo bonke, bezama ukuthembeka okulindelweyo kubazali, oontanga, noluntu, njl. Basebenza yonke imihla kwaye ekugqibeleni baziva bengonwabanga.
Kubalulekile ukuyeka ukuzama ukucacisa izinto ezilindelekileyo ezihambelana nokuzonwabisa okanye iinjongo zobomi. Ezo. Kuyimfuneko ukuyeka ukuthelekisa nomntu "omele ukuba", kwaye uqale ukuba ngubani ofuna ukuba ngubani.
4. Fumana into oyifunayo ebomini
Umbuzo "Ufuna ntoni ebomini?" Ixhaphake kakhulu, kwaye i-mpendulo kuyo iyahluka okanye ukudityaniswa kwezi zinto zilandelayo:-Impumelelo; -eva ukuba uyakuthanda; -Ukuba nefuthe elihle; - amathamsanqa.
Kubonakala ngathi konke kuyavakala, kuba abangafuniyo ukuva abathandekayo okanye baphumelele. Kodwa kufanelekile ukubuza, kwaye kutheni ndiyifuna yonke into eyenzekileyo ebomini. Unokuphikisa ukuba wonke umntu uza kuphendula athi: "Ndifuna ukonwaba."
Ngokucacileyo, zonke iinjongo zobomi bethu zikhoyo kuba kukho isizathu sokukholelwa ukuba uya konwaba xa ufihla ngokwenene. Nangona kunjalo, abantu abaninzi abayiqondi into ekufuneka wonwabe xa uzisukela ezi njongo.
Ubomi bufutshane kakhulu ukuba ugxile kuphela ekufezekiseni ulonwabo. Kuya kufuneka uqale ukuthanda into oyenzayo ngoku, kwaye ungaqhubeki kuphela ukuba usebenze "ukuze ufumane" ulonwabo.
5. Phuma kwindawo yokuthuthuzela
Ngokwesiqhelo, xa umntu eyifumana kwimeko enzima, ngaphandle kokukwazi ukubuyela kubomi bakhe obuqhelekileyo, uyaqonda ukuba ufanele ukuba ngubani na into ayifunayo. Kuyinyani xa ucinga ngayo. Kodwa abaninzi bachitha imisebenzi yabo, baqubha nje kuphela. Ababuthandabuzi ukhetho oluzenza ngokwabo, okanye obenzela bona. Bebenganeli nje kwaye bahambe nakweyiphi na indlela apho abaphathi babo, oogxa nabahlobo bafuna ukuba bahambe. Ngenxa yoko, phantse wonke umntu efikelela kwinqanaba, apho abona ukuba oko akwenzileyo, ayisiyonto ayifunayo ukuze uqhubeke.
Kufanelekile ukuzama ukuthatha inyathelo ngaphaya kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela kwaye uzame into engazange yenzeke ngaphambili. Umzekelo, endaweni yokugxila kwikhondo lakho, unokuhlawula ixesha elingakumbi kwi-hobby entsha. Kwaye ungaya kuhambo lweentsuku ezininzi.
6. Ukuba nombulelo ngento esele ikhona
Kuya kufuneka ucinge ngento oyiphumezileyo, kwaye hayi malunga nento ofuna ukuyenza. Kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba kubalulekile ukuba kwenziwe kwaye kukho ebomini wonke umntu. Kuya kufuneka ucinge ngempumelelo yakho, malunga nabantu ohlala nabo, ngobomi obunempembelelo entle. Zonke ezi zinto zizinto ezintle ofuna ukuba zinombulelo. Abantu kunzima ukukholisa. Basoloko befuna okungakumbi, kodwa abakuxabisi oko banako. Oku "ukubawa" kunokuba ngumqobo omkhulu kulonwabo.Elona cebiso lilungileyo liya kugxila kwizinto ezintle ozenzayo xa unexhala malunga nengxaki yakho ephakathi. Kwangelo xesha, akufuneki ulibale ukuba i-piessist ibona izinto ezingalunganga okanye ezibonakalayo kwithuba ngalinye, ngelixa ithemba ithemba libona ithuba kubo bonke ubunzima. Oku kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ugxile kwinto esele ikhona, endaweni yokulahleka.
7. Thatha idayari
Uninzi lukholelwa ukuba iidayari zenzelwe amantombazana amancinci, kodwa kude nendlela. Ulawulo lwedayari luvumela ukuba ufumane okuninzi ngawe kwaye wenze ukuba ikwazi ukuhamba ngcono ngamaxesha anzima.
Kwidayari kufanelekile ukuba ukhathazekile ngento engonwabisiyo, oyifunayo ebomini, indlela yokufezekisa.
Nanini na xa uziva unexhala kwakhona, unokuvula idayari yakho kwaye wongeze iingcinga zamva kule. Okanye unokufunda kwakhona iingcinga zakho ezindala ukuze uqonde ngcono oko kubangela ixhala.
8. Fumana i-psychotherapy
Mhlawumbi eli cebiso lininzi kwaye alilindelanga ukubona apha, kodwa lilula kakhulu. Unyango lunokukunceda ukwazi ukujongana nexhala ngexesha lentlekele ephakathi. Kwaoko kufanelekile ukubhukisha-akukho sidingo soyike ukuya kwi-psychotherapist. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, akukho kuvalwa kwangaphakathi ekuhambeni ugqirha oqhelekileyo xa unesifo sentlungu, kutheni kutheni unexhala lokuya kunyango ngenxa yentlungu yeemvakalelo.
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukuba kufuneka ukhumbule xa ufumana ixhala ngexesha lentlekele ephakathi, iyaziwa ukuba akukho mntu wedwa. Iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ezivalelwayo, ziqhelekile, kwaye abanye abantu abaninzi bajamelana nabo. Kwakhona-kuya kufuneka uyeke ukuthelekisa nabani na ekufuneka ndikufumanisa ukuba yintoni oyifunayo ebomini, phuma kwindawo yokuthuthuzela ithutyana kwaye ugxile kwizinto ezintle kwaye uqalise kwidayari.