Umsebenzisi we-Intanethi usetyenziselwa ukukholelwa kwi-psychology. Ubuncinci kwelona nqanaba ngokubanzi. Uninzi lwethu, ngaphandle kokuqhwanyaza ngeliso, sebenzisa amagama-i-gablang, i-stockholm syndrome, i-stockholm syndrome, i-stoctholm ye-onible ... kodwa ulwazi oluyinyani luhlala lwenziwe lula ngaphambi kokuba ilahlekelwe zizinto ezibaluleke kakhulu. Le wengqondo Pavel Zyggmantovich usixelela ukuba kwenzeka njani na amanqanaba ezintlanu uqhushululu.
Eli nqaku linikezelwe kumava osizi kwaye, mhlawumbi, ndilusizi. Into oyivileyo ngamanqanaba amava asentlungwini, ukuyibeka ngobumnene, hayi esiphelweni ihambelana nenyani.
Ke masiqale ekuqaleni. Kuninzi apho kubhaliweyo kwi-Intanethi ukuba, kujamelene nentlungu (ilahleko okanye, umzekelo, ulwazi malunga nesifo esinganyangekiyo), umntu uhlala ephila izigaba ezintlanu:
1. Ukukhanyela (le yimpazamo, oku akuzange kwenzeke, into yonke into iphosakele) 2. Ingqumbo (Yiyo yonke le nto ngenxa yakho, unetyala ngelixa wonwabile apha, ndinentlungu) .3. Bargaining (ukuba wenze into ethile, ngoko le meko iya kuphucuka, kufuneka nje ukuba ufuna nangokuchanekileyo "Uyavuma"). Ezine. Uxinzelelo (yonke into iyoyikeka, yonke into imbi, imeko yethemba) .5. Acceptance (Andikwazi ukulungisa nantoni niqonde ukuba oku kunjalo, mna andiziva namandla kukududuzela kulo)
Kwaye abaninzi kwabonakala ngathi yayinjalo. Ewe, kuba ihlala yenzeka rhoqo ukuba umntu ojamelene naye, uthi, Neendaba "Unesifo esinganyangekiyo," into yokuqala ayikholelwa kuyo. Uthi, bathi, Ugqirha uyimpazamo, jonga kwakhona. Uya kwabanye ogqirha, uviwo olunye lwenzeka kwelinye, ngethemba lokuva ukuba uLekari odlulileyo akaphazami. Emva koko, umntu uqala ukuba nomsindo koogqirha, emva koko ajonge iindlela zokuphilisa ("bendiqonda, bendigula"), xa nditshoyo kwaye ndijonga kwisilingi, kwaye ngoko uxinezeleko passes, umntu abanomnqweno na imeko yakhe uqala ukuphila kwi imeko yangoku.
Kubonakala ngathi, i-Kübler-ross ichaze yonke into ngokuchanekileyo. Yile nto nje, inkcazo yayingamava obuqu, kwaye akukho nto. Amava obuqu ngumncedisi ombi kakhulu kuphando.
Okwesibini, zininzi ezinye izinto ezigqwethekileyo zengqondo ezingavumeli ukwenza isigqibo senjongo malunga nento kuphela kwisigqibo sabo esekwe kumava. Ukuze wenze into eninzi enzima kwaye ngokungathi yimisebenzi engafunekiyo kuphando lwabo.
Kübler-Ross akenzanga misebenzi ezinjalo, isiphumo Rosental akazange Susa kwaye ngenxa yoko wafumana scheme elibhekisela kuyo yokwenene inxalenye kuphela.
Ewe, kwenzeka ukuba umntu aqhubela phambili la manqanaba mahlanu, kwaye kulandelelwano olunjalo. Kwaye kwenzeka ukuba ngokuchaseneyo. Kwaye kwenzeka ukuba kuphela kwezi nqanaba zihamba kwaye ngokubanzi kulandelelwano lwe-chatatac.
Ngendlela, isifundo seDipnikis kufuneka siziswe enye ingcinga-ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba sithethe malunga nokujonga amava ngokubanzi, ukuba abantu baye bathobekile kwasekuqalekeni, ngaphandle kwamanye amanqanaba eKübler-Ross? Mhlawumbi akukho zigaba, kodwa ke iintlobo amava, ezo esingenanto bodwa kwaphela? Umbuzo ...
Kolunye uphononongo lwaluboniswa ukuba, okokuqala, kukho abantu abangazange barhoxe ngelahleko. Kwaye, okwesibini, ukuba "inqanaba ukuthobeka" kuxhomekeke, ukuquka ukusuka imibuzo umphandi (hello ifuthe Rosentyl).
Ngokubanzi, amava yelahleko kunye / okanye intlungu na iimeko kakhulu kwaye kuxhomekeke ezininzi kakhulu - ngokukhawuleza, inqanaba yonxulumano, kwimeko eqhelekileyo yenkcubeko abaninzi ngakumbi, abaninzi, yaye baninzi, yaye abaninzi. Akunakwenzeka ukuba ubeke zonke ngenkqubo enye. Ngokufanelekileyo, kunokwenzeka ukuba uza nesikhumba kwaye uphephe ukuqinisekisa ngezikim zophando.
Ngendlela, ukuba Kübler-Ross ngokwayo wabhala ukuba amanqanaba babe nolwazi ngendlela nezidubedube phezu kwabo, ukongeza, unako unamathele ixesha elingenammiselo .... Kodwa oku kuyasibuyisela kwakhona kumbuzo - Ngaba kukhona amanqanaba kwaphela? Mhlawumbi kukho iindlela nje zokuphila kunye nenyani azinxulunyaniswa nesikimu kunye / okanye ngokulandelelana?
Siza kuthetha ngombuzo onjalo - kutheni le le nto ikhutshelwe i-Kübler-ross, engafezekanga kwaye ingavakali, yamkelwe ngokubhiyozela? Ndingacinga kuphela.
Eyona nto inokwenzeka, imeko kukuhenyulwa kokufikeleleka. Luluphi uhambo lokufikeleleka (eng. Ukufumaneka kwe-heiris)? Le inkqubo yovavanyo apho kwingongoma nganye nokuchaneka akukho ukuthotyelwa zonke izibakala, kodwa lula iinkumbulo. Into endayikhumbula ngokomgama iyinyani. Icebo Kübler-Ross yenza kube lula ukuba ukukhumbula amatyala ukusuka ebomini bakho, ukusuka eshukumayo, ukususela amabali zabahlobo kunye nakwabo basenyongweni. Ke ngoko, kubonakala ngathi ichanekile.
Ngaba kukho ingeniso kwiskimu seClessr-ross? Ewe ilapho. Ukuba umntu enegunya kuthi ukuba kuya kuba ngolu hlobo, imeko yakhe (mhlawumbi!) Phucula. Ingcaciso, kuyenzeka, kuvelise impembelelo yomlingo. Kukho abantu abathole xa besazi ukuba balinde, ngaphandle kokungakhathali okanye ukungalunganga kwezakhiwo ezizayo. Kwakhona, umntu abo nemoto intlungu unakho (mhlawumbi!) Fumana uncedo ukuba uyazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kuye.
Ngoko ungasebenzisa inkqubo kubomi bemihla ngemihla, kodwa akukho mfuneko yokuba ithandwe futhi Khipha lowo jikelele. Ukusuka koku unokuyenzakalisa ngaphezulu kokulungileyo.
Shwankathela. Icebo Kübler-Ross ayisa kuqinisekisiwe, ezithatyathwe amava ngayo umbhali, owathi, ngokwenkcazelo, akukho anesizathu. Esi sikimu asisiyonto iphela, ayisebenzi kubo bonke abantu kwaye kude kuzo zonke iimeko. Esi sikimu sinokusetyenziswa okuncinci, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha inkqubo inokusetyenziswa. Esi sikimu sinokwenzakalisa ebonakalayo, kwaye kungcono ukungalufumanisi iskimu.
Kwaye ndinayo yonke into, enkosi ngengqwalaselo yakho.
Umthombo: IPiel Phoel ZyigmanTanOvich Iphepha