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I-uppy ye-senarnar ihamba njengeSenabernar: Yayiyintsalela enkulu ye-shaggy, ngokumodareyitha ivila, ngokulinganayo. Ukuthetha nabanini bayo bakaSasha noMama, safumanisa ukuba baqala inja kwiinyanga ezimbalwa emva kokuzalwa komntwana.
Indawo ekhatywayo yayihamba nosapho lonke. UMasha wayezibandakanya kwiqela, uSasha - emnye nomntwana ezandleni zakhe - walandela wagxeka inkosikazi yakhe. Intsana yakhe yaphulaphula ngcono kakhulu, kodwa iqabane lakho lalikholelwa ukuba le yayizi ukuba i-Mama ifanele ibandakanyeke kwindawo yokudlala kunye nenja ...
Xa inja ehle, kodwa inja engqongqo yazaliseka unyaka, kwindlela awaziphatha ngayo yayinomkhwa omnye ongathandekiyo - wawungamniki inyathelo le-hostess kunye nenyathelo, betsiba. Kwakufuneka banyamezele, ndabaxabisa, ndibatyelele, ndakhawuleza ndaya nomhlala phantsi: ndithetha njengomphandi, wavuya ukubeka inja yomnye umntu. Ngoku ndiyacinga ukuba alilize. Ukusukela ngelo xesha uSenarnar wayenobunzima obungama-65 kg, uMama wahamba zonke ezinqamlezekile, kodwa akanakwenza nto.
Uzamile ukujongana ne-PA, wamthabathela kwimilenze yakhe yasemva, kodwa engazange ancede, okanye akhokelele kwinto yokuba waqala ukukhula, kwaye uMama wayekhetha ukuphepha inja. Phambi komyeni wakhe, akukho nto injalo enjalo. Ke kaloku uSasha wakukholelwa ukuba umkava, uyaxoka, kuba efuna ukususa inja, ngokokwesibini, azilimayo i-Ps. Ngeli xesha, kwangelo xesha, kwafuneka ukuba amaShasi kwakufuneka achithe iintsuku zakho kunye nesilwanyana kwaye amthathe naye ekuhambeni nomntwana, kuba, ukuhlala wedwa ifanitshala ebotshwe ifanitshala ...
Xa umniniyo ephuma, wahlala nehosteless
Andazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba yeyiphi isizathu, kodwa amaqabane aqhekekileyo. Umyeni wayesele entsatsheni, kwaye inja yahlala neMasha. Ekuqaleni wayefuna ukuyiyeka, kodwa kwavela ukuba nzima ukwenza: inja enkulu enkulu ayilula ukunamathisela. Ekuphumeleleni kwakhe, akuzange kube kudala ukuthumela iSenabernar kubahlobo, apho igcinwe khona.
Ukunyanzelwa (njengoko wayecinga - okwethutyana) uyaqhubeka nokukhathalela inja, uMama waqala ukuphatha inja efuna ngakumbi inja, kwaye, nje, ukuba atshixe kwelinye lamagumbi. Ngapha koko, kwafuneka abuyele emsebenzini, kwaye inja idla ngokuqheleka ukuhlala ekhaya yedwa.
Kwiinyanga ezine kamva, uMama wagqiba kwelokuba ashiye inja ekhaya. Kwaye ngokungalindelekanga, umyeni wanqwenela ukubuya. Ukubona umniniyo, inja, engaze ayibambe i-hostess, agalele i-sasha. Ngesiquphe sakubona endaweni yentlonipho yesiqhelo yenja enkulu ephelileyo kwaye ... igcinwe. I-Seenbar yammba kancinci, emva koko nduluka, kodwa yaqala ukulandela uSasha engapheliyo, ihleli inxila. Inja yakhawuleza yaya kumnini xa wazama ukulala kwisofa.
Imeko yayiyintlekele: USasha kwafuneka alale kumgangatho we-Mat. Yonke into igqitywe kumlo: Ukulunywa yinja, uSasha wambeka ngemilenze kwaye eqinile, kwaye wahlukana, oncancisayo kwaye ukuthuka kwaye ukuthutha kunye nokuthuka. I-Mama yayekisa inxeba lomyeni wakhe kwaye lakhwaza inja. Ngethamsanqa, umntwana ngeli xesha wayenogogo. Emva kokuba umlo owenzekileyo, ungquzulwano phakathi kukaSasha kunye nenja yaphelelwa ngamandla, kwaye akazange abonakalise.
Kweneke ntoni?
Sithethe ngale meko nge-psychologist viited vitalyvnoy nekrovna. Uye wanikela ingqalelo ikakhulu kwinto yokuba uSasha wathenga inja kwiinyanga nje ezimbalwa emva kokuzalwa komntwana:
"Wonke umntu uyayazi indlela abatya ngayo abazali abantwana babo abancinci boyika: usulelo, imfuneko yokuphantswa icocekile icocekile, ithintele abafowunelwa bomntwana kunye nezinye izilwanyana ezizenziwe ngabantu abadala.
Kodwa uSasha, ngokucacileyo, akazange abe nenxaxheba xa ekhathalela umntwana, akazange athathe uxanduva kuye, anemfanekiselo, efumene ingqalelo engaphantsi kumfazi wakhe ngeli xesha kwaye ke wayefuna ukufumana inja. Mhlawumbi wayenethemba lokuba kuya kumphazamisa kwimvakalelo yokuba netyala ngaphambi kokuba ithandazeke kuye, kwaye mhlawumbi iyakuthanda ... Abanye babantwana ngaphandle kokuhlalutya uphuhliso yeziganeko. Akwaziwa ukuba i-mama iyachasa le nto, kodwa, ukugweba ngokuphuhliswa kwembali, ke ayizange ixhathise. "
I-Puppy, ngokuqinisekileyo, ayisiyomntwana womntu. Ingxaki kuphela kukuba akazazi ngayo. Uthengwa kwelo xesha xa umama oyamokondla ngobisi, kodwa usesempilweni lomzali kumalungelo e-Cub.
Ukufumana usapho lwabanini bamatsha, ubonakalisa izenzo zokuziphatha kwabantwana: Ukuzithoba, ukuzama ukulandela abantu abaqhelene naye kwaye kuzama ukufezekisa ngokungxamisekileyo komzimba kulomntu. Umnini, nayo, ondle injana, uxhalela intuthuzelo yakhe nobunyulu, uyaxabana ukuya iminxeba zomntwana futhi imivumbo kumaxesha ngamaxesha, oko kukuthi, iya kwi Kusenjalo enye inja yenja.
Kwintsapho, apho injana kunye nomntwana zivela phantse kwangaxeshanye, iimfuno zabantwana zihlala zigquma, kuba zifuna phantse kwinto enye. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba izinja zomntu zidla ngokubotshwa ngokuqinileyo omnye komnye, kodwa abantu abadala banqabile ukuphepha amabango anjenge "Puppy yakho", "umntwana wakho".
Le milenze inemilenze ngokulula ifundwe ngolwimi lomzimba womntu kwaye izame ukuhlala ngaphandle kwabanini-ntsapho abakhusela-uninzi lungudadewethu omncinci womfazi wakhe okanye umyeni wakhe kuphela, indoda kuphela. Kodwa iimbambano zithathelwa indawo ngoxolelwaniso - iindwendwe zidityanisiwe, kwaye inja iphela imele ukuba "ayifanelekanga." Oko kwaye imeko yokutshintsha kokuziphatha komnini-qabane iyenza i-PA ivakalelwa kukuba uhlala kwihlabathi elingalindelekanga. Kuyakhuthaza ukukhutshwa kwendlela yokuziphatha kwengxaki kwinjana, kodwa kwimeko ye-Senarnar, indlela ecothayo, enobuthathaka kakhulu ebuthathaka kakhulu imasters.
V.v. Nekrylova:
- Qwalasela isiqephu apho utata omncinci abekwe kumntwana oqeqesha ngomntwana ezingalweni zakhe, kwaye umama oselula ubandakanyeke kuqeqesho lwenja. Ukusuka ecaleni kwento ijonge ngandlel 'ithile, kuba umfanekiso onobungqineka kakhulu uya kujonga ngokuchaseneyo: Umama ubandakanyeka emntwaneni, kwaye uTata - ukunxiba ... ndinokugxeka Umfazi wam kakhulu, ebonakalisa ukumka kwam kwaye ndiyavuma. Ewe, uSasha wathi wayefuna injana ukuba imamele kunye neMama, kodwa masingalibali ukuba kwangaxeshanye wayesazi kwaye waziva ukuba inja inyule umniniyo. Yonke enye into eyenzeka kuphela ukwandisa ukuzithemba kwabo phambi kwabo.
Injana yale meko yabona umnini okhwaza kwaye ngenzondelelo ephethe le hostess. Inja ayala ukuthobela i-Masha, yandenza umsindo kwiqabane lakhe, yahlala kwakhona kumfazi wayo, yaye wathoba izandla zakhe. Ke, umniniyo ukhuthaze umntwana ukuba axhathise umhlobi, ngenxa yokuba ukusuka kwimbono yenja, lowo wakufuna ukuthobela inja wohlwaywa, engazithandiyo.
Ukuba uSasha wayefuna inja ukuba imamele i-masha naye, wayezakopela amaqela - weza emva kwexesha wabafuna ukuba kwinjana. Okanye akazange ave eklasini, ukuba bendifuna inja iphule imama kwi-masha xa ingekho. Izinja zisisidenge: I-Seenber iya kukhawuleza iyaqonda ukuba, ngubani onokubanika iqela kubanini, kuya kufuneka athobele.
V.v. Nekrylova:
- Ngabangela ukuthandabuza ukuba uSasha wayekholelwa ngokunyaniseka ngokunyaniseka, ethetha ngokungaziphathi kakuhle kwenja engazange ayikhuphe kuphela ukungahambi kakuhle, kodwa nomonakalo womzimba. Ngapha koko, akakwazanga ukuzifihla amatyumke kunye ne-abrasions, enikela ingqalelo ekukhathazayo. Konke oku kuphinda kuqinisekisile ukuthandabuza i-SASHA ukutshintsha imeko. Ukuyigcina, wagcina ukuphakama kwakhe. Kwaye inja ivile, kwaye umfazi wabandezeleka, engakwazi ukujamelana nenja!
I-SADKKa kubanini yenza izinja ezininzi, kwaye yonke into oyifunayo ikwazi ukujongana nale ngxaki, lixesha lonke lokuba ubanqamle. Imasha ingenamandla ngokwasemzimbeni ukuba angenise indlela yokuziphatha ye-psa kwisakhelo esithile. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, isilwanyana esibambe kwikhola kunye ne-leash okanye kwindawo engekhoyo kuphela esitratweni, kodwa nasekhaya- ke sinobuthathaka emzimbeni (umzekelo, umniniyo) onamandla okugcina inja.
Njengesithuba sokugqibela esithengwayo kwaye sifake ilungelo lendawo yokuhlala kwaye sifake ilungelo kwindlu, ilokwe yelyt-ngokuthe ngcembe inja inokuba likhoboka lokuhlala lithule kwi-avidir kwiiyure ezimbalwa. Nokuba sisibakala esinye sokuba ihostele ithatha isigqibo, ukuya kwisilwanyana ecaleni kwakhe kwigumbi okanye hayi, iyenza intembele ngakumbi ekunxibelelaneni nezilwanyana, kwaye iinyembezi zithobela. Inja evela kakhulu kwihambo yakhe iyavuma ukwala-ukuba nje ubelane kumnini.
Ewe, kwimeko yale senibernar ekhankanywe apha ngasentla, i-cage yaba ngumkhwa owoyikekayo wenja esebenzayo, ethi, kubandakanya ukungasebenzi kakuhle esitratweni, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, umfazi wayehamba nomntwana omncinci osoloko efuna ingqalelo.
V.v. Nekrylova:
- Ngokwemvelo, ungquzulwano lukhokelela ekubeni luhlulwe. Kuyenzeka ukuba umntu obhinqileyo anotyekelo lweMasochist kwaye unokuyinyamezela ngakumbi, kodwa uMama wayenolunye uhlobo lobuntu. Umyeni waphinda wabangela ngegama, eshiya inkosikazi yakhe kwimeko enzima nenja engathandekiyo kunye nomntwana omncinci. Wazisusa kwiintsapho zobomi. UMasha kwafuneka aphile, kwaye uyenzile ngempumelelo. Ekuqaleni, andikhe ndangenisa uphazamiso olungaqhelekanga ngexesha lobomi-inja, ndafumana umsebenzi. UMasha waziva eqinisekile ukuba kubonakalisiwe kubudlelwane ne-sengernar.
Ukuba umyeni ubuyile iinyanga ezinesiqingatha, wayengayifumani naluphi na utshintsho kwiSt. Bernard. Kodwa uSasha wayengekho ixesha elide, ngeli xesha usapho lwayo lutshintshiwe. Xa ebuyayo, i-Senbernar iyiqonda njengokuhlaselwa kwabaphambukeli, umntu ongamaziyo. Kwakhona emhlambi wezinja uqonda isilwanyana, ngaphambili ilungu leqela, emva koko wayishiya ixesha elide.
Ukuba uSasha waguqukela kwingcali, wayemcebisa ukuba athabathe i-psa ukuba ahambe epakini yeyure kwababini okanye ezintathu. Kuya kunceda ukumisela ubudlelwane kunye ne-Senarnar Anew, iyayenza impixano kwaye ingazisanga tyala. Epakini, apho umniniyo elunge ngakumbi, inja kufuneka ilandele, kwaye imbambano icombulule ngakumbi okanye engaphantsi koxolo nangokuzola.
Endlwini, entlokweni, ezo zinto zinemilenze iphinde ithathelwe ingqalelo kwimbambano phakathi kwamaqabane - ukuphazamiseka kuka-Nas ngeloxesha xa inja ikhula kwindoda yakhe, imizamo yakhe yokulinganisa Emva kokuba umlo waphinda wabeka i-sengernar esipilini, kodwa yonke into esele iguqukile ngaphambili. Emva komlo wokulwa ngokucacileyo, inja idlula kwifihliweyo, kwaye ihamba kancinci ingafezekiswa ukuba uya kuphinda abe yinja yosapho, ethandana nababini.
V.v. Nekrylova:
- Ukubuya komyeni womyeni wakhe kule meko akusosiphelo sonwabile kweli bali. Ndinokucinga ukuba imizamo yokuzikhethela ngokwasekhaya ye-sasha iya kuqhubeka. Umbuzo uphakama: Uya kuphendula njani uMama kule? Ndicinga ukuba iya kuxhomekeka kwizinto ezininzi: Itshintsha malini ngeli xesha, kude kuse ekuzinzeni kwakhe kwaye kukuthanda uSasha uyayithanda intsapho yakhe ukuze, ekugqibeleni, athabathe uxanduva?
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