Ukufezekisa impumelelo ebomini kwaye uzibonakalise kwelona cala liphezulu, akwanele ukuba nenkangeleko entle kunye nenani elinomtsalane. Ngaphezu koko, ukuba ujonge abafazi abaye baziwa kwaye banokuthi baphumelele ukuba uninzi lwabo alunayo nayiphi na inkangeleko ebalaseleyo okanye inkangeleko enkulu, kodwa ivela kubo bonke amandla athile, abaninzi babizwa ngokuba ngumtsalane okanye i-charsma.
Ibhinqa eline-charsma libonwa kude, akunakwenzeka ukuba ungaqwalaseli. Nje ukuba kubonakale, eyona nto ijikelezileyo ibalulekile kumntu wakhe, nangona imbonakalo yayo isenokubalele. Umfazi onjalo unomdla kwaye unomtsalane, akukho nto inokwenzeka kuyo - yinto eninzi yendalo.
Ngomfazi wokwenene, ndifuna ukunxibelelana kwakhona, kwanabafazi abanqwenela ukuba bayayazi imfihlo yakhe, kodwa enyanisweni ayikho imfihlo enye-ilele ngokwakhe.
Ukuba ngumfazi onomtsalane unokufumana umntu, kufuneka ufuna kakhulu.
Emva kokufunda uninzi lwabafazi abanomtsalane, ungalabela imiqondiso engama-8 ubudala ukuba wonke umntu umanyane:
1. Umfazi onomtsalane akathandabuzi, uhlala eqinisekile ngokungenakuphikiswa.
2. Eyona nto iphambili kumfazi onomtsalane kukuba uhlala eqinisekile ngokwakhe. Sukuyiphazamisa le nto ngentembeko ebuhlungu, i-narcissism, ephawulwa bubuntu obukhulu. Yimvakalelo evuthiweyo nengavakalayo yokuzithemba - uyazi ngokucacileyo ukuba ihamba phi, yintoni kwaye kutheni esenza. Ebantwini abasemntwini, kubonisa umdla kwaye nyani.
3. Ukunxibelelana nomfazi onomtsalane. Abantu bafumana ulwandle lweemvakalelo ezintle, kwaye konke ngenxa yokuba inenekazi elinjalo lihlawuliswayo, lihlala likwindawo egqibeleleyo yoMoya kwaye ilungele ukwabelana ngale nto nge abanye. Kwaye yonke le nto yenzeka yendalo. Umfazi onjalo akakhokeleli incoko ngobunzima, akaxoxanga mntu kwaye akagwetywa.
4. Elo bhinqa elinjalo linokuba nomdla onyanisekileyo kwaye linomdla kwinzondelelo kwibali lokunxibelelana, kwaye ngoku, ngelishwa, olu phawu lunjalo ebantwini lunqabile kakhulu, lubaluleke kakhulu.
5. Umfazi onomtsalane akasayi kuphazamisa umnxibelelanisi- uya kuyiphulaphula kude kube sekupheleni, emva koko uya kugxininisa kwiinkcukacha ezibalulekileyo zencoko, aya kunika icebiso elilumkileyo ukuba iyimfuneko. Kwaye emva koko sixelela ngokwakhe ukuba kufanelekile ukuthetha.
6. Umfanekiso wayo wangaphandle uhlala ucinga ukuba ngoyena mali luphazamisayo - ucocekile kwiingcebiso zezikhonkwane, kodwa ithobekile, eyi-bonton.
7. Ilizwi lomfazi onomtsalane lihle, kuba amadoda ayayazi indlela "yokuthanda izikhwebu."
8. Kwaye inzuzo yayo iphambili kukuba ibonisa ukubandeza abanye. Ungaze ugobe malunga nomntu.